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How - 12/27/2004 10:35:48 AM

subspaced50

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i am a submissive in So Caif. i am tired of the pro dom world i have been in for the last few years. i want a real relationship based on honesty as opposed to currency. i find it so hard to connect with Female Superiors who have shared interests. i have vanilla responsiblities so i am not a perfect candidate for all but i can not even get started. i lost a long term relationship some time ago and it is a job just trying to find the right Domme to take control.

i stay away from most the clubs and munchies i've been collarized. i go to no other sites. but my question is.

what should i do how should i look what should i say.

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RE: How - 12/27/2004 11:58:42 AM

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quote:

i've been collarized

What does that mean? I'm in So Cal as well. I have to say I don't know of a lot of Fem Doms out there. Even less with collared submissives.

Every now and again a group leader will come by my munch though. I believe there is a group called Ladds? Lads? Los Angeles Dommes or something like that. Have you checked them out?

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RE: How - 12/27/2004 3:44:32 PM

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LADs (Los Angeles Dommes and sub)s http://lads.thorngarden.net/LADs1
Club FEm So Cal Chapter (Females Enslaving males) http://clubfemsocal.com/
San Diego FemDom Club http://groups.yahoo.com/group/asdfemdomclub/
So Cal Bound http://www.socalbound.org/

So Cal SM Events http://groups.yahoo.com/group/SoCalSMEvents/

You are having a problem getting started because of the local ratio of Domme to subs. It seems to be about one to 250. When you take out the pros and leave just us lifestyle people, your ratio skyrockets. You have to get very lucky to get a Domme. Increase your chances by getting out to events and munches. I have no clue what " i stay away from most the clubs and munchies i've been collarized." means, but if you do not take action and work to find your Domme, you never will.

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RE: How - 12/27/2004 3:48:22 PM

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I have no clue what " i stay away from most the clubs and munchies i've been collarized." means,

I'd definately like to know as well. I have a good idea. We've had a few male subs here over the years. The fem doms sort of push them away because of their reputations to top from the bottom. Or to whine too much. Now, these people are well known within the groups. They don't like their reputations. I would'nt either. Yet, we all have reputations.

Although I could be way off track by collarizing as well. Just speaking from my point of view from what I've seen over the years.

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RE: How - 12/27/2004 6:43:20 PM

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San Diego FemDom Club

Beach,

Thank you for posting this link. Ms. Maeve, one of (if not the) founders of this group is a friend and is without a doubt the nicest person I've ever met. So to answer ssd's question .... get involved with local groups ... although we (male subs) outnumber FemDoms by a huge margin, there are Ladies out there looking for sincere, honest, submissive gentlemen. <<The word "gentleman" being the operative theme here>>

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RE: How - 12/27/2004 7:46:21 PM

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We're actually talking about starting a Club FEm discussion group, "How to attract a Domme aka Manners, Speech and Behaviour." The focus of the group would be educating the submissives on how to behave in a social BDSM situation or any contact with a Domme. While some of the "subs" are nothing more than wankers who want someone to fulfill their fantasy, there are more of them who just are clueless. They'd behave if they knew how..

And my pleasure on the SD FemDom club. I work hard at having all the local links and am always adding any I find. I'm more than happy to share them with others. We are a community, even on here. *smiles*

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