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sbjb123 -> Question? (12/15/2004 10:53:05 PM)
Hi i'm new to all of this and have gone through alot of profiles. I found one that basicall said that not interested in any one as far as sex. Now I realise that there is more to this life style than sex It's a whole world on to it self, but sex is a part of it! Isn't it? It seem to me that if any one is here for sex and the happiness and or release it brings is wrong? Understanding? I mean me? To understand! Yes, I'm defently looking for sex in what ever perverted ( to the out side world ) way that I can find it! But not just sex! In this time in my life sex is more than the phisical! It's the mind along with the body? Not enought!! Am i wrong in thinking this way? Help!

MystressAna -> RE: Question? (12/16/2004 12:38:19 AM)
You are not wrong in needing what you need. Nor is the individual who does not want sex. Each of you have different needs. The most that can be said is that the two of you are probably not compatible. Their needs do not reflect on you nor yours on them. Ana

MistressFire70 -> RE: Question? (12/16/2004 8:26:37 AM)
It's all about being a good match. If sex is an important factor for you, then the profile you read isn't a good match. There's nothing wrong in needed what you need and looking for it. Fire Who is betting that it's HER profile that was read! [;)]

MaitresseEden -> RE: Question? (12/16/2004 10:27:46 AM)
Sex is an intregral part of BDSM for me. If I can be lovers with my submissive, I find I am quickly bored and have no desire for anything long term or committed. It is all about balancing real life with kinky life, and the ability to fit in both is crucial.. not to mention a whole lot healthier! Ms. Eden

BeachMystress -> RE: Question? (12/17/2004 2:36:56 PM)
For me, not all BDSM involves sex. I am a hetro female, but I have no problems topping a woman. That is power, not sex. I do find all BDSM I'm involved with erotic. My preference is for my sub to be my lover. Not all men are worthy of being my lover so I often will be non sexual with a sub for several months before determining if they are worth my body. There have been two times I've know a sub was worthy of all of me from the very beginning; but usually I'll hold back for a trial period. BDSM turns me on a LOT. At the end of a session I want to f*k someone. Fingers, tongue and such aren't going to do it. I want penetrative sex. When a man hasn't met my criteria for having sex with him, I'll put him in a strap on and have him pleasure me with it. (Last guy I did that to cried. I'd not understood dacrophilla before that. evil grin*)

alwayzron -> RE: Question? (12/17/2004 2:45:09 PM)
I spent a Saturday once shopping for light fixtures with my Domme and then hanging them for her ~ all w/o any promise of play time. I enjoy spending "vanilla time" with a Domme, because it makes the "play time" even better ... imho. Plus ... it's fun to escort her in public, opening her doors, carrying her bags, walking slightly behind her, etc, etc. All very submissive activities that the world thinks of as just "gentlemanly"! [:D]

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