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SissyRobin -> Keyholding (12/24/2004 8:44:47 AM)
Keyholding seems to be a subject not covered here. I was just wondering how many of you would perform such a service. For those of you unaware of this term - Keyholding is the holding of the keys to a chastity device. This may be done remotely or locally. Although locally is prefered, many who like wearing these devices (such as myself) do not have someone in their life who would enjoy holding their keys. From the little bit of research on chastity devices that I have done on the internet, there must be 10s of thousands of men out there who really need a service of this type. So I am very curious on if any of you out there would hold for them. SissyRobin

GoddessJules -> RE: Keyholding (12/24/2004 8:52:59 AM)
I know of several "keyholding services." Since those who are doing it via distance don't offer the keyholder any type of "sevitude" (because let's face it. . .the locked boy is doing it not to suffer for the keyholder, but because it is a fetish of his) it usually comes at a cost (money.) All my boys are "locked" and I lock them because I feel that a locked cock = a good boy. (LOL!) And plus I really get off on knowing that I am out getting some and they are not. Cuckoldress is my middle name. Jules

sub4hire -> RE: Keyholding (12/24/2004 12:06:31 PM)
There currently is a topic in the random stupidity section.

MistressFire70 -> RE: Keyholding (12/24/2004 9:17:35 PM)
Ok...just in case anyone thought Gloria was just being mean...there really is a random stupidity section: http://www.collarme.com/forum/tt.asp?forumid=55 Although, I thought is was a legit question suitable for this section, too. Fire

alwayzron -> RE: Keyholding (12/24/2004 9:53:39 PM)
Random stupidity is becoming less random in this day and time .... Ahem .... quote: how many of you would perform such a service. I alwayz thought it was the sub who performed a service for the Domme .....

MistressDREAD -> RE: Keyholding (12/24/2004 9:59:48 PM)
nawwww sub4hire was just being her quote: There currently is a topic in the random stupidity section. It is of interest tho which topics are chosen or moved to the random stupidity section. Makes One wonder just whom makes the decisions on what subject matter is concidered stupid. I hold the keys to 28 clients currently....... and yes it is a donation for service I provide. I not being a Pro Domme I am sure that many of Our Lovily Pro Domme/Doms out there do way more business in this area to suit the desires and kinks of those whom practice such fetishes. Fetishes need more respect on Collarme by its novices...Collarme is NOT just about D/s last I looked.

alwayzron -> RE: Keyholding (12/24/2004 10:14:16 PM)
MD, Interesting. Can we distinguish between fetishism and submissiveness? I believe so. For me, being submissive is in my nature and in my psyche. It's not something I do for kicks. I wish it were .... because my domineering professional life and my desire to serve often collide with not nice results. Forced chastity ... in the sense that sissyrobyn is talking about .... is more of what the Domme can do for the sub ~ I think ~ vice how the sub is serving the Domme.

Spankinatrix -> RE: Keyholding (12/24/2004 11:09:15 PM)
I've enjoyed the activity in the past... always in distance situations, however. I hold onto the keys and wait until they are earned back by pleasing me. This has always been with gifts, or proof of embarassing tasks completed. Were it in person I might consider other tasks. I would have done it more, but the majority of males that have contacted me about it have been too demanding for my tastes. As for in person boys - they are on 'honor chastity'... if they can't keep their hands off at my word, they're out the door. N

sting516 -> RE: Keyholding (12/25/2004 3:00:54 AM)
While i understand the desire for having a keyholder....i don't get why one would employ a service to do so. It would seem to me that the meaning of the keyholding is lost when the person holding the key is not someone you have a real relationship with. Maybe i'm wrong, but could someone set me straight (or at least kinky) if i'm way off base here. sting

GoddessJules -> RE: Keyholding (12/25/2004 5:28:49 AM)
sting, The original poster did contact me on the other side for information about my keyholding services. I told him that I do not run a keyholding service. . .but that I do hold the keys for boys actively serving me. The reason I mentioned that keyholding services do exist is because the original poster didn't mention keyholding as part of his submission to a person. . .but more as a kink that he wants satisfied. I don't know how many women would just accept the keys to someone's CB without that person serving them in any way and getting absolutely nothing.

