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Help! I need advice - 8/16/2006 1:58:22 PM   
slaveboysteve


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Status: offline 		Hello I was talking to a goddess but due to my enthusiaism and being new I think I tried to push her to quick.  sShe sent me a message that said I will contact you if I decide!
Am I best not sending her a message and wait or im I best sending her a message to see how she is ! any advice Thank You
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RE: Help! I need advice - 8/16/2006 2:00:36 PM   
LaTigresse


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In my opinion I would suggest you leave her alone. If she has an interest in you, you will not be forgotten.
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RE: Help! I need advice - 8/16/2006 2:08:28 PM   
gooddogbenji


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Status: offline 		If you're worried about having pushed too hard, and she tells you to back off, how is it a question whether or not to contact her?

On a related note, I was on a date last night, and I kept asking her to come back to my place.  She didn't want to, so eventually I tied her up, gagged her, and brought her to my place.

The cops are now knocking at my door.  What should I do?

Yours,


benji

Edited because I just realized this isn't the really really bad advice thread.  But with that OP, you can't blame me for confusing it.

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RE: Help! I need advice - 8/16/2006 2:10:36 PM   
thetammyjo


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Status: offline 		You need to back off and not contact her again.

Either she will contact you because she is interested OR she used that as a way to say she is not interested.

Take the down time to learn more about yourself, read, go to munches, and talk to others.

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RE: Help! I need advice - 8/16/2006 2:12:54 PM   
Bearlee


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Tosses da pup a biscuit; that was GREAT!  
 
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RE: Help! I need advice - 8/16/2006 2:20:18 PM   
MisPandora


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quote:

ORIGINAL: slaveboysteve

Hello I was talking to a goddess but due to my enthusiaism and being new I think I tried to push her to quick. 

Enough with the cryptic nonsense -- what DID you do?

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RE: Help! I need advice - 8/16/2006 4:18:23 PM   
Owned1


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quote:

ORIGINAL: gooddogbenji

If you're worried about having pushed too hard, and she tells you to back off, how is it a question whether or not to contact her?

On a related note, I was on a date last night, and I kept asking her to come back to my place.  She didn't want to, so eventually I tied her up, gagged her, and brought her to my place.

The cops are now knocking at my door.  What should I do?

Yours,


benji

Edited because I just realized this isn't the really really bad advice thread.  But with that OP, you can't blame me for confusing it.


answer the door and offer them coffee silly man,  just make sure its Tims and the donuts are fresh ;)

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RE: Help! I need advice - 8/16/2006 4:20:48 PM   
LotusSong


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RE: Help! I need advice - 8/16/2006 5:14:43 PM   
MysticFireTopaz


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quote:

ORIGINAL: slaveboysteve
Hello I was talking to a goddess but due to my enthusiaism and being new I think I tried to push her to quick.  sShe sent me a message that said I will contact you if I decide!
Am I best not sending her a message and wait or im I best sending her a message to see how she is ! any advice Thank You


I think you are better off NOT sending Her a message and waiting, difficult as it may be.  If you have pushed Her too quickly already, you may be on thin ice as it is and another message probably wouldn't work in your favor. 
 
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RE: Help! I need advice - 8/16/2006 5:29:41 PM   
littlesarbonn


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In reality, like most people have said, if she told you to back off, back off. Otherwise, the next contact you get from her will be either none or hostility. There's really no fix to "don't contact me, I'll contact you" other than to wait and hope the space you give equals the cool down period required. And you may have to face the possibility that you've already gone over the line, and this situation should act as your learning exercise so that you don't make the same mistake twice.

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RE: Help! I need advice - 8/16/2006 11:24:18 PM   
IndigoDadesi


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Status: offline 		Id actually move on. It doesnt sound like she's interested in you. That was probably her way of trying to let you bow out gracefully.

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RE: Help! I need advice - 8/17/2006 1:23:55 AM   
Arpig


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RE: Help! I need advice - 8/18/2006 5:23:01 PM   
HouseofBear


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Status: offline 		Wait.  If she wishes to contact you, she will do so.  Have you considered she may be waiting to see if you actually do as she desires on this score? To see if you actually listen to what it is she wishes you to do?

