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Starting out.. - 8/22/2006 2:14:32 PM

SpencerXLaura

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Me and my girl, to both our excitement, have finally comfirmed our true desires to one another. In one quick line a, compromise of both ouf both out fantasy would be me being simmissive to the point of feminization and anal play. But--throughout most of our sex life I have been the more assertive and dominating one. Not nessisarily because I desired to be, rather we just hadnt become comfortable and secure with one another to now do so. So basicly, what I am saying in all this is that there any advice on making this transistion from "vanilla sex" to what we seek easier/comfortable/succussful? We are taking it slow and feeling it out, but just want a little guidance in initiating this new part of our life.

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RE: Starting out.. - 8/22/2006 2:17:12 PM

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You really are doing as best as you can by talking and enjoying together. Other than the technical know-how information, what you're doing with eachother is exactly what you should, and what will keep you going in the long term.

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RE: Starting out.. - 8/22/2006 6:57:09 PM

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COuldnt have asked for better resource links, thanks for taking the time

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RE: Starting out.. - 8/22/2006 9:36:17 PM

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LA is the resident link puller *grins*

Taking your time and placing one foot in front of the other is the best way to continue into your journey of discovery. Keep all the lines of communication open and discuss things before you play, give your partner a good idea of what things you would like to try, and as you try these things talk with your partner, let her know which things you like, which you dont. In the end you'll both probably end up with a laundry list of great play time things to add to your relationship.

One thing too be mindful of though, dont get frusterated and discourgaed. Once the doors have been opened some people tend to get caught up in the whirlwind of omg I have to try this, this, this, and this RIGHT NOW!!! and when they dont get everything all at once they become frusterated and bored, just remember to go slow and enjoy the explorations.

Good Luck to ya.

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