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LadyHugs -> RE: master chasing dommes (8/12/2006 8:41:27 PM)
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Dear mons, Ladies and Gentlemen;
Very interesting but, a rather common behavior in the scene and or lifestyle.
Several "dominant" men or self titled men who identify as a master, have approached me, much as one posted about on this thread, that they read my profile and I have permission to approach, only to be harassed when I didn't hint of submission. Most of such sorts, are just bedroom dominants and couldn't flog themselves out of a wet paper bag--let alone deal with a female dominant that can flog with a total of six floggers at once.
I have also had men who identify as Masters, dominant men who approach me due to the skills, knowledge and information I have, willing to share and work with them, where other males hold their information, skills and such close to the vest. So, men approach and we talk 'shop' per se. Mentoring, giving them instruction and or such, I have had more men approach me to learn than women.
I do appreciate the gentlemen dominants that have posted on this topic, in regard to the unshared attitude by some, who feel women are not worth the breath in their body and are forever designed by myth, religion, civilization and body itself to be subserviant. It takes spine to seperate gentlemen from bias males, when it comes to the attitude of women in the role of 'dominant.'
That said, I do understand that some women transmit the "courting" attitude and behavior, which sends signals to men that they're looking to be conquered. Some women don't realize that this behavior entices men into something that just ends up hurting both parties. So, it might be worth thinking on the lady's part on what signals they are giving when 'teasing.' Although some men will be as primative as what is proffered as "knuckle draggers," will attempt to dominate a woman who is dominant; most keen male dominants will see in posture, attitude to which is serious but, pleasant and respectful as a dominant woman. Most do their best to be a gentleman and protective of women who identify as a lady and a dominant.
As for the thrill of the hunt, I am of the belief that dominants regardless of gender and gender preferences enjoy that aspect. I also feel that when dominants are in an assembly, regardless if two or two-thousand at once; as long as there is no posturing and trying to out dominate each other, there will be peace. It is called mutual respect.
As far as those styles of BDSM, such as Gorean; to which it is designed by book rooted philosophy as being patriarch domination. However, in my personal dealings with those who practice both BDSM and Gorean or one or the other, I have been treated with much respect.
But, I must add--I give respect regardless if it is returned. Sometimes, there is more strength in being respectful and speak with logic, rather than emotions and or personal attacks. Perhaps, this is what IronBear was attempting to convey, as mastery and domination is gender neutral, class neutral and racially neutral, as well as style neutral.
In summary, the 'intent' as well as the 'tone' of the pursuit by a male dominant of a female dominant, should create the premise of which to place the pursuit as negative or positive and or disrespectful and or respectful. Once established, only those chased have the 'choice' of giving their power to the other or keep it, maintain it and guard it.
Respectfully submitted for consideration with a bit of wit,
Lady Hugs
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