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RE: Help! I need advice - 8/29/2006 3:04:54 AM   
maledave777


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Status: offline 		I agree with Miss LaTigresse that you should wait.  I was contact by a dominant woman who does not have a profile on this web site.  I guess she was looking around on this web site.  She look at my profile and sent me a message.  We both live in the same city. 
I think sometimes we males are impatient.  I think some dominant women do not like that.  In the past I have sent several e-mails to a dominant woman and I never hear back from her again.  Since I have been on this web site, I only sent her just one message and wait patiently.  Almost always she will sent me message either yes or no.

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RE: Help! I need advice - 8/30/2006 8:29:13 AM   
MistressSassy66


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quote:

ORIGINAL: slaveboysteve

Hello I was talking to a goddess but due to my enthusiaism and being new I think I tried to push her to quick.  sShe sent me a message that said I will contact you if I decide!
Am I best not sending her a message and wait or im I best sending her a message to see how she is ! any advice Thank You


She said She'll contact you if She decides.
How much clearer can that be.

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RE: Help! I need advice - 8/31/2006 3:12:17 PM   
LadyMorgynn


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Status: offline 		I had a sub do that to me just this week.  Spent 20 minutes in IM trying to tell me all the reasons why we should talk on the phone instead of IM, when I had already informed him of my policy regarding IM / phone.  HELLO?  WHO is the Domme here?  So I put him on Ignore and walked away.  The LAST thing I want is some pushy sub demanding to get his way all the time.  Had one of those already, I'll pass on taking on another one!

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RE: Help! I need advice - 9/1/2006 1:18:35 AM   
mons


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Status: offline 		greetings slave

write her and tell her how you felt and let her know you meant not disrespect to her. make sure you beg forgetness but make sure you do not over do as you did before

mons(good luck)

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RE: Help! I need advice - 9/1/2006 12:17:41 PM   
urjules


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Status: offline 		hi everyone ,i used to be a sub , bet ever since i agreed to be a slave to my mistress ,she turned into a different person, she said she had to discipline me in being my slave i hav to prepare you, so she  brought in her friend and tied me in her bathroom  in her basement ..and told me to get in her tub so they can both pee in my mouth together than , they disappereard for awhile and broght back a diaper that they both pooped in and told me to wear it or they will make me eat it so i obeyed ..but her friennd laughed and said i left you a piece and demanded i eat it ...or i will be eating all of it ..so i did and then she put her dirty wet thong in my mouth and told me to wash them..as my mistress was putting her smelly wet panties over my diaper and her stockings on me ...than left me there tied in the tub til morning...and let me go home without showering and said to come back for monday.nite.....i am so upset ..cause my mistress is not like this but turns to this evil mistress once her friend comes over ..i want to serve my mistress..but not her ...wat do i do ..i told my mistress ..and she said whos in charge here...and slapped me......help.      

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RE: Help! I need advice - 9/1/2006 12:34:13 PM   
mnottertail


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RE: Help! I need advice - 9/1/2006 1:37:00 PM   
thetammyjo


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quote:

ORIGINAL: urjules

hi everyone ,i used to be a sub , bet ever since i agreed to be a slave to my mistress ,she turned into a different person, she said she had to discipline me in being my slave i hav to prepare you, so she brought in her friend and tied me in her bathroom in her basement ..and told me to get in her tub so they can both pee in my mouth together than , they disappereard for awhile and broght back a diaper that they both pooped in and told me to wear it or they will make me eat it so i obeyed ..but her friennd laughed and said i left you a piece and demanded i eat it ...or i will be eating all of it ..so i did and then she put her dirty wet thong in my mouth and told me to wash them..as my mistress was putting her smelly wet panties over my diaper and her stockings on me ...than left me there tied in the tub til morning...and let me go home without showering and said to come back for monday.nite.....i am so upset ..cause my mistress is not like this but turns to this evil mistress once her friend comes over ..i want to serve my mistress..but not her ...wat do i do ..i told my mistress ..and she said whos in charge here...and slapped me......help.


If your story is true (sorry, but lots of wankers write similar stuff) then why would you want to go back again? I just don't understand the motivation at all.

No one can legally force you to become her slave, its a choice you make so make the choice to say "good bye" forever -- by that I mean just walk away and don't talk to her any more. That sort of unnegotiated inclusion of another person with the involvement of body fluids (always risky play) would negate ownership in my mind.

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