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a matter of concern - 8/13/2006 2:02:47 PM   
slavejlb


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A Matter of Concern
Greetings Master: I have a not so simple question for you today.
You have a slave that a year ago you had her marked with a couple of tattoos one states she is a slave and second one stating you are her Master. Then life comes along and circumstances cause you un-collar her. Letting you walk away but leaving her the reminders of your relationship. Now as life does sometimes you and your slave are talking, starting out as friends. You are thinking of taking her back, knowing she already with marks that cause her mental discomfort, would you state the only way you would take her back is to put a permanent collar on her as the way of an tattoo. Understanding that this statement has now put major block in the both of moving forward, would it not be prime and proper to remove the threat of the collar tattoo.
I know this is complicated I tried to though in my explanation.
Take care and be safe
Slave jlb
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RE: a matter of concern - 8/13/2006 2:10:27 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Why would you even be having discussions of MORE permanent marks when you haven't even figured out for yourselves whether you both have changed enough to make BEGINNING a relationship with eachother a wise decision?

The fact that the slave is viewing it as a threat spells things out for me loud and clear- the relationship is over, it should remain so.  Go find peace and fulfillment for yourselves with others who will not bring such problems to you.

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RE: a matter of concern - 8/13/2006 2:44:51 PM   
popeye1250


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RE: a matter of concern - 8/13/2006 3:42:54 PM   
porcelaine


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Status: offline 		It seems life has been pretty darned busy in relation to this pair. She has permanent reminders of the relationship because life stepped in. The mere fact that they exist is another conversation onto itself. But one I will veer away from. Now the wheel has turned and they are speaking of reuniting and alas more marks are being discussed. Is it me or does this sound like de ja vu? Are they incapable of finding some way of celebrating their union without such markings? Given the fact that life has danced in between them in the past, that is the last thing I would be considering where he's concerned. Sometimes the solution is simply to use your head. It is issuing a warning for a reason.

porcelaine

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RE: a matter of concern - 8/13/2006 3:45:49 PM   
juliaoceania


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A sub has marked herself permanently for a dom

They broke up afterwards and she was stuck with the marks he had her put upon herself

Time goes by and they start to talk about reuniting with one another

He wants this submissive to be marked again before he will recollar her?

This is what I understand from what I read, am I correct?

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RE: a matter of concern - 8/13/2006 3:53:55 PM   
slavejlb


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sometimes the heart and mind each have their own way of going. do i care for my ex master yes, we were together for ove two years, when life took us apart. Now what i trying to get him to understand that the tattoo is a block for me i can not pass, and if he were just to say it is alright, i understand and take what i call the threat off the table we could move to fine out where our paths are really heading,
so take care and be safe
slave jlb
ps to juliaoceanian
you are right in your condensing
life is so confusing at time,

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RE: a matter of concern - 8/13/2006 4:03:21 PM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		Personally I would "date" this dominant on a more equal basis before I consented to being recollared, but I am an uppity little bitch until I agree to honor a man with my submission. He would be starting at square one, and another permanent mark would seem repetitive, and I would make it a hard limit seeing as the last one caused you mental anguish. He would respect that or he wouldn't have me...

I have seen you post about your shortcomings due to what you perceive to be your age and how you feel insecure about your appearance jib... I think that maybe coloring your vision and judgment (I may not be right and just tell me to can it if Im not). There are many men out there that are not looking for a 20 something, and they want someone that they can have fun with and will understand them at this point in their life. You have experience, values, and loyalty.. do not sell yourself short! Maybe you haven't given time enough to heal from this relationship and to find someone new? You have been uncollared and are unowned, you are on equal footing until you decide differently, be empowered by this, and negotiate the best deal you can for yourself. Remember, he must realize how good of a thing he let go to want it back so much... believe in your own value!

Or say.. "Julia, shut the f*** up because you do not know what you are talking about"...smiles

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RE: a matter of concern - 8/13/2006 4:08:46 PM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		Before even considering a reconciliation with this man you need to consider if the "life" issues that separated you the first time are any different now.  People rarely change over the longterm, another thing for you to consider.  He appears to be a demanding guy, I wonder why he needs to rush this tat collaring.

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RE: a matter of concern - 8/13/2006 4:10:20 PM   
slavejlb


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Status: offline 		hello Julia
first i would not do that, and some of what you say is right, in fact most.
just everyone knows i did forward this thread to him, in hopes he will see and hear from others how i am feeling. maybe someone can open his eyes and ears where i have not been able to. i have come to learn it is a bastard sometimes dealing with someone who is equally stubborn, but then again love and caring is a fickle thing.
so take care and be safe please
love slave jlb

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RE: a matter of concern - 8/13/2006 5:46:20 PM   
Midearthtrainer


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Status: offline 		slave jlb,
why is it that you appear to want to hold onto something that is so tentitive at this moment? Memories are colored with rose colored glasses over time. Stop, slap your face and wake up to the reality that the relationship will only slip back to the enevitable, one more time.
If you are intent upon reliving this one more time, then try this ...
an "o" ring at twelve months
a celebratory tat at 4 yrs
If he wants a tat on you now to claim you ... Has he really totally/completely claimed you?

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RE: a matter of concern - 8/13/2006 9:44:45 PM   
proudsub


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Status: offline 		After reading your profile i need to ask if this is the master you say lives far away from you?  If so, have you spent time together or is it an online relationship? 

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RE: a matter of concern - 8/14/2006 8:26:59 AM   
slavejlb


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I wish to thank each and everyone who gave your guideance, it was much appericated. After a long talk after my posting here, my ex-master and i have decide it best to remain just friends. All is well
take care and be safe
slave jlb

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RE: a matter of concern - 8/15/2006 6:09:01 PM   
Slipstreme


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Status: offline 		What I don't get, is, if already marked with a permanent mark, why would a second mark be required to go back under the collar? Just seems redudant to me (unless he is a fan of tattoos, then you might as well consider yourself a canvas to be inked :P)

I also second Juliaoceana and LA in this one. I think all of your two relationship issues should be resolved before any decision is made to ink you and the intention is to be together forever.

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RE: a matter of concern - 8/15/2006 6:39:17 PM   
SirDarkside357


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Status: offline 		I agree with LA...yes, you heard it right....I agree with her...mark your calendars.

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