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What do you look for in a profile? - 1/19/2004 6:36:06 PM

DarkQuin

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I have a question for the female subs and slaves on this site:

"What do you look for in a male dominant's profile and why?

Quin

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RE: What do you look for in a profile? - 1/19/2004 6:53:20 PM

EStrict

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::Smile:: well Sir, you know I like your profile. Honestly, as my profile says, I look for intelligent people to chat with.

I have a habit of reading profiles, and sending polite notes when I see typo's. Why? Because, on here, your profile or post is the first introduction someone has. And as the old saying goes, first impressions count. I never hold it against someone for typo's and such in chat rooms. I am dyslexic myself. But I always try to proof or run spell check on posts or new profiles.

The thing I look for least was mentioned in another post. If I click on a name and see nothing but cock, I won't even take the time to read the profile, as I already know which *head* is speaking.

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RE: What do you look for in a profile? - 1/19/2004 7:17:17 PM

DarkQuin

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Thank you Sandy for your reply. It's true these profiles are not only an online introduction of ourselves but also an insight to our personalities.

~Quin

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RE: What do you look for in a profile? - 1/27/2004 10:45:30 AM

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INTELLIGENCE!!! and PERSONALITY!!! and HONESTY!!! and HEART!!! but most of all...SOUL!!!

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RE: What do you look for in a profile? - 1/27/2004 11:23:06 AM

DarkQuin

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Ok, how do you show such things as soul and heart in your procile?

Quin

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RE: What do you look for in a profile? - 1/27/2004 1:03:30 PM

ShadowHwk

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkQuin

Ok, how do you show such things as soul and heart in your procile?

Quin

First you learn how to spell "profile" - *laugh*

You reach inside and describe, with as much honesty as you can muster, what it is you seek, what it is you really need. Tell about your interests, your hobbies, and your passions. You cannot be all things to everyone, so don’t even try. Be honest, be yourself, because in the end the truth will come out.

Talk about your passions, your interests – not just lifestyle, but life interests as well. Avoid too much negativity, it is contagious (like the flu – not like a smile) and a turn off for most folks.

Before you submit your post, take a minute to check your spelling and your grammar. It is often the second (the first being your photo) impression you will make.

Speaking of photos, while seeing a lovely nymph naked always puts a smile on my face, I have always thought that naked or near naked primary photos were a bad plan. If you’re female (sub or Domme), a naked photo almost guarantees you will be deluged with email from people that like your photo but have never bothered to read your profile. If you’re a male, showing your penis as your primary photo tells everyone you haven’t got squat for a personality or brains, for if you did, you wouldn’t be displaying your dick as your best feature. If you want to show more of yourself, then do so with additional photos. But your first one should be as attractive as can be, without exposing too much.

Just my .02

ShadowHwk

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RE: What do you look for in a profile? - 1/27/2004 1:13:34 PM

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use your journal to tell who you are, to say what you want, just don't be rude about it, gentlemanly manners will get you in the door, charm will get you in her mind, showing her you really care in your soul will get you her's.
we don't care about the toys you have or the things you want to do to us, we know what they are already, show us something we don't know about you yet, like why you think you need a sub or slave, what you dream of when think of her, what do you want from your soul, show your soul as you demand we sub/slaves do, give us your soul laid bare as we show you ours,
see, it's that easy, show some intelligence, after all, your supposed to be a Master of us, how can we believe you are if you don't even know how to tell us you are? be honest, don't lie to us, we won't to you, be caring, show us you have the heart to hold us safely in it, that if we do submit to you we won't be crying later because we trusted you and you weren't what you showed us you say you are, but most of all, be YOURSELF!!! we can see when you aren't being that and usually we run and hide from those kind, we know about the monsters under the bed already.
oh, and nasty pics don't do anything for anyone but bring nasty fakes, wannabe's and freaks to the site, try some real pics, that helps just tons!!!
that's how,
hope it helps,
good luck,
hugzzz,
me

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RE: What do you look for in a profile? - 2/7/2004 7:51:25 AM

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what do you look for in a profile?
Well I have to say if I were seeking. I'd primarily look at the sex of the person in the profile. If it fit what I was seeking. Thats all I'd look at.
You cannot tell honesty..integrity or any of that in a profile. You only can after talking to the person in length. Test the person. Find out if they are telling the truth.
Words are merely words. Cheap. Anybody can say anything they want.
I've also found it interesting when talking to newbies. A lot of them would fill out a profile with likes and dislikes yet never have tried any of them yet. How can you be so sure you will like something if you've never experienced it?
So to put it in perspective. I really look for nothing in the profile. I look deep within the soul of the individual who wrote the profile in the first place.

