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RE: The Monster Inside - 8/17/2006 9:54:50 PM

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RE: The Monster Inside - 8/18/2006 5:51:52 AM

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ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress

what does your inner monster do for fun?
how has your monster gotten you in trouble in the past?
how is your relationship these days with your monster?

the monster inside is also the little girl inside.

she teases for fun.
by teasing and seeking attention
I have a great relationship with my monster. Once and awhile she now allows the adult to take control. LOL

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RE: The Monster Inside - 8/18/2006 7:40:30 AM

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I have been giving this some thought and most of the issues go back to one central problem. I just seem to have an overactive brain. I think too much. I rarely do just one thing at a time, I rarely need to. Example, I almost never just sit and watch a movie. I am usually doing something else at the same time.... reading, cooking, playing on the computer.

Has it gotten me into trouble. Oh hell yes!

My relationship with it. I have learned that having a job that requires alot of multitasking, less mundane, focused detail work, layers of delegation (to catch the detail stuff I miss).
The best way for me to have utter calm and peace is with nature or with my animals. When I am working a horse I can totally block everything else out. I have no sense of time then, no conscious awareness of anything else that is going on. Similar to my limited BDSM experience.

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RE: The Monster Inside - 8/18/2006 2:25:32 PM

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ORIGINAL: gooddogbenji

My inner beast is my ADD -

I knew I liked you, pup. ADD is my inner beast, too! (I suspect you're probably more the hyperactive type? I'm not, so it went undetected until I was an adult.)

I know what you mean about boredom, OMG, I litertally want to scream, rant and rave, if I'm trapped in a situation where I can't amuse my brain. It's literally painful, and I feel like a child about to have a tantrum. I try whenever possible to avoid such situations. Suppressing the angst is just not fun, and I refuse to give into the tantrum that tries to build.

My attention span shifts from obsessively absorbed in something, to unable to recall what was just said to me, 2 minutes previous. Ugh.

Impatience and Impulsivity are my biggest monsters. I beat them down as much a spossible with a huge stick, and things are better than they used to be.

Today most people are shocked if/when they find out I have this. They actually doubt me because I control and hide it so well. (Most of the time...)

I actually believe my S/m interests are a part of my ADD. That's the way the adrenaline junkie in me gets fed. Many ADDers are extreme sports enthusiasts, drug addicted (self-medicating the ADD) or heavy gamblers...Me, I play with S/m to get my safe fix.

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RE: The Monster Inside - 8/18/2006 2:44:20 PM

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I have been giving this some thought and most of the issues go back to one central problem. I just seem to have an overactive brain. I think too much. I rarely do just one thing at a time, I rarely need to. Example, I almost never just sit and watch a movie. I am usually doing something else at the same time.... reading, cooking, playing on the computer.

Has it gotten me into trouble. Oh hell yes!

My relationship with it. I have learned that having a job that requires alot of multitasking, less mundane, focused detail work, layers of delegation (to catch the detail stuff I miss).
The best way for me to have utter calm and peace is with nature or with my animals. When I am working a horse I can totally block everything else out. I have no sense of time then, no conscious awareness of anything else that is going on. Similar to my limited BDSM experience.

LaT, has it ever occurred to you, you may have ADD? This is extremely common for us ADD adults. We need constant brain stimulation, usually can't focus on just one thing at a time, and find it pretty close to impossible to shut our brains off. We're often disorganized, and usually bad at the detail stuff.

Most people think the inability to pay attention to something is what ADD is, but actually it's more a swing from that to the hyper-focus state you mention when working with your horses, that is common in ADD.

Oops, I guess this was an inadvertant hijack, but it just struck me that this post of your's sounds so ADD!

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RE: The Monster Inside - 8/18/2006 3:09:02 PM

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ORIGINAL: Vancouver_cinful

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I have been giving this some thought and most of the issues go back to one central problem. I just seem to have an overactive brain. I think too much. I rarely do just one thing at a time, I rarely need to. Example, I almost never just sit and watch a movie. I am usually doing something else at the same time.... reading, cooking, playing on the computer.

