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ORIGINAL: cuddleheart50

Did you ever notice that in the mushy topics, women pour their hearts out, and you very rarely if ever see a man post in them....Is it is Macho thing...Why won't they pour out their hearts as well? 

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ORIGINAL: MySweetSubmssive

But isn't a humor a way to dodge being open?  I agree that I've seen some of the men on here be very kind, showing that they have a "mushy" side, but when I invited Level to jump in the confession pool, he admitted to admiring others for doing it, but that he would pass (for the moment - heh!).

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ORIGINAL: sleazybutterfly

I think that men are just taught, it's not the "manly" thing to do.  They aren't emotionally equipped in the same way we are.  They don't naturally open themselves up in the same way.  Is it brain chemicals?  I don't know, it could just be evolution and conditioning.
 
Sometimes, they need to be non-mushy, they need to be more objective, to counteract our BIG mushy times.
 
I think that men are just all around more private.  We naturally share our lives, our feelings, our thoughts with our best girlfriend and sometimes anyone that will listen.  We do this pretty much from birth.   Boys just aren't raised the same way, they are taught to be strong, rough, etc... things that don't really go along with "mushy" very well.
 
So, even though it's with a bit of humor..I treasure those times these "manly men" open up and let us see inside. 
 
~Andrea

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ORIGINAL: KenDckey

Interesting Ladies.    I believe that you have hit the nail on the head.  Well close anyway.

I only saw my dad cry once.   When his dad died and his m other had a stroke (all within 7 days).  Dad was a cowboy, Yes he rode a horse and punched cattle when I was small.

When I was in the Army, they pretty much took my emotions from me (starting in Basic Training).   In combat, you don't have time to have emotions.   You just have to respond instinctively.  20 years of holding back on my emotions was a pretty strong motivator.

While I was in the Army, I was on the scene of an incident on Christmas Eve where Dad had his head blown off and I had to hold his baby covered in goo (I was in Africa then).  then for Christmas 1984 (Atlanta) I had to notify 4 kids and a guys wife that he had died (yes on Christmas Day). 

It caused me to dislike Christmas very much and every year at Christmas I get crying spells (even Christmas Music gets to me).

I had to retrain my mind after I retired from the Military.  Now

  I cry anytime I hear taps
  I cry for girly movies
  I cry for patriotic music
  I cried at Denny's because I fell down and gave my great grand daughter her first boo boo.
  I cried when I fed my great grand daughter her first solid meal
  I cry all the time for all the emotional things.
  I cried the first time I saw each of my grandkids and great grandkids.

And yes I am Dominate and don't find a coflict between my emotions.

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ORIGINAL: cuddleheart50

Come on, Level, its your day to spill your guts....hehehe