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RE: Things that make you yawn - 8/15/2006 11:00:27 AM

onestandingstill

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Hello,
For me there's things I'm neutral to, or sometimes even things I genuinely dislike I do prefer to still have happen in my scenes. For me knowing this avenue that bores me or that I don't like is bringing pleasure to my partner is enough for me. I actually feel like I'm being more submissive if I submit only to please my partner with no self gratification in it.
If the thing is something I go gaga over and my partner isn't into it I'd hope at least once in a while I'd get to enjoy it. It would make me a very appreciative girl to know the action of the moment was done just for me. Knowing he'd be willing to do something for me alone would be a good reward gift when I deserved one.
If the thing was something neither of us enjoy, I would not want to waste my energy on something that's not pleasing at least one of us.
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RE: Things that make you yawn - 8/15/2006 11:17:06 AM

onestandingstill

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ORIGINAL: RavenMuse

However (You just knew that was coming didn't you) a girl of mine is, by nature, looking to make ME happy. If we where doing something *I* enjoyed and there wasn't at least some response from her enjoying the fact that *I* was enjoying it... I'd see that as a possible sign that the dynamic between us had a problem.

Hello Sir,
Maybe I'm not understanding what you said here.
If she still does something you enjoy that she does not you'd consider that a relationship dynamic problem?
I guess I missed the boat. I know I HATE, repeat HATE anal sex.
I willingly allowed my old Dom to use that orifice when and as he choose to. As I choose to be real I did not pretend to enjoy that contact, but rather I was quiet as a mouse & perfectly still when I permitted him that contact. I did nothing to hinder his advance or usage as I knew it made him hot, but I don't feel I'd have to pretend I was into the contact to seem connected to him.
Submission is not always about enjoying what's going on. Sometimes for me the things that can really center my submission is doing the things I dislike and don't enjoy for someone else.
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RE: Things that make you yawn - 8/15/2006 3:59:56 PM

sharainks

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I think most people are "reaction junkies" in one way or another. We've all heard of the dead lay who just lies there while their partner does all the work and not a sound escapes their lips. At the minimum a moan or two is nice. That tranlates into bdsm as well.

When I first got into bdsm my dom always blindfolded me. At first that was probably a good idea but after awhile it started to bother me. I had gotten into the sensations and what kept running through my mind (and affecting my enjoyment) was this thought: "Ok I'm enjoying this but what on earth could he possibly be getting out of it?" I mean the feeling of your arm as the flogger or whatever hits its target is hardly an "OH baby yes it feels so good."

The next time I think he sensed something was wrong and unblindfolded me. OMG the intensity changed so much for me and the whole experience was so much more when I could look at his "manhood" and see that he was indeed quite excited by what was going on. Being able to look into his eyes was a treat as well. Such a devilish and ornery sadistic smile. It was so much better.

Sometimes its stuff you don't think about that can make all the difference.

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RE: Things that make you yawn - 8/15/2006 4:28:59 PM

MistressSassy66

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I was sure the ice cold water sprayed in isabelles armpits would ensure a jump or
cringe or something...I got nothing.
I was disappointed that it didnt have the effect I wanted.
So I had to try something else like pulling the hair instead...that had an effect

I like to wrap them up and tape them and leave them laying there while I write a letter to a friend.
I love it...after about 10 minutes they start getting a lil fidgety....20 they start to wiggle...
30 mins they start the whine.... It is just too much fun.

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