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RE: What do you look for in a profile? - 2/7/2004 10:18:28 AM

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Honesty, plus a desire to know more about their sub/slave than what their kinks are. I also look for qualities which are genuine and don't appear to be lots of really big, "chat room talk."

I like my Doms to be real.

Be well,
-A

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RE: What do you look for in a profile? - 2/8/2004 10:17:51 AM

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< Message edited by lunasidhe -- 2/8/2004 1:20:11 PM >

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RE: What do you look for in a profile? - 2/8/2004 10:20:49 AM

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when looking at a profile this slave looks for intelligent thought, some indication of what the Dominant is looking for and what He has to offer a slave, a closness in age, someone who does not judge by looks alone... (nothing turns this one off more than reading petit, slender, or some other indication that looks are needed), and definately length of D/s experience.

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RE: What do you look for in a profile? - 2/9/2004 5:58:58 AM

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mosies over to this thread..............ahhhh this looks like a good place to post.

CHOOSES TO POST MY OWN ADVO, WELL JUST BECAUSE....
(looks up at MODII with My Most inocent wicked smile)

MISTRESS SEEKS SLAVES!!BLACK HAIR, BLACK EYES,
6'-290LBS BBBW SADIST POLY DOMME NEEDS SLAVES.WILL
BE 24/7 IN REAL LIFE LONGTERM BUT IF OVER THE INTERNET
IS ALL YOU SEEK WELL I SUPPOSE I COULD FINANCIALLY,
SEXUALLY,MENTALLY,SPIRITUALLY,PHYSICALLY DOMINANT
YOUR EVERY MOMENT. SLAVES WILL WITHOUT A WORD
DO ANYTHING AND EVERY THING I SAY AT ALL TIMES TO
BE GIVEN THE PRIVILEGE OF MY PRESANCE ON LINE OR
BE GIVEN THE CHANCE IN REAL LIFE 2 SERVE. CONTACTS WILL BE
THRU HERE ON COLLARME.COM AND EXPECT TO GIVE UP
EVERYTHING IN YOUR CURRENT LIFE BE IT SOCIALLY OR
MATERIALLY TO BECOME MY POSESSION AND EARN THE RIGHT
TO SERVE ME. MY NEGOTIATION FORMS(CONTRACTS) ARE
EXTENSIVE AND THROUGH AND MOST WILL BE A BINDING
CONTRACT FOR VOLUNTARY SERVITUDE (DOMESTIC EXTREAMIST)
IM NOT LOOKIN FOR LOVE OR MY *ONE SO DONT THINK IT WILL
BE YOU BECAUSE IT WONT. I HAD A LOVE OF MY LIFE ALLREADY
IN A MASTER OF 27 YEARS AND BELIEVE ME YOU WILL NOT BE
FILLING HIS SHOES EVER AS A sa ms. IF YOUR YOUNG,DUMB,
AND FULL OF CUM WITH A NEED TO BE BROW BEAT AND SUMONE TO
SPEND ALL OF YOUR PAYCHECK WITH OUT SEEING ME,IM YOUR GAL,
AND I KNOW THAT ALL OF YOU worthless peon slaves are out
there looking for ME male and female, SO GET YOUR ASSES
ON HERE AND WRITE,MY HAIR AND NAILS NEED TO GET DONE TODAY.
P.S. ANYTHING YOU SAY CAN AND WILL BE USED AGAINST YOU IN
A COURT OF LAW......................HAHHAHAHAHAHAHA! BEEN
THERE DONE THAT!!Here is My question to this Board....
NOW WHAT slave OR sub WOULDENT JUST ADORE ME OWNING THEM??
(drops this here while sticking My tongue out at ShadowHwk
whom seems to be playing in the same schoolyard I do alltho
at oppisite ends of the playground and goes in running down the
collarme.com hall to General posts to find where else Im
suppose to drop this as well...scrolls up to read saphires
directions again so I make sure that I am in the least A
consistant Sadist.)

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RE: What do you look for in a profile? - 2/23/2004 1:19:29 PM

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quote:

First you learn how to spell "profile" - *laugh*
...
Before you submit your post, take a minute to check your spelling and your grammer. It is often the second (the first being your photo) impression you will make.

