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New - What Do I Do? - 12/16/2004 4:28:57 AM   
daddysnaughtygir


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Joined: 12/14/2004
Status: offline 		Recently out of my fantasy closet (for the last few days), and don't know where to go. A bit confused as I don't, from what I read, appear to fit the typical sub profile. I'm into ageplay (the daddy's naughty girl thing, needing to be punished - preferably spankings of all kinds and other creative discipline, but no whips, chains, or blood, while also needing to please daddy), but am submissive as well, and someone I met online said that this was not possible. I know there must be other people who are out there experiencing the same kind of sarcasm, and sometimes laughter when you enter a room asking for help, and for someone to point you in the right direction. I'm well educated, and have a master's in psychology, so I know it's not pathology, so-to-speak, past a fetish, that is. Any ideas?
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RE: New - What Do I Do? - 12/16/2004 5:03:08 AM   
BRANCH17


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Joined: 5/10/2004
Status: offline 		Not too worry. You're in the right place , for beginning. No one in here should make sport of your dilemna. Age play is not excluded from the realm of D/s. Far from it. There is no need for sarcasm from anyone in a bdsm room. Some are just more sarcastic, period!! Again Castlerealm is a starting point for learning the 'basics', and finding out that you're not alone in your quest.

BTW, there IS no typical sub profile., just as there is no typical 'human' profile. We are and what we are........and allow ourselves to be. Best of luck!!!!!!!

SIR DAVID

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RE: New - What Do I Do? - 12/16/2004 5:42:17 AM   
westside


Posts: 121
Joined: 1/28/2004
Status: offline 		Welcome, Naughty Girl.

What to do? Look around, read the boards, ask questions, enjoy the chats. We were all new once and went throught the very same things.

Wes

PS As in life, ignore the idiots.


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RE: New - What Do I Do? - 12/16/2004 7:32:17 AM   
INSIDEYOURMIND


Posts: 483
Status: offline 		Welcome to the wonderful world of BDSM!

You are getting great advice, become a sponge, there is incredible information on this site, and others like it. Do not rely completely on "online" sources, get out, go to munches, talk to people that are living it for real, and take everyone's thoughts and ideas and use them to help decide for yourself where you fit in.

Do not get hung up on labels, you are who and what you want to be, use your insticnts, and asks tons of questions, if something seems hinky, it most likely is.

Most of all, have fun!



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RE: New - What Do I Do? - 12/16/2004 7:32:24 AM   
siamsa24


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What to do? Look around, read the boards, ask questions, enjoy the chats. We were all new once and went throught the very same things.

Wes

PS As in life, ignore the idiots.


This is excellent advice. On a personal level, if you would live specific adivice or help please e-mail me on the other side and I will be happy to help.

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RE: New - What Do I Do? - 12/16/2004 7:35:07 AM   
OrientalMistress


Posts: 34
Joined: 11/7/2004
Status: offline 		My dear one,

Do not allow those who "think" they are in control of the world's wealth of knowledge on Our lifestyle to cause you any grief. I have been taught and have found through decades of experience that there are not only different types of submissives but different types of Dominants as well.

The oriental philosophy to which I adhere teaches that there are seven {some would say nine} levels of each...levels that are not progressive, but levels that are parallel in which one progresses...but normally, if they have been categorized properly, never leaves.

One of its' main tenets teaches that the Dominant and the subordinate are two parts of the same whole fit together to form the sphere of relationship, much as the Yin {good} and Yang {evil} form the sphere of life itself. My teaching says that the good Domme works together with the submisseve to the good of that whole.

It is altogether possible, as you know, to enjoy ageplay and spanking without any desire for "whips, chains, or blood(letting)" ... I would though encourage you to try a handheld flogger...for it can be used to produce both pleasure...as well as light or moderate pain.

Still, in My poor opinion, pain is used for discipline and/or as a precursor to pleasure, never just to please the Dominant or to satisfy the craving of the submissive. And I know there are many who will seek to challenge Me on that statement...still it is true for Myself and those who serve Me.

I hope this helps.... Do not hesitate to write Me if you wish more.

Oriental Mistress

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RE: New - What Do I Do? - 12/16/2004 8:39:52 AM   
MistressFire70


Posts: 378
Joined: 7/25/2004
From: North Carolina
Status: offline 		Whomever said that being "Daddy's little girl" isn't possible is full of shit. I know plenty of "littles". One couple is the Southeast Master and slave 2004. Daddy/boy relationships have been prevelant in the gay kink society for many years.

Put in your profile that you are looking for a Daddy (I'm assuming het male). Until then, here are some resources about Daddy/girl and age play relationships. Some are gay and lesbian oriented, but I'm sure you can cope. Note: I haven't read all of them, so I really don't know if they're good or not. This is what showed up when I did a google search! I did try to weed out the porn.

http://gloria-brame.com/diflove/dykedad.html
http://gloria-brame.com/kinkylinks/ageplay.html
http://www.livejournal.com/community/ageplay/
http://www.bloodinmoonlight.com/lgl/
http://www.vanilla-not.com/basics/daddydom.html
http://www.gettingit.com/article/418

Hope this helps.

Fire
A Dominant little who always gets her way and is NEVER punished.

