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RE: strap on questions - 1/28/2005 7:47:57 AM   
uponmyknees


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Status: offline 		Exsqueeze me, I am a sub male. Forgive me if I don't see the mental picture here.

Most Domme Women don't care about the subs desires in almost all subjects, and yes I too agree that is the way it should be. After all we are here to please you!!

You place a starp-on on and your doing this ...WHY? Is it a need to pound your sub and get what from that?

Is it a treat for him or you? Is this the way to start to feminize him?
Feel more in control? Make him know that YOU are his Mistress? Or just blundent him until he crys?
I don't understand. what a Domme feels? Can you help me?
uponmyknees

ps. would you do it to me.please?

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RE: strap on questions - 1/28/2005 8:18:22 AM   
onceburned


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quote:

I don't understand. what a Domme feels? Can you help me?


Thanks to one of Proudsubs older posts, and GoddessJules more recent post, I can direct you to this thread:

What does the Mistress get out of a strap-0n?

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RE: strap on questions - 1/28/2005 12:50:15 PM   
articulatesub


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quote:

ORIGINAL: victortheo22

Just curious - but if someone were new to it - nver been penetrated - what size strap on would one start them with - to ensure that it is not too painful - and that no injury occurs ?

Any guesses from the experienced user and usee?
I am an experienced usee. I have been penetrated once in my life. I needed two seperate operations to correct the damage. I spent a total of three weeks in bed, and if you think that a strapon hurts, try a rectal fistular operation. That being said, now that I know it takes time to prepare a rectum to take a strap on of any size, I can't wait to let a Mistress train me properly to take hers. Call me nuts!!!!!!!!!!!1

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RE: strap on questions - 1/29/2005 2:46:54 AM   
onceburned


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quote:

ORIGINAL: uponmyknees
I see Women around here don't do this. Why?


Because they are too busy laughing?

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RE: strap on questions - 1/29/2005 9:10:15 AM   
MaitresseEden


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quote:

ORIGINAL: uponmyknees


Most Domme Women don't care about the subs desires in almost all subjects, and yes I too agree that is the way it should be. After all we are here to please you!!

You havn't met many Domme woman or had relationships with many real Lifestyle Dommes then. Most care deeply about their partners desires. In fact it is this matter alon that seperates the good one from the bad in my opinion.

You place a starp-on on and your doing this ...WHY? Is it a need to pound your sub and get what from that?

Is it a treat for him or you? Is this the way to start to feminize him?
Feel more in control? Make him know that YOU are his Mistress? Or just blundent him until he crys?
I don't understand. what a Domme feels? Can you help me?
uponmyknees

All of the above, The control, it can feel good or feel powerful, depending on the style of each stroke.

ps. would you do it to me.please?

well you sure as heck can't rape the willing!

Ms. Eden



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RE: strap on questions - 1/29/2005 12:01:04 PM   
sting516


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MaitresseEden

well you sure as heck can't rape the willing!

Ms. Eden




i guess that is what 'forced bi' is all about lol


sting

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RE: strap on questions - 1/30/2005 5:20:19 AM   
articulatesub


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Status: offline 		There is a HUGE difference between taking a dommes strap on and taking another man's penis. If you think that's what forced bi is all about, you may want to rethink why you are in this lifestyle.
quote:

ORIGINAL: sting516


quote:

ORIGINAL: MaitresseEden

well you sure as heck can't rape the willing!

Ms. Eden




i guess that is what 'forced bi' is all about lol


sting


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RE: strap on questions - 1/30/2005 8:37:15 AM   
stef


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Status: offline 		I can understand the 'forced bi' contingent rather well because their kink is very close to my own. It's only very recently that I've felt comfortable enough to talk about it here. My secret kink is 'forced check cashing.' I hate it when people write me checks and 'force' me to cash them and deposit the money into my bank account. It makes me feel so degraded yet I can't secretly stop this yearning because of the pleasure It gives me.

Will someone please help me!

~stef

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RE: strap on questions - 1/30/2005 10:46:59 AM   
BlkTallFullfig


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quote:

ORIGINAL: articulatesub

There is a HUGE difference between taking a dommes strap on and taking another man's penis.
quote:

ORIGINAL: sting516

i guess that is what 'forced bi' is all about lol
sting



LOL, thanks for clarifying for sting there articulate. M

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RE: strap on questions - 2/6/2005 12:40:39 AM   
victortheo22


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Just curious - but if someone were new to it - nver been penetrated - what size strap on would one start them with - to ensure that it is not too painful - and that no injury occurs ?

