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The stalker is back. I got another note. I am officiall... - 8/18/2006 11:34:49 AM

SusanofO

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I just went out on my front porch to get my mail. I hadn't yet been out there today. I found a white envelope tucked under my front door mat. Inside was a note from you-know-who from last week-end: The guy that followed me home from the bdsm "play" house. It said:

"Meet me at the bdsm house tonight at 9pm. I look forward to seeing you.
How was your trip to France? I would like to hear about it."

This really freaks me out. I am in tears over this. The only way this guy could know I was in France in June was if he was on my porch earlier this week and looked at the pics my dad had developed of that trip I took with my family and that he left for me on my porch swing earlier this week. I've had all of my mail forwarded to a P.O. box. He isn't exactly threatening me now, but I am afraid he might after tonight. The owners of that house say he can't come there anymore, unless they were just saying that to calm me down.

I am asking my vanilla gal friend if she wants to move into my guest room until further notice. She went home on Wednesday afternoon, because things looked like they'd calmed down and this guy was going to leave me alone. I don't think she'll mind.

*I am afraid of what this guy might try to do to me when he goes to that house tonight and finds out he's been banned from playing there again, for harassing me last weekend. I am also re-phoning my neighbors. And the police, who I think stopped their surveillance sometime last week fo my block. I am not sure what else to do here.

Sorry to bug anyone about this. I will shut up about it. But I am nervous about this guy now, more than before, because he is now officially banned from a place he sued to go apparently almost every week-end, because of me. Also, him knowing I was in France just freaks me out. It means he's not only been on my porch again, but that he opened and read my personal mail. Isn't there a law against that?

I am contacting an attorney. I was putting that off, because it seemed extreme. But I am doing it now. Thanks for listening to me rant.

- Susan

< Message edited by SusanofO -- 8/18/2006 11:47:41 AM >

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RE: The stalker is back. I got another note. I am offic... - 8/18/2006 11:39:57 AM

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Susan... When I saw references to a stalker in your posts, i thought you meant a cyber stalker... Damn! This guy needs to be put out of his misery!!! as in: permanently... Have you no male friends to read him the riot act???!!??!!?? Bust him up but good???

If I were there, that's what I would do... Best wishes and good luck -- get a nice big rottweiler while you are at it...

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RE: The stalker is back. I got another note. I am offic... - 8/18/2006 11:40:09 AM

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Waste no time. Call the police. If you got his name from the BDSM house, give it to them, if not, try to get it from those folks. He clearly is a nut job and this isn't an attorney matter, it belongs to the police. In many states, you can file a protection from stalking order also. Ask the police about this. My guess is that once the police contact him, he will be dissuaded from doing so again.

Do you have some friends or family members that can stay with you also? Is your home secure? Do you need to stay AT your friends or family's home for a while?

Good Luck (but act now...not tomorrow, not Sunday)

Sunshine

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RE: The stalker is back. I got another note. I am offic... - 8/18/2006 11:41:23 AM

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call the cops, get a restrainig order ,and dont by all means play the victim. get proactive.and you might want to call the house to let them know aboutthis guy and what he is doing. youve got all kinds of support and use that resource. and DONT shut up about it. this is after all an active and open forum. fact of the matter we may just be online friends but we do care ;)
Gandalf

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RE: The stalker is back. I got another note. I am offic... - 8/18/2006 11:43:05 AM

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You could contact the police to stake the house out and catch Him when He arrives at the house. That would be my suggestion. That way they can send Him a warning and question Him. I would take the letter to them and explain that the house are going to ban him and request they talk to him. Possibly somone at the house can help out with who he is as well and that way the police can deal with him.

If he turns up though susan - or phones or does anything... do not engage him. Dont even look him in the face. Treat him like he is invisable and immediately contact the police.

Peace and Rapture

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RE: The stalker is back. I got another note. I am offic... - 8/18/2006 11:43:36 AM

SCORPIOXXX

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and don't worry about ranting...Rant all you want: it will help you ease the stress... Yes, there are laws abt opening your mail, thelawyer should be able to use that against him...keep all past mail for fingerprints etc...

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RE: The stalker is back. I got another note. I am offic... - 8/18/2006 11:44:08 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Sunshine119

Waste no time. Call the police. If you got his name from the BDSM house, give it to them, if not, try to get it from those folks. He clearly is a nut job and this isn't an attorney matter, it belongs to the police. In many states, you can file a protection from stalking order also. Ask the police about this. My guess is that once the police contact him, he will be dissuaded from doing so again.

Do you have some friends or family members that can stay with you also? Is your home secure? Do you need to stay AT your friends or family's home for a while?

Good Luck (but act now...not tomorrow, not Sunday)

Sunshine

I agree...tis time to act RIGHT NOW and not by going to an attorney but rather, as Sunshine notes, to the police. Lock the doors and either stay at a friend's house (and make sure you go when it is daylight so you can ensure you are not being followed and bringing danger to your friend's place).

Good luck. And call the cops now!!!

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RE: The stalker is back. I got another note. I am offic... - 8/18/2006 11:45:43 AM

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All of the advice you received on your other thread still remains relevant. Take control of the situation.

