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alwayzron -> RE: Sub?/Switch? (12/18/2004 5:19:23 PM)
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sbjb ..... You may be confusing a couple of issues here ...
Personality wise, people fall into a variation of three basic types. You have the assertive types who desire to have their needs and wants met, but without trampling the needs and wants of others. You have the passive types who have needs and wants, but often (not always) allow them to be negated by others. The third type is the aggressive individual whose only concern is for themselves and everyone else be damned. Depending on numerous factors in our lives, we move between these three types, but typically stay true to one of these more often than the others. It may be that you're moving from an assertive to a passive style based on things in your life. It's possible that things in your life have wound down to the point that you can take the assertive face off for awhile. Or, it may be that your need to be assertive has peaked, and you're looking to offset this with being a submissive. Essentially, as humans, we're pretty screwy in the Psychology Department.
Submissives, (speaking only for myself) are wired to receive their satisfaction from doing for others and seeing the needs of others met. This doesn't mean that everyone who meets this definition is a submissive. Certainly, Mother Theresa probably was not a submissive ... just a great humanitarian. I say, try out the submissive role and see if it fits you.
I hope this helped.
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