< Message edited by MistressFire70 -- 12/16/2004 8:20:08 PM >

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RE: New - What Do I Do? - 12/16/2004 2:55:53 PM   
CloudThrasher


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Joined: 7/31/2004
From: NW Washington
Status: offline 		First of all, I'd say that this "someone" has a great many misconceptions: that is, if "someone" isn't really merely an online wannabe. I would suggest that you dispense with thinking in terms of labels like Dom and submissive. You are who you are, and you're desires and needs are as valid as another's. The trap that too many fall into is letting others define for them who they are: e.g., what it means to be a true submissive. We are all human, and, so, the ways we define ourselves and our relationships are as varied the grains of sand on a beach. I believe you'll find the answers to your questions within your heart and soul. Look there, and don't let determine your needs.


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"Your pain is the breaking of the shell
that encloses your understanding. Even as
the stone of the fruit must break, that its
heart may stand in the sun, so must
you know pain." -- Khalil Gibran, The Prophet

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RE: New - What Do I Do? - 12/17/2004 1:07:10 AM   
houndguy


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Joined: 6/27/2004
From: Pittsburgh, PA - USA
Status: offline 		I agree 100% with what has been said so far.

There are some great sources of information out there that will help you find your way. And I wouldn't get caught up in terms, just because your not meeting someone's expectations of what a "sub" is. They may not meet your defination of what a "Dom" is.


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RE: New - What Do I Do? - 12/17/2004 1:05:51 PM   
wetrope


Posts: 117
Joined: 8/9/2004
From: GATINEAU, PQ
Status: offline 		Well speaking for the elder generation of one, its a pleasure to be a daddy to a little girl, with pigtails, pokadots, a kilt, and a bright faced smile, probably bold with a playful attitude, gets my own kilt wishing they had a metal purse instead of that slim little leather one, to hide my hmmmm excitement. I met a young lady and we had so much fun, she was the most adorable little girl, playful, bold, needing an ever so welcome paddling, well I almost lost it.

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RE: New - What Do I Do? - 12/17/2004 2:49:15 PM   
hotlips862


Posts: 4
Joined: 8/16/2004
Status: offline 		Why is that there is always the people out there that would lend a hand to cause more confusion. Of course you have a place in the lifestyle and many before you with similiar desires. My Master has taught me that being a Master is also understanding your sub. Some such as myself desire pain others desire the saisfaction that comes from serving, still others such as yourself from the role playing. Be honest with those you deal with. Find someone like my Master that will learn you and hear you. and as the others have said read, listen and ask questions. If i or Master can help you let us know.

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RE: New - What Do I Do? - 12/17/2004 4:23:48 PM   
MC2044


Posts: 31
Joined: 8/8/2004
Status: offline 		you are not alone. Many subs have a similar fantasy, and why not. What could be better than unconditional love with a loving but firm hand upon your bottom.

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RE: New - What Do I Do? - 12/22/2004 8:20:48 PM   
subcheryl


Posts: 280
Joined: 11/2/2004
Status: offline 		Hi I can sympathize with you on being new and trying to figure out where exactly you fit into the lifestyle, am fairly new myself about 2-3 mths sense I figured out what was missing in my life. Have had a discipline dom most of that time we meet 2 time a month as is able and the more I get to know him the more of a daddy he is to me, in fact our last session I stomp my feet at him and yelled and he only laughed and chuckled and told me I was cute! But I see myself as a sub but have been labeled as a slave, which to me the more submissive you become, the more slave-like you become, in some sense of the term ,but that is my opionion, and yes there will be those who will try to tell you things, have had my share and some are good and some just don't make sense for me. Read alot on castlerealm and mostly on here and have learned alot ,but as with all reading you have to take what feels comfortable for you and go with it ,if not sure ,seek out more info. and yes all here seem to be very giving in honest opionions and sharing experiences, and for that I appreciate this site thanks to you all.

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RE: New - What Do I Do? - 12/22/2004 9:41:03 PM   
topcat


Posts: 1675
Joined: 1/31/2004
From: Tidewater, VA
Status: offline 		Midear 'girl-

First thing you must know is-

There is no scene.

It is a myth.

'the scene' begins and ends, for all of us that do this stuff, within our own heads. If we are really lucky, we may find someone whose 'scene' dovetails with ours, or a least is a good enough fit that we can get past the rough edges.

your scene is what ever you want it to be.

Stay warm,
Lawrence

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RE: New - What Do I Do? - 12/22/2004 10:36:31 PM   
SeanPaulDeSade


Posts: 1
Joined: 12/16/2004
From: The Wilds of Missouri
Status: offline 		I have had a daughter. It was quite amazing, we sort of just fell into it. The woman involved lived in Japan, and we found each other. Time passed, things grew. It finally came time for her to return to the states, where she found her Daddy. It was quite nice being able to help this woman realize herself and grow. Only hard thing is parting.

SPDS

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RE: New - What Do I Do? - 12/23/2004 9:44:05 PM   
Kinkypupper


Posts: 713
Joined: 9/26/2004
From: Portland oregon
Status: offline 		ANY sarcasum will only come from the "wannabes" who are here trolling for a quick fuck.

Just be yourself.. and Yes this is the right place to start lil one.

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A Sensual Touch
Locopony Racing
Portland Oregon

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