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mp072004 -> RE: just a question or two (8/10/2006 4:09:06 PM)
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Sadists have a lot of different reasons to like pain, and ways they like pain. Some people like giving pain to people who enjoy the sensation of pain, just like "normal" people like doing, say, oral sex. Here, pain can indeed be an expression of love. Some people like the terror or feeling of non-consent, and pain is a good way to get to this if the bottom does not like the sensation of pain. Some people inflict or receive pain for catharsis. Some like pain as it helps a punishment dynamic.
In any relationship (note: not just romantic or sexual), people engage in compromises and inducements to make the relationship happen. I give you something you like and you give me something I like in return. The women you mention have likely decided that in turn for doing something you like (dominating or topping you), they will ask for money in return.
Not everyone wants to be a loving dominant, or, for that matter, a loving submissive.
Finally, beastyboy, I do wish you had posed your questions more precisely and civilly, because they're not bad questions. "Forgive me for asking" is, honestly, a rotten opener. If you need forgiveness for asking something, don't ask it in the first place. However, you don't really need forgiveness for the topics you inquired about--you just need forgiveness for the muddled and hostile way you asked about them. Asking sadists what makes them tick doesn't need to be a contentious topic. Similarly, one can have an enlightening, courteous conversation about how different people approach BDSM in relation to love. Money is a bit harder, but I'll bet you could manage a good conversation about it, too.
Monica
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