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I'm Going Crazy! - 8/20/2006 8:33:43 PM   
Miseri


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Status: offline 		Recently (and I have to admit this was partly my idea), I suggested to my Master that I only be allowed to pleasure myself at his whim. This is hard because he keeps turning me on and leaving me to burn!! He let me masturbate today (I begged him because I couldn't concentrate on our movie), but later on this evening, he was caressing me and I find it hard to handle not taking matters into my own hands later!

I wanted him to have that much extra control and he was pleased that I suggested it.

Any advice on how to deal with this or distract myself?

Thanks!
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RE: I'm Going Crazy! - 8/20/2006 9:00:48 PM   
mstrjx


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Status: offline 		I'll leave this to a short answer (for me).

Between the two of you, a rule has been created.  You can obey the rule, or not.  Other than the obvious, how do you expect to feel for disobeying the rule?  How do you expect your partner to handle your disobedience?

In however you define your power exchange (periodic, 24/7, something inbetween), you have given him the right to set that rule (even though you created it).  Concentrate on your service and obedience and pleasing him in his wishes.  You get rewarded for behaving, something else for not?  Again I ask, do you want to misbehave?  At what cost?

Jeff

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RE: I'm Going Crazy! - 8/20/2006 9:05:58 PM   
gandalf0297


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Status: offline 		ROTFL!! Sorry girl but you created your own misery. live with it*grin*.
Gandalf

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RE: I'm Going Crazy! - 8/20/2006 9:16:09 PM   
maybemaybenot


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ORIGINAL: gandalf0297

ROTFL!! Sorry girl but you created your own misery. live with it*grin*.
Gandalf


My thoughts, exactly !

But you could try re visiting the subject with him and explain yourself as you have here.

Repeated orgasm denial doesn't work too well for me. I turn myself off and lose interest. Note: that is not the same as delayed orgasm.

             mbmbn

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RE: I'm Going Crazy! - 8/20/2006 9:37:57 PM   
popeye1250


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RE: I'm Going Crazy! - 8/21/2006 12:06:43 AM   
porcelaine


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Miseri

Recently (and I have to admit this was partly my idea), I suggested to my Master that I only be allowed to pleasure myself at his whim. This is hard because he keeps turning me on and leaving me to burn!! He let me masturbate today (I begged him because I couldn't concentrate on our movie), but later on this evening, he was caressing me and I find it hard to handle not taking matters into my own hands later!

I wanted him to have that much extra control and he was pleased that I suggested it.

Any advice on how to deal with this or distract myself?



This is a wonderful tool in discipline and focus if you take the time to develop the skills and stop dwelling on the physical discomfort. I have always experienced some form of sexual restriction and found great pleasure in doing so. I endure teasing on a daily basis at unsuspecting moments. But I take comfort in knowing that my angst brings satisfaction to someone else. When I find myself skittish or very aroused I merely center my thoughts and redirect them towards something less enticing. I always follow with a reminder that this is for him and envision his smile as well. You already possess the capacity to do these things. In life we learn that we cannot have what we desire when the mood strikes. Just apply the same theories and concepts to your situation and you'll be just fine. Good luck!

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RE: I'm Going Crazy! - 8/21/2006 5:44:57 AM   
Tikkiee


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ROTFL!! Sorry girl but you created your own misery. live with it*grin*.

LOL pretty much what I was going to say.
You asked for it. Now it's time to put up or shut up

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RE: I'm Going Crazy! - 8/21/2006 6:17:09 AM   
twicehappy


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Status: offline 		I'd like to say you have my sympathy but...... I have two to contend with!

And i love it, i am always ready. They, particularly Scooter make sure I am kept that way, though Jewel can be very teasing herself. It is awesome!

There are those times when you are so ready you just need it now so here are some things to try.

First just go and beg him, try something like "please i need you or want you now". Of course he can say no but he can say yes.

Second and sneaky is tempt him.(ok all you doms and dommes close your eyes this is a sub/slave secret and a very bad thing i am about to advise). Do not be obvious but if he always gets aroused by a certain type of out fit (like short shorts or a dress) or material (like silky stuff) wear that.

Ok i know it is up to the owner whether or not the sub/slave is used but..... Sometimes you can be tempted. You are the dom/domme, not our fault if you suddenly found us particularly arousing.

And porcelaine's advice is excellent and what i do myself until  i get to the point where the door knob is starting to look like a sex toy, lol.

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< Message edited by twicehappy -- 8/21/2006 6:29:30 AM >

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RE: I'm Going Crazy! - 8/21/2006 7:00:31 AM   
onestandingstill


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Status: offline 		One of the lessons hardest learned in my training was I needed to control my sexuality, not allow my ferocious sexuality control me. You realized you also want this part of your service to him controlled as a gift for him & for your growth.
While you really didn't think through your request it indeed will not only build character in you, but it will teach you about how to control your impulses. Maybe you should set a time limit on the test of a month or two & then re-negotiate your feelings. Not to take it out of control of your Sir, just to say you should commit to it without all the negativity for a while and really give it a shot.

