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LadyHugs -> RE: Stating opinions vs. beating someone to death with them. (8/21/2006 3:46:21 PM)
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Dear mistoferin, Ladies and Gentlemen;
I do proffer, that there is a difference between discussion, arguments, debate, lectures, teaching, questioning and or interrogations and or a statement.
In reading the posts, how it is posted often sets the 'tone' or attitude. So many have different personalities and at times they may have different accounts as to add into the posting exchange. I do try to respond to anything that isn't lecture, interrogations or arguments.
To often, I see individuals who are complete strangers to each other and go at it as enemies. Some just enjoy hurting others publicly--perhaps the need to hurt others as they are inferior. The healthy exchanges are challenging the topic, as to inquire how people have come to the summary of their belief on the matter. In my mind's eye, I will add that it walks on the edge to challenge facts, as not everybody comes to their facts in the same manner and the effects are individual. Credibility is often an assumption and from the view of someone else. Often those in personality conflicts will use credibility as a hammer but, not often can people provide proof but, indeed lived their lives factually and truthfully. For example, an author of known works wrote that there was no such thing as Euro-BDSM and gave many excuses as to why this is fact. However, I proffered to a group that was taking this author's written article as gospel; that if an American military family stationed overseas, was introduced and brought up in the European 'theater' of BDSM; that they do not exist, they are not for real, that any reference to that lifestyle overseas is somebody who lies. Having met the author face to face and see them interact with others, I'm sure he wouldn't be invited as they have an arrogant attitude. I'm sure I'll never have them on my party list. [Chuckles] So, it might be a case of sour grapes. So to, many of us when we age, loose our references as they die. So, the question is--since we cannot produce a body to give an oath or testimony, that "so-in-so" did indeed go through this or that in BDSM, S&M, M/s and or D/s; does that mean their credibility is then to be tarnished? And, it would be no different for any of you; to which had experiences in the lifestyle and shared knowledge with others. What happens when that partner perishes? Does it make your life any less valid. So, this is why I wish to add my caution about challenging credibility. Even on top of that, one can be in the same room with ten other people and the ten others will all see something different and come to their logical summary differently.
What I enjoy, is being presented with many perceptions, the many ways individuals come to their conclusions and, enjoy a kind and gentle exchange as to provoke thought on things.
Lovely topic mistoferin. Thank you.
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs
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