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RE: The stalker is back. I got another note. I am offic... - 8/18/2006 11:45:44 AM

SusanofO

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Scorpio, he is not a cyber stalker. He is a flesh and blood guy I met last week-end at a bdsm "play" house I visited. He kept trying to pick me up, and I tried to ignore him, but I guess I was too polite about it. he followed me home in his car and he knows where I live. he sent me one note last Saturday, and had left me alone all week. Now he's left another note.

I do have two dgos, so that's good. And a freind who can stay with me (female,but that's okay, I just dont' want to be alone).

I do have a makle submissive friend who is 6 feet and about 180 pounds and fairly muscular. I have no doubt he'd pound this guy if he found him, or saw him try to hurt me - but I have no idea where this guy lives. I haven't even been able to find out his last name.

Apparently, this guy thinks his approach is just fine, and has no idea I consider him a nusiance to my welfare. That is why I am worried. He's already weird enough, and tonight he is going to find out just how much he pissed me off when they tell him he is banned from that house.

- Susan

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RE: The stalker is back. I got another note. I am offic... - 8/18/2006 11:47:33 AM

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*whispers* call the police!

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RE: The stalker is back. I got another note. I am offic... - 8/18/2006 11:50:08 AM

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susan... before this thread goes further... I repeat what I wrote you before... do NOT give out private information (re your post 9) here on the forums, please hunni... for your own sake. We all care about you deeply.

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RE: The stalker is back. I got another note. I am offic... - 8/18/2006 11:51:06 AM

SusanofO

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You know, that's not a bad idea. Maybe I could stay at my friend's place instead of her coming here. Except I have to take care of my doggies - they have to be let in and out, and fed. And it pisses me off to think I'd leave because of this Bozo, even though i amscared enough to do it.

You know, I wouldn't be freaking out as much if the note had just said"Meet me at the house at 9pm".

It was the little bit about France that sent me over the edge. I mean, wouldn't you think he'd know that would freak a person out? I think he is purposely trying to freak me out, and is not just a person w/bad social skills. Unless he thinks it's fine to open other people's personal mail. Those pictures were sealed in an envelope - addressed to Suzie. I think his name is not Suzie.

- Susan

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RE: The stalker is back. I got another note. I am offic... - 8/18/2006 11:51:45 AM

SCORPIOXXX

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Geeze Susan... As Gandolf says, we may not have met but we all are indeed your friends! and as others have said: get the cops on it NOW, not tomorrow... I suppose it's possible that you may have a concern over "discretion" re: your personal life and predilections -- but better a bit of social embarrassment than a trip to the hospital!

If your sub friend can go with you or stay with you, so much the better: if he can pound the asshole without going to jail for it, even more better! Rip his dick out through his throat -- metaphorically, if not literally... Keep us informed!

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RE: The stalker is back. I got another note. I am offic... - 8/18/2006 11:52:24 AM

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That other thread went for many pages and had some good advice on it. I don't understand why you have failed to take any of it. The police are the best resource you have at this time.

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RE: The stalker is back. I got another note. I am offic... - 8/18/2006 11:52:34 AM

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Susan, please read your email.

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RE: The stalker is back. I got another note. I am offic... - 8/18/2006 11:53:12 AM

SusanofO

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I am calling the police - now.
Then I am calling my girl friend. I'll be back in about a half hour.
Thanks for the ear. It helps- a lot.

- Susan

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RE: The stalker is back. I got another note. I am offic... - 8/18/2006 11:55:56 AM

SusanofO

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I did call them. They surveilled the neighborhood all week. I am calling them again right now.

- Susan

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And never stops at all". - Emily Dickinson

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RE: The stalker is back. I got another note. I am offic... - 8/18/2006 11:56:01 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SusanofO
I am calling the police - now.
Then I am calling my girl friend. I'll be back in about a half hour.
Thanks for the ear. It helps- a lot.

- Susan

Oh and call the party house and let them know what's going on. The police just might have to go there if that's the only contact you have for them and it would be a bad surprise. Plus, they should know this next development for when the other person arrives.

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RE: The stalker is back. I got another note. I am offic... - 8/18/2006 11:57:18 AM

MistressLorelei

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This story hits home for me... I had a stalker situation similar to yours. If I were you, I'd call the police, they will check out your residence, but they may not stake it out on an ongoing basis.... I would recommend staying with a friend away from your home for a few days, or at least, have a friend stay with you.

He wants to scare you, it feeds him. Don't feed him more than you have to, but don't go out of your way to 'prove' yourself, threaten him or piss him off.... an angry stalker is the worst of them all... restraining order, or no restraining order. Try to get the authorities, the bdsm house, etc. to take care of him, and provide him no contact with you, until he eventually gets no gratification out of the situation and leaves you alone.

Those are my thoughts anyway... good luck.

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RE: The stalker is back. I got another note. I am offic... - 8/18/2006 11:58:17 AM

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Get a webcam and set it on a inside window sill to monitor your porch.

You can get a software program that will only record video if the scene changes, many are shareware or free.

Unless the idiot is running around face masked in public, you may be able to record his face on his next visit.

Make sure the cops have the items Mr. Genius has handled... unless he is your mailman his prints could be on those articles.

Talk to your mailman also.... ask who's been asking, and if the mailman has seen anyone on your porch, esp reading mail.

The caught on video 'busted' thing is hard to explain to the cops though...

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