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Frustration over the Holidays. - 12/24/2004 6:46:06 AM   
Rawl1970


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I've been on this board reading and getting to know what I like and want...what expectations I should hold, and also what things I should bring into a dom/sub relationship for close to 5 months now. I guess I look at my profile and it says straight forwardly, that I'm still new to this and that doesn't mean I want to play with just anyone..but most subs look the other way when they speak with a new dom.

So I get to my point. If a new dom, is to become a better dom and find a submissive to get to know and please, what does that new dom need to do to get any attention? Am I blind, is it just me, or maybe I've just worded things incorrectly. I'm kinda at a loss here, I thought it would be nice at least if people say hello to one another. Sorry...frustrated and concerned about me being a dom, with no one to ever dom.

Yes..I have been to munches..
Yes.. I have been to a club
Yes.. I am learning from others..
I have had one person say hello over the last 3 months.

Help.
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RE: Frustration over the Holidays. - 12/24/2004 7:58:14 AM   
masterLon3446


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Status: offline 		Rawl...Your not alone. I have had to redo my profile a few times, I did have help though from a very intelligent and nice Mistress. But, Ladies were telling me I was to old for them ( was and am seeking 25 to 45 year old ladies) or too experinced, Too far away, Too big for them, There was always something. One can show a possitive attitude at all times, Even in the profile, Maybe that will help, Do not try to rush things along, One will view your peofile one day and will be interested...

MasterLon

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RE: Frustration over the Holidays. - 12/24/2004 8:27:17 AM   
sweetpleaser


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From: Florida
Status: offline 		Hang in there. I like your profile the way it is. I am not available, however, but know in my heart you will find someone close to you who will appreciate you. Try adding a couple more "natural" pictures of yourself. Something that will make a woman feel warm and fuzzy but also your strength. Like, if you like sports, post a picture of you playing with a big smile on your face. JMO. Good luck.

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RE: Frustration over the Holidays. - 12/24/2004 11:59:40 AM   
sub4hire


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Status: offline 		If you look at the munches and clubs as a grocery store. Male Doms are on a clearance sale. There are so many of them everywhere. Being new, well that doesn't make you any better or worse than any of the other's.
I wouldn't get frustrated. Perhaps let the hosts know you are new and looking to network with others. Maybe they can then introduce you to the new people. Or even find a singles group in your area. We have them here, so I'm sure they have them in most larger areas.
I know within the group I run. When someone comes to me and tells me they are new. Whether male or female. Dominant or submissive. I know my members pretty well. If we have a party. I will always ask the new person if they would like to play with someone. Of course that way they have more experienced people watching over them. I can't say all groups work the way I do. It is an idea though.
Just try to remain patient. I'm a sub and it took me over 1000 alledged Doms before I found my Dom. Almost five years searching as well.

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RE: Frustration over the Holidays. - 12/24/2004 12:37:58 PM   
Rawl1970


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Status: offline 		Thanks folks.

I just wasn't sure if I was saying to much. I think I'll just keep going to munches and learning. Gonna go to some of the bay area rope classes. I think those are pretty cool.

Joe

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RE: Frustration over the Holidays. - 12/28/2004 6:53:18 AM   
OrientalMistress


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Status: offline 		Hello...there... I am a Domme married to a Dom of long standing and We would love to discuss things with you, but not in this forum...if you are at all interested, drop us a note...perhaps just a copy of the original message that you have here in email to [email protected]. I will reply immediately. If you have questions...perhaps this new year We shall find the solutions together...

M. Tau...

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RE: Frustration over the Holidays. - 12/29/2004 9:44:05 AM   
MistressFire70


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quote:

ORIGINAL: OrientalMistress

Hello...there... I am a Domme married to a Dom of long standing and We would love to discuss things with you, but not in this forum...if you are at all interested, drop us a note...perhaps just a copy of the original message that you have here in email to [email protected]. I will reply immediately. If you have questions...perhaps this new year We shall find the solutions together...

M. Tau...



M. Tau,

I have seen you post something similar as this to many threads. Are you a Pro?

Fire

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RE: Frustration over the Holidays. - 12/29/2004 3:35:19 PM   
BeachMystress


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Hmm, Why would someone not be willing to share their wisdom in the forum? I see why you feel she may be wanting renumeration for her information. I went and read her other posts. The more recent ones all seem to encourage contacting her personally. I am saddened that someone would work this forum for personal gain.. but such is life.

Now, Raul.. this may sound odd, but you need a better ID. I can't access your profile, so I have no clue what it looks like. I do know a friend of mine who rethought his ID went from never getting any responses to not only regularly getting them but having women (two) write to him FIRST. I hate to say it is a sales game.. but it is. He who markets himself the best wins.

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RE: Frustration over the Holidays. - 12/29/2004 4:46:29 PM   
sub4hire


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quote:

Hmm, Why would someone not be willing to share their wisdom in the forum? I see why you feel she may be wanting renumeration for her information. I went and read her other posts. The more recent ones all seem to encourage contacting her personally. I am saddened that someone would work this forum for personal gain.. but such is life.


Isn't that what all troll post's do? I think most of us are agreed we do not like them.

Seems to me these type's only want to play and nothing else. So unless a person is a top or a bottom I'd steer clear of them. A Dominant or submissive could get hurt mentally.

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RE: Frustration over the Holidays. - 12/30/2004 2:02:36 AM   
MistressDREAD


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Status: offline 		Excuse My posts in the Masters area......

~Notices Lons words and curtsies~

Rawl. Patience is a virtue and trust Me
not being contacted is a blessing in disguise
as You learn this new Lifestyle because
it means that You are being passed over
by the usually hollow stuff which blights
most sites of BDSM which is good. When
You do get a responce it will more apt to
be someone sincere in their search. Might
I suggest not being frustrated over the
Holidays about this and go find something
that will take Your frustrations away like
some good holsum volunteer service for
the masses in Your community and return
with a full heart and fresh new year and
mindset to start again Your profile.JMO
~smiles~ Meanwhile Ill come take a look...

quote:

I am saddened that someone would work this forum for personal gain

Actually Beach EVERYONE is here for personal gain and the forums is what provides such.JMO.


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RE: Frustration over the Holidays. - 12/30/2004 2:16:24 AM   
MistressDREAD


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Status: offline 		Rawl1970 I went to the Profile side of Collarme and did not find Your profile.
Is Your profile listed under the name Rawl1970 or another name? If You have
not made a profile under the other side of Collarme I suggest clicking this http://www.collarme.com/
and making up a profile here in order to gain responses from the Members. The
Board side of signup and the Main site signup are different and You actually have
to sign up twice to have a profile on the other side too. A person can be a member
of the boards here and not a member of the profile side if they do not sign up
on that side as well. JMO

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