Ayuh, and then you learn how to spell grammar. . . *sorry man, couldn't resist that one.

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RE: What do you look for in a profile? - 2/23/2004 4:57:28 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ShadowHwk

If you’re a male, showing your penis as your primary photo tells everyone you haven’t got squat for a personality or brains, for if you did, you wouldn’t be displaying your dick as your best feature. If you want to show more of yourself, then do so with additional photos. But your first one should be as attractive as can be, without exposing too much.

Just my .02

ShadowHwk

I can't say that I argue one little bit regarding the attitude toward guys that put dick pics on their profile or send them unsolicited in email. I always figured they either thought it was their best feature or they were humiliation sluts.

However, in fairness I simply must share a bit of light that has recently been shed on this for me. In the last few months the people who have contacted me that have dick pics on their profiles expressly apologized in the introductory email for it and stated that they were getting tired of getting email from men seeking female subs. Apparently these inquiring gentlemen didn't bother to read the profile or even look closely at the picture to discern they were speaking to a man. These (profiled) men subsequently posted dick pics to be glaringly obvious that they were male.

Having received enormous amounts of 'trash mail' I can appreciate the dilemna.

However, I agree with you, Terry. It's a bad plan in general to initiate an online interaction with nudity. I probably wouldn't date you if you approached me in the vanilla world with your dick in your hands, there is no reason to believe I would be interested in that approach simply because it's an online venue. Unless that's what you're looking for. <shrug>

Darkquin:

I'm afraid I'm not submissive and while I do peruse the profiles it's not with a mind to 'find' anyone. I probably don't have much else to add to the discourse. I've enjoyed this thread, though. Great question!

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RE: What do you look for in a profile? - 2/24/2004 11:30:46 AM

ShadowHwk

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Borcher

Ayuh, and then you learn how to spell grammar. . . *sorry man, couldn't resist that one.

And then I learn to take my own advice!!! *laugh* Thanks for catching that one.

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Hey - 2/24/2004 1:18:41 PM

MrT

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If yopu think that you need to listen to shawdowhwk,estrict you don't need to.All they have time to do is judge everybody else.They need to go and READ there own profile and see the Mistakes they have in theres.So to those 2 go read your own and STOP judging everybody else,plus why don't you post a topic?

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RE: Hey - 2/24/2004 2:41:00 PM

EStrict

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Really MrT? Please do show me the *errors* in my profile? Other than accidentally capitalizing the *M* in master when I said my master (not the same when I am using the word as his name which is when I do capitalize it), I, nor any of the dozen of other's I asked to look, see an error. I also went to read yours to compare, but it couldn't locate a MrT for a profile on the site.

As far as judging, read the rest of the board please. EString mentions many times that it is human nature to judge. If we were incapable of passing basic judgments, we would all be in danger just being alive. Few would make it past childhood with out being allowed to judge what is safe/good/healthy.

Read where Akasha and other's mention how annoyed they are with poorly written posts and contacts.

Being lazy typists, not using spell check and not caring when you make no sense because of phrasing is your right (generic your), as is the use of 3rd person speech, and those that capitalizes every pronoun dealing with a dominant. And just as people have the right to do those things, myself and others have the right to dislike any of them.

But, in this being a written medium, the inability or refusal to spell out three letter words or proofread for basic errors is going to be *seen* by many as that person in the restaurant that walked in for lunch with eggs from their breakfast still dripped on their shirt. It is one of those things that make you shudder or look away...

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RE: Hey - 2/24/2004 11:15:14 PM

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ROFLMAO!

Excuse me, it's been awhile... that was TERRIFIC Sandy!

Looks like MrT is getting to be a popular kind of guy, lol

Words of wisdom posted too late

I tried to warn you dude!
I really did!

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RE: What do you look for in a profile? - 3/1/2004 11:14:58 AM

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EXCELLANT! i couldn't have said it better myself. And as far as the "nasty pics" go, all that tells me is you know nothing about the lifestyle. Why? Because it's not about sex. And if your not brave enough to show me your face, i sure don't want to see any other part of you.

feline

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RE: What do you look for in a profile? - 3/3/2004 4:06:45 PM

snow

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what i look for in a profile...

i look for someone who might have the same interests as me, not just in the lifestyle arena. i feel a good command of the english language is important because how else can the two of us talk about our wants, needs and desires?

since what i am looking for is the whole package, not just someone for "play", i would like to feel some sort of connection with them as a person from their profile.

wishing you well,
snow.

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