Has it gotten me into trouble. Oh hell yes!

My relationship with it. I have learned that having a job that requires alot of multitasking, less mundane, focused detail work, layers of delegation (to catch the detail stuff I miss).
The best way for me to have utter calm and peace is with nature or with my animals. When I am working a horse I can totally block everything else out. I have no sense of time then, no conscious awareness of anything else that is going on. Similar to my limited BDSM experience.

LaT, has it ever occurred to you, you may have ADD? This is extremely common for us ADD adults. We need constant brain stimulation, usually can't focus on just one thing at a time, and find it pretty close to impossible to shut our brains off. We're often disorganized, and usually bad at the detail stuff.

Most people think the inability to pay attention to something is what ADD is, but actually it's more a swing from that to the hyper-focus state you mention when working with your horses, that is common in ADD.

Oops, I guess this was an inadvertant hijack, but it just struck me that this post of your's sounds so ADD!

Oh yes, I am sure that would I be tested that would be the diagnosis. Both of my kids were and are much like me. They in time rejected the med routine of their own accord for which I am very greatful. For me it is just being aware and gearing my life in a way that makes it more of an asset rather than focus on the negative. It is weird that mundane tasks are almost impossible to focus on yet something that really really interests me, painting, sketching, reading (what I want to read) or the animal training is simple to.

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RE: The Monster Inside - 8/18/2006 3:37:56 PM

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Oh yes, I am sure that would I be tested that would be the diagnosis. Both of my kids were and are much like me.

In most cases when children are diagnosed, one or both of the parents is found to have it, as well. No surprise then. Welcome to the Wacky Wonderful Brain club. LOL It's a circus sometimes, but hey, I like being me.

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They in time rejected the med routine of their own accord for which I am very greatful.

Great news!! The drugs can be very useful, but it's always better if they can handle life without it.

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For me it is just being aware and gearing my life in a way that makes it more of an asset rather than focus on the negative.

Yes, me too. Most adult ADD annoyances can be controlled through inner awareness, behaviour self-modification, and lifestyle choices, as you say. I try to make it as much an asset as I can, as well. Let's just say it's part of our charm!

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It is weird that mundane tasks are almost impossible to focus on yet something that really really interests me, painting, sketching, reading (what I want to read) or the animal training is simple to.

Uh huh, I know what you mean, and it drives people crazy! My friends can't always understand how I can be home all day and not get a single chore done! This is exactly why we're both forum addicts.

At any rate, keeping company with you and benji, that's good company, I say.

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RE: The Monster Inside - 8/18/2006 4:47:46 PM

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Das ungeheuer est enfesselt..........oder?

Mensch meine nerven........

LOL
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That tremendously est enfesselt......... more.oder? Humans my nerves........ HUH?????

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RE: The Monster Inside - 8/18/2006 4:51:16 PM

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sorry for the typing.......ungerheueur

The monster is unchained, or? (colloquial deutsch)
Man, my nerves....... (colloquial deutsch, andres (also))

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RE: The Monster Inside - 8/18/2006 6:24:36 PM

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Hi Susan,

> Every once in a great while, doing something stupidly dangerous, that I really,
> deep down, know better than to risk doing. Like last week-end, when I went to
> that bdsm "play" house alone.

I don't think that was a mistake. In hind sight, you could have had the
bouncer or owner walk you out to your car to make sure you were not
being followed.

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RE: The Monster Inside - 8/18/2006 7:14:44 PM

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ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress

what does your inner monster do for fun?
how has your monster gotten you in trouble in the past?
how is your relationship these days with your monster?

there is a monster in me??? mmmmmmmm gosh... I learn something everyday

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RE: The Monster Inside - 8/18/2006 7:28:57 PM

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