Any guesses from the experienced user and usee?
[/quote] I am an experienced usee. I have been penetrated once in my life. I needed two seperate operations to correct the damage. I spent a total of three weeks in bed, and if you think that a strapon hurts, try a rectal fistular operation. That being said, now that I know it takes time to prepare a rectum to take a strap on of any size, I can't wait to let a Mistress train me properly to take hers. Call me nuts!!!!!!!!!!!1

[/quote]
Whoa ! 3 weeks - man! And here I had a domme session planned - or should I say a set of sessions where I was thinking that by the 2nd 3rd session the strap on could be used - at least the small one - well if anyone else has any opinions on whether on that is wise or should I reconsider !
Will be happy for any advice - since it will also save me some serious cash

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RE: strap on questions - 2/6/2005 1:40:27 AM   
BeachMystress


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quote:

ORIGINAL: uponmyknees

Most Domme Women don't care about the subs desires in almost all subjects, and yes I too agree that is the way it should be. After all we are here to please you!!


I agree with Maitresse Eden here.. Why would I be with someone that I didn't care about how he felt or what he wanted. You have some mythical idea of a D/s relationship. A long term Lifestyle relationship is based on love. I can not imagine loving someone and NOT considering his needs and wants. Yes, my sub is going to do some things that are not his "cup of tea" just to please me. But I care deeply about how he feels on most all subjects.

Ok, now to address a pet peeve of mine that your profile brought up... You do not refer to a random Dominant woman by a diminutive. In a relationship, diminutives such as honey, sweetie, sexy or such can be appropriate. Referring to any woman you're not in a relationship with by such terms is an unconscious attempt to take away some of her power and bring her "down" to a level that you're comfortable.

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RE: strap on questions - 4/18/2005 1:46:44 AM   
MissCrystalBlade


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Status: offline 		I dont try to speak for "most Mistresses" but I know I prefer male subs who enjoy or are at least open to strapon play. As to whether or not they will enjoy it, I enjoy it. Anatomically speaking, there is a massive amount of nerves in the anus. Once you are able to relax, you will probably find that you will enjoy it and orgasms, if they are allowed, will be more intense.

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RE: strap on questions - 4/18/2005 5:13:30 AM   
nella


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Status: offline 		i dont see many responses from female subs on this, so here is my two cents. i think that anal play, either whit a strap on by a female Dom or by the real thing can mean different things to different pepole. For me it is a way of submitting, while i have never tried a strap on, me and my Dom enyoy the real thing. For him it is a way of showing power, he can cause pain or plesure by how he moves, and i suspect that by some of the female Dom`s that enyoy this it might be somwhat of the same.

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RE: strap on questions - 4/22/2005 12:47:45 PM   
kc692


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quote:

ORIGINAL: victortheo22

Just curious - but if someone were new to it - nver been penetrated - what size strap on would one start them with - to ensure that it is not too painful - and that no injury occurs ?

Any guesses from the experienced user and usee?

there are many sizes available, many with interchangable heads available on the same harness..Madame Dahlia and Mshoney2, are right, at least in the beginning, start small, and very possibly with something else other than a strap on, to get the anal muscles used to expanding, and work your way up to the strap on..

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RE: strap on questions - 4/22/2005 11:06:07 PM   
BlkTallFullfig


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ORIGINAL: BeachMystress
Ok, now to address a pet peeve of mine that your profile brought up... You do not refer to a random Dominant woman by a diminutive. In a relationship, diminutives such as honey, sweetie, sexy or such can be appropriate.

It's a pet peeve of mine too... I have never liked anyone who doesn't know me addressing me as honey/sweetie... Sexy I can live with, lol..

Sidetracking for a sec, Is there a site that sells strap on harnesses not too expensive? I have a nice leather one, but would like 1 or 2 more for interchanging when I'm using on a regular basis.. M

< Message edited by BlkTallFullfig -- 4/22/2005 11:07:59 PM >

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RE: strap on questions - 4/23/2005 6:26:29 PM   
Spike1777


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Status: offline 		Hi Folks I have a question?

I am new to being a sexually submissive male. Do i need to start (prepare) the anal muscles or do i need to waste time?

little spike

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RE: strap on questions - 4/23/2005 7:10:08 PM   
BlkTallFullfig


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ORIGINAL: Spike1777
I am new to being a sexually submissive male. Do i need to start (prepare) the anal muscles or do i need to waste time? little spike

I'm into it for a variety of reasons: humiliation and power of taking him that way mostly; so don't prepare your anal muscles, you'll take the fun out of it for some of us.
This of course should be a specific question for the Domme with whom you connect, otherwise it doesn't matter at all what you do with your anal muscles. JMO, M


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