He/She's Just Not That Into You

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LotusSong -> He/She's Just Not That Into You (8/22/2006 11:43:19 AM)
What is your first clue?

juliaoceania -> RE: He/She's Just Not That Into You (8/22/2006 11:49:00 AM)
When they quit calling/returning calls... I just say "okayyyyy" and break off all communication, I do not need to push myself at anyone. Better to look at what shows a person is "into you" They call often The return calls The talk about things they would like to do in the future and talk about it as if they will be doing those things with you They seem genuinely interested in your day They miss you when you are not there They feel they want to explain tardiness with specifics, and they are rarely late. The buy you things for holidays and birthdays They think of things that you may like They do not like the idea of you going to places where you may meet other singles before they are exclusive with you, even though they do not voice it this way or demand you not go I am sure I could think of more...

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: He/She's Just Not That Into You (8/22/2006 11:49:22 AM)
The first clue that I am not into someone is not calling them, not answering their calls or returning their voice mails promptly. What I sense in others tends to be not making spending time with me a priority.

MissyRane -> RE: He/She's Just Not That Into You (8/22/2006 11:49:34 AM)
You find excuses to be able to avoid them You all of a sudden forgotten how to use the "call" button when you see they've been trying to reach you They don't care about what you've been doing at all, ever. Things end up casual and you feel the luuuuv just starting to slide without knowing about any problems that could cause the intimacy to disappear or at least decrease One doesn't have the time for the other anymore..etc

LotusSong -> RE: He/She's Just Not That Into You (8/22/2006 11:52:35 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: juliaoceania When they quit calling/returning calls... I just say "okayyyyy" and break off all communication, I do not need to push myself at anyone. Better to look at what shows a person is "into you" They call often The return calls The talk about things they would like to do in the future and talk about it as if they will be doing those things with you They seem genuinely interested in your day They miss you when you are not there They feel they want to explain tardiness with specifics, and they are rarely late. The buy you things for holidays and birthdays They think of things that you may like They do not like the idea of you going to places where you may meet other singles before they are exclusive with you, even though they do not voice it this way or demand you not go I am sure I could think of more... All of the above can be used as the gently "let you down easy"..let's just stick to the other side of the equasion here :)

juliaoceania -> RE: He/She's Just Not That Into You (8/22/2006 11:55:36 AM)
Um, I cannot relate to the other side of the equation, because if people do not return my calls in a timely manner, I usually cut off all contact, and they do not want to know why, because they "just were not into me". I do not know how to relate to the other side of it because to put up with someone just not into me is a completely foreign concept. If they are into you, they are going to return your phone calls, if they don't then you are chasing your tail.

Estring -> RE: He/She's Just Not That Into You (8/22/2006 12:00:20 PM)
They vomit everytime you get close?[;)]

LaTigresse -> RE: He/She's Just Not That Into You (8/22/2006 12:02:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Estring They vomit everytime you get close?[;)] That would pretty much clue me in.[:D]

abytchgoddess4u -> RE: He/She's Just Not That Into You (8/22/2006 12:35:59 PM)
Definitely not returning calls or emails. Doesn't matter so much after you know and trust one another, but in the initial stages it's a huge red flag. That's when they get placed firmly in the "acquaintance" category.

LotusSong -> RE: He/She's Just Not That Into You (8/22/2006 12:37:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Estring They vomit everytime you get close?[;)] nah.. it could be Rainbow Play :)

MistressLorelei -> RE: He/She's Just Not That Into You (8/22/2006 12:46:59 PM)
I get stuck with mixed signals. Like not returning e-mails, or saying he/she will call that day, but they don't call for two days.... but at the same time, they give you nice presents, or say the nicest things when he/she does call.

MistressMaamNH -> RE: He/She's Just Not That Into You (8/22/2006 12:57:14 PM)
If at the end of the day/week, I feel I've expended more energy than I have gotten (or will get) in return. ( I'm not just talking about the normal fluctuations-I'm talking the overall balance) And My gut tells Me I'm simply trying too hard. That's pretty much My que to step back and re-evaluate. MMNH

Emperor1956 -> RE: He/She's Just Not That Into You (8/22/2006 1:08:39 PM)
quote: LotusSong (who really needs to get another form of distraction smile says: What is your first clue? And later: All of the above can be used as the gently "let you down easy"..let's just stick to the other side of the equasion here :) The restraining order. E.

Lashra -> RE: He/She's Just Not That Into You (8/22/2006 1:16:14 PM)
They are always doing something when you want to do something with them. You call them and the conversation from their side is mostly "uh huh, yeah look I gotta go. I'll call you later." and they never do. They only contact you when they want sex and then its usually rushed and out the door they go until the next time they are hard up. ~Lashra

juliaoceania -> RE: He/She's Just Not That Into You (8/22/2006 1:21:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lashra They are always doing something when you want to do something with them. You call them and the conversation from their side is mostly "uh huh, yeah look I gotta go. I'll call you later." and they never do. They only contact you when they want sex and then its usually rushed and out the door they go until the next time they are hard up. ~Lashra This is the mistake I have seen friends make over and over and over. If they had found better things to do than call people that do not return calls, and were too "busy" for someone that treated them as an after thought... then they probably wouldn't have a repeat experience of the guy calling them when they were hard up....sighs

UtopianRanger -> RE: He/She's Just Not That Into You (8/22/2006 11:27:09 PM)
quote: What is your first clue? There's a certain type of coldness that's associated with a self-centeredness that one needs to look for.... And when they see it /recognize it.....shut the door and run like hell! [;)] quote: ORIGINAL: juliaoceania When they quit calling/returning calls... I just say "okayyyyy" and break off all communication, I do not need to push myself at anyone. Better to look at what shows a person is "into you" They call often The return calls The talk about things they would like to do in the future and talk about it as if they will be doing those things with you They seem genuinely interested in your day They miss you when you are not there They feel they want to explain tardiness with specifics, and they are rarely late. The buy you things for holidays and birthdays They think of things that you may like They do not like the idea of you going to places where you may meet other singles before they are exclusive with you, even though they do not voice it this way or demand you not go I am sure I could think of more... Damn Julia.... That was good [;)] - R

RavenMuse -> RE: He/She's Just Not That Into You (8/23/2006 4:45:45 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LotusSong What is your first clue? Noticing that there seems to be a lack of interest in their communication. Mails, calls ect. seem distracted and/or rushed. If I know there maybe other important things going on, I may have some patience and understanding for a while... but if it continues then it is a definate clue. Once noticed, if it doesn't resolve itself reasonably quickly then I will bring things to a head and confront them over it, either fix it or end it! Lack of effort in communication almost allways equates to a lack of interest in the relationship!

DesertRat -> RE: He/She's Just Not That Into You (8/23/2006 8:14:23 AM)
I had plenty of clues...which I chose to ignore. I took a few kind words and gestures and expanded them to fill all the voids. Bob

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