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Common knowledge? - 8/15/2006 6:28:09 PM   
Quivver


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Status: offline 		So many of us who post here gain similar knowledge, we tend to understand things and lingo without question.  If someone says Begging a Collar or mentions Sub Space we form a somewhat similar picture in our minds.  I guilty of the sin of assumption now when I talk to others from outside or the other side here at CM thinking that they get the same drift when conversing.  Considering most of us venture away from the Message boards when seeking relationships I've wondered how others have delt with this.  Avoided pit falls, shared info.  Sucess and or horror stories? 

Q

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RE: Common knowledge? - 8/15/2006 7:19:49 PM   
TNstepsout


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Status: offline 		Everything I  know about BDSM I learned on Collarme.

Are you saying I could be in trouble?

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RE: Common knowledge? - 8/15/2006 7:22:26 PM   
MstrssPassion


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Status: offline 		There are plenty of times that people here on CM may not be on the same page with terms, titles or the like.

The best advice I have ever offered on this subject is to have a good understanding for yourself... a working understanding is even better so that when you are talking with others & you don't feel you are all on the same page you are able to clearly & effectively communicate what these terms, titles & such mean to you... & in turn you are able to grasp what they mean to others when they explain their own understandings.

Don't ever expect or assume that there is a universal understanding from anyone/anywhere/anytime.

(perfect example above... so many call what we discuss here & elsewhere so many things. When I got started this was called the scene, now many refer to it as BDSM. When I first heard of bdsm it was just an acronym that was used to describe the physical play that people engage in... not a "lifestyle" reference. I just had this discussion the other day with someone & I told them that I could never refer to myself as bdsm because play doesn't define me. Play is something that I may or may not engage in.)

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RE: Common knowledge? - 8/15/2006 7:25:03 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		I tend to make sure anyone I speak to has at least a working knowledge of the terms *I* use. If i use something they dont understand, I want them to ask for definitions. My boy now has no problem doing so, and most havent.  That makes things very easy. I just tell them to ask questions, Id rather they ask something that sounds silly than assume something wrong.

DV

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RE: Common knowledge? - 8/15/2006 8:08:26 PM   
amayos


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Quivver

So many of us who post here gain similar knowledge, we tend to understand things and lingo without question. If someone says Begging a Collar or mentions Sub Space we form a somewhat similar picture in our minds. I guilty of the sin of assumption now when I talk to others from outside or the other side here at CM thinking that they get the same drift when conversing. Considering most of us venture away from the Message boards when seeking relationships I've wondered how others have delt with this. Avoided pit falls, shared info. Sucess and or horror stories?


When I speak with others I tend to only use universal terms, like dominance, submission, discipline, and so on. I steer clear of mantras and acronyms exclusive to the underground, and for more than one reason.

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RE: Common knowledge? - 8/15/2006 8:12:31 PM   
SirDarkside357


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Status: offline 		Terminology cause many of the worlds problems, not just here....... I know exactly what I mean when i say something...problem is, not all that hear or read what I say do.... DSF folk understand me, so do some Gorean folk, a few BDSMers do too, 'nilla folk, well, they usually stay away from me for the most part.

Be Well,
Darkside

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RE: Common knowledge? - 8/15/2006 8:22:09 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Once you get enough varied experience offline, it's not so much a problem.  If a person has only ever been to one munch group/one groups events/one website group/has only one core group of friends who all have the same perspective (including this), then I'd worry.  But if you diversify even just a little, then you're making yourself flexible enough and open to new ideas and ways coming along.  I still get new terminology and cultural variances.

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RE: Common knowledge? - 8/15/2006 8:25:07 PM   
HarryVanWinkle


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ORIGINAL: TNstepsout

Everything I  know about BDSM I learned on Collarme.

Are you saying I could be in trouble?


LMAO.  Yeah, you could be in just a wee bit of trouble.

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RE: Common knowledge? - 8/15/2006 9:31:44 PM   
Wolfie648


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Quivver

So many of us who post here gain similar knowledge, we tend to understand things and lingo without question.  If someone says Begging a Collar or mentions Sub Space we form a somewhat similar picture in our minds.  I guilty of the sin of assumption now when I talk to others from outside or the other side here at CM thinking that they get the same drift when conversing.  Considering most of us venture away from the Message boards when seeking relationships I've wondered how others have delt with this.  Avoided pit falls, shared info.  Sucess and or horror stories? 

Q


The first assumption I avoid is assuming that others have a common knowledge of what we understand things to be.

D (owner of j).

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RE: Common knowledge? - 8/15/2006 10:00:04 PM   
KnightofMists


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Status: offline 		Nothing gets my girls in trouble more than making Assumptions!  I am quick to bite when they do that.

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RE: Common knowledge? - 8/15/2006 11:54:29 PM   
IndigoDadesi


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Status: offline 		You know, it took me almost a week to figure out the "WIITWD" abbreviation. I finally had to ask my boy. 

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RE: Common knowledge? - 8/16/2006 1:14:56 AM   
Pimpernell


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ORIGINAL: IndigoDadesi

You know, it took me almost a week to figure out the "WIITWD" abbreviation. I finally had to ask my boy. 

"What it is that we do".  For those like me who didn't know what it meant.


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