I agree with the tease him theory if you really need attention. You know the bend over in a short skirt a lot type of sexy taunting. If he's willing to release your pent up frustration I'm sure he'll take the bait. If not work on your lessons dear. You'll be stronger in the end.
Suzanne

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RE: I'm Going Crazy! - 8/21/2006 7:14:22 AM   
MzTlaz


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Status: offline 		Hmm...what's that old saying? "Biting off more than you can chew"?  How often the fantasy is a bit different from the reality.

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RE: I'm Going Crazy! - 8/21/2006 7:22:39 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Miseri
Recently (and I have to admit this was partly my idea), I suggested to my Master that I only be allowed to pleasure myself at his whim. This is hard because he keeps turning me on and leaving me to burn!! He let me masturbate today (I begged him because I couldn't concentrate on our movie), but later on this evening, he was caressing me and I find it hard to handle not taking matters into my own hands later!

I wanted him to have that much extra control and he was pleased that I suggested it.

Any advice on how to deal with this or distract myself?

Thanks!

I'd just tell you to work on your begging skills (though this might be a great opportunity to do just that!)

And give it time, you'll both get into your respective strides and learn how to cope with the energy shifts.  If you find it's still not working for you, then obviously you two should discuss it and work on it together.

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RE: I'm Going Crazy! - 8/21/2006 7:26:18 AM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		Perhaps he would be willing to allow a set number of "freebies" a month. you get poker chips or something, each one representing a time you have masturbated. Then, he can slowly beging to take away the number of chips. He can also put the stipulation that you have to be in some sort of situation (i.e. he's watching or you can only do it if you can get out of the bondage or something) in order to be able to do it. Just an idea.

Master Fire


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RE: I'm Going Crazy! - 8/21/2006 7:37:49 AM   
MisPandora


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quote:

ORIGINAL: gandalf0297

ROTFL!! Sorry girl but you created your own misery. live with it*grin*.
Gandalf

Too bad.  So sad.

I'd say there's two lessons in this:
1) You'll learn some self-control.
2) You'll learn to stop that jackrabbit mouth from writing checks you can't (or don't want) to cash!

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RE: I'm Going Crazy! - 8/21/2006 4:12:54 PM   
jonathan


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Status: offline 		Be thankful he 1) thinks you have enough self control to handle this on your own and 2) he hasn't started surfing the Neosteel and Goethal's product pages. There could be a belt in your future.

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RE: I'm Going Crazy! - 8/21/2006 4:58:48 PM   
TNstepsout


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Status: offline 		You could take the passive-aggressive route and just pretend that you have lost your interest in sex altogether. Maybe if he sees that you aren't frustrated he'll turn the tables.

Then again, he might figure out you're attempting to manipulate him and make you wait even longer.

Wow, you're in a bad spot.

TN

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RE: I'm Going Crazy! - 8/21/2006 5:04:18 PM   
gooddogbenji


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Status: offline 		No pity for self inflicted pain.

I will, however, have a good chuckle over it.....

*Chuckle chuckle*

Yours,


benji

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RE: I'm Going Crazy! - 8/21/2006 5:35:52 PM   
subinside


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Status: offline 		This might also be a time to work and focus all that pent up sexual energy on your other forms of service.  i'm sure He'd be pleased with the results.. and you're house just might get cleaner all the quicker

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RE: I'm Going Crazy! - 8/21/2006 8:23:49 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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RE: I'm Going Crazy! - 8/22/2006 7:09:25 AM   
RavenMuse


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quote:

ORIGINAL: twicehappy
until  i get to the point where the door knob is starting to look like a sex toy, lol.


Damn good job I had just finished My coffee just then young lady! That could have been messy and My keyboard isn't keen on caffine!

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Ha! Defused it!

To the OP. You submitted to it, stick to it... the fact that it isn't easy is part of what makes it enjoyable. Maybe focus on the pleasure you are bringing him will help you through.

When the two of you are together, let it show, beg. If he doesn't want you to do so then he will tell you, but let him know just how difficult you are finding it... he MAY choose to do something about it... or he may just enjoy your struggle, either way you bring him pleasure


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RE: I'm Going Crazy! - 8/22/2006 7:20:08 AM   
ragazza


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Miseri

Recently (and I have to admit this was partly my idea), I suggested to my Master that I only be allowed to pleasure myself at his whim. This is hard because he keeps turning me on and leaving me to burn!! He let me masturbate today (I begged him because I couldn't concentrate on our movie), but later on this evening, he was caressing me and I find it hard to handle not taking matters into my own hands later!

I wanted him to have that much extra control and he was pleased that I suggested it.

Any advice on how to deal with this or distract myself?

Thanks!


Deal with it by focusing on why you wanted him to control this in the first place.  Be glad when you are able to overcome it every time you overcome it. 

I don't think you should distract yourself, by being able to hold off you are submitting to him even more.

Enjoy that control.

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