sting516 -> RE: Keyholding (12/25/2004 5:36:43 AM)
Goddess Jules, While You hadn't mentioned running a keyholding service, Mistress Dread's post made me think She did/does. Actually, for someone running such a service, i could see the benefit, if one charged for the service....i just don't understand the mindset of a submissive who would use one. Hope that clears up my confusion. sting

GoddessJules -> RE: Keyholding (12/25/2004 5:46:48 AM)
You don't "understand" it because someone who uses such a service might not actually be a submissive. . .but a fetishist. . .one that has a chastity fetish.

sarbonn -> RE: Keyholding (12/25/2004 8:42:00 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: GoddessJules You don't "understand" it because someone who uses such a service might not actually be a submissive. . .but a fetishist. . .one that has a chastity fetish. I'm a little different on this one, which is the only reason I'm responding. I've been spending more and more time these days lurking than actually posting. I am most definitely a submissive, not a fetishist. Yeah, I probably have fetishes, but I'm specifically a submissive seeking slavery. I haven't found it. I've looked, and when I was in an area where it was more prevalent, I found it, but being here in western Michigan, I have not found even a clue of where to find anything. So, instead I have looked into the possibilities of finding someone through distance rather than locale. And for me, being controlled is a huge part of my submissiveness; therefore, chastity control seems like a really obvious way of attempting to do just this. The problem I've run into is that I tend to run into the fetishist mistresses who think that's what I'm seeking, fetishism. So, I end up frustrated (not in the good way), and I pretty much give up on my search. Like Goddess Jules indicates, if I found someone I could serve, and chastity came with it, that would be wonderful. But quite often, both alternatives are just as hard to find.

MistressDREAD -> RE: Keyholding (12/25/2004 9:18:10 AM)
there are many reasons that One holds a key. Like the training collar talked about in another thread a sub or slave whom is into training chastity doesent stop just because a relationship ends or begins and a service to hold a key keeps temptation at bay for the one held in key while not being Owned. There are those whom are chastity fetishers whom take desire from the thought of not having control over this part of their lifes and donate to a service which holds the key and controls its use or nonuse. There are Dominants whom give Thier key to a service as punishment to the enslaved taking the Control and placing it where the enslaved cannot see it. I could go on as to the reasonings and actions behind keyholding but I think these few samples can open the eyes to many. Mainly those in D/s whom really havent a clue to all that goes on with in the BDSM rhelm as well as Alternate Lifestyles in general except for Their small world of it. JMO

sting516 -> RE: Keyholding (12/25/2004 9:28:18 AM)
Thank you to everyone for their kind replies to my question...while personally, i could only see giving the key to one i had a relationship with, i hadn't taken into account that in some areas it could be considered harder to find someone...while still it's not something i think is for me, i appreciate the input. sting

sub4hire -> RE: Keyholding (12/27/2004 4:02:21 PM)
quote: Ok...just in case anyone thought Gloria was just being mean...there really is a random stupidity section: http://www.collarme.com/forum/tt.asp?forumid=55 Thanks Fire, and dread well hey we all know who is the dominant one here. Keep your insults flying, it only shows your true colors.

MistressDREAD -> RE: Keyholding (12/29/2004 1:08:49 AM)
quote: Thanks Fire, and dread well hey we all know who is the dominant one here. Keep your insults flying, it only shows your true colors. actually sub4hire you need to learn the differance in insult and humiliation kinks how can I insult someone I have no negitive feelings for what so ever....how you percieve My words is your problem not Mine. Do you really think Im here to act all good and vanillaly? Remember I am NOT a part of your Vanilla or D/s world but I am a part of MY BDSM and Kink/Fetish one. When you step into My parlor you sit in My chairs. Do YOU provide keyholder services sub4hire?

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