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Selecting for Service - 12/30/2004 8:35:29 AM

MHOO314

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Although My ultimate search is for an LRT D/s relationship, I find I would like to take on a few purely service subs/slaves, can I get some advice how you started? What did you have them do, what rules did they live by, how was it structured? Im open to any suggestions,

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RE: Selecting for Service - 12/30/2004 11:09:47 AM

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ORIGINAL: MHOO314

Although My ultimate search is for an LRT D/s relationship, I find I would like to take on a few purely service subs/slaves, can I get some advice how you started? What did you have them do, what rules did they live by, how was it structured? Im open to any suggestions,

There are a number of service orientated and some not so service orientated slaves that come and serve Me from time to time. Two I have more than a casual interest in, the rest serve time with Me when I can fit them in.

As an example I had one come over early Wednesday morning last week to run a bubble bath for Me while I slept and to leave a cooked breakfast waiting in the warmer. His instructions were to not disturb Me but to text My phone when his duties were done. He does this often and I may or may not call him to come back to clean the bath.

Others do gardening and lawn mowing, car servicing, etc.

They all are required to bring a gift...that can be as simple as the morning newpaper if I request it. It is not the gift that counts, it is the act of them having to go out of their way to find it and bring it.

Mostly I have found all subs will happily be service orientated and don't do anything special to create it. It is all simply part of serving Me and/or a Dominant Woman. For Me I use it as a barometer for their future. If they can handle the mundane stuff without question then their submission earns My respect.

Hope this helps some.

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RE: Selecting for Service - 12/30/2004 7:18:43 PM

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all subs will happily be service orientated

Welllll .... not all. I've heard quite a few stories from Dommes who've sent 'subs' packing when the 'subs' learned the Domme's idea of 'service' didn't involve physical contact.

I love providing services, and although I always try to bring something with me (flowers, foot gel, etc), I would be offended if the Domme expected me to bring valuable gifts. Although this sounds cheap on my part, the true value of the gift should be in the sentimental aspect of me selecting it for her, wrapping it, and presenting it to her. But I'm screwy .... if I don't feel any chemistry between her and I, I don't pursue her attention as my Dominant. However, I've become good friends with a couple of Domme's I've played with. So if I brought something of more than modest value, it would be because I value her friendship ... and not because I needed to do so to 'feel' submissive.

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RE: Selecting for Service - 1/1/2005 8:00:54 AM

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all subs will happily be service orientated

Welllll .... not all. I've heard quite a few stories from Dommes who've sent 'subs' packing when the 'subs' learned the Domme's idea of 'service' didn't involve physical contact.
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You make the mistake alwayzron of thinking of these men as submissives ... in the sense of this thread is anyway.

The rest of your post totally second guesses the concept of been required to bring a gift as I outlined in My post as been about women demanding this and that and that a required gift is somehow distasteful. You completely failed to see the the ritual nature of the act.

Put it another way...I use the same ritual tendancies when subs arrive at My home...if they have a cellphone they have to text Me and seek permission to enter My home...if they don't I don't answer the door.

Rituals work because they allow Mistresses to impart little 'memory triggers' ...in the case of the slave having to bring me the morning newspaper as a gift...for weeks after...everytime the sub goes to buy a morning newspaper he will be *thinking* of the Mistress.

You really should think more before you post and ask yourself am I responding to the question based on what I think the person is saying or its a trigger topic of mine and I can't help myself? Or do I really understand the author's viewpoint?

Jasmyn

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