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RE: possible punishments ?? - 8/23/2006 2:24:00 PM

thetammyjo

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Painplay can be almost anything -- beyond the traditional spanking and flogging.

Fingernails zipped over the skin can be very painful but also very intimate -- close physical contact afterall.

I'd recommend some reading together -- both in a new relationship, she's a new top, you're a switch, so reading might inspire both of you. You can chose fiction or non-fiction (look at book threads for suggestions) but then just experiment in small doses and listen/watch for feedback.

Watching movies or television shows might also be inspiring -- which ones I can't say because each of us finds different things interesting.

Just encourage each other to be and do in the moment. I think the hottest SM we do is that which comes from deep inside of us and is driven by passion. Never forget safety -- don't bite so hard you draw blood the first time (or maybe even after depending on your first aid skills and your disease status). Fleshy parts of the body are generally safer targets.

On your side as the bottom here give feedback. Positive, even when you are suggesting something wasn't too good, is a better route to go. Tops feel a lot of insecurity when they start out, especially anyone taught that we don't hurt others. SM is hurting others -- we might say its "intense stimulation" but it is hurting not harming (there's my key difference).

Think about how you feel when you top, isn't it nice to know what you are doing is well-received? Think about how you'd like to hear suggestions. I think that if you use your empathy as someone who also tops you can figure out how to approach her with ideas and feeback really well.

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RE: possible punishments ?? - 8/24/2006 6:33:55 AM

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So, you want "explicite" details about a possible punishment? Well drop your socks and grab your cock, here's the best punishment I have ever used on a sub and in EXPLICIT detail...ready? got the lube out?

First, I made him put on his underwear, then his socks, next his pants, then his shirt and finally a black knit ski mask but I had him put it on backwards, so that he was fully and completely covered with not an inch of skin showing. Then I walked him over to the corner of my closet and placed a napkin between his nose and the wall. I had secretly marked the napkin so that I would know if he dropped it. I told him to stay there until I came back for him. I left him there all day long.

This was the most effective punishment for this particular sub. I hope it helped you, but I'm sure it didn't.

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RE: possible punishments ?? - 8/24/2006 7:06:49 AM

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I like that!! hehe

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RE: possible punishments ?? - 8/24/2006 10:44:44 AM

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It seems your use of the word punishment is rather different than what many people use the word for. For me, punishment is meant to correct misbehaviour. As far as play is concerned, shouldn't you leave that up to your Domme and your limits?

I do have a couple sites you and her might like to look at. They have some nice ideas. I definately second getting a copy of S&M 101.

http://no.place.like.home.mindspring.com/abbot/articles/jl980105.htm Flogging

http://www.thedomsview.com/ Although a magazine made mostly by Dominants for Dominants, it typically has a lot of good all around info.

http://www.ecstagony.com/eng/spanking.htm more on impact play

http://www.thebrc.net/articles/indexes/a_d.shtml this has a lot of information on a wide variety of topics.

I'm having a hard time finding some of the stuff I had in my links. So hope this helps.

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RE: possible punishments ?? - 8/26/2006 8:01:00 PM

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wow.... Everone ripped this guy a new one.......I am sure he has learned allot from this...lol..Although I must say in regards to Miss Tress......cruel indeed.....I have found it hard to stay in the corner for an hour never mind all day......Fantastic.....lol

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RE: possible punishments ?? - 8/27/2006 11:43:41 AM

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Hmmmm .... my two favorites are:

One:
They remove their clothing and are 24/7 nude for 10 days (which is long enough for my household). During that time, I have anywhere between 1 and 3 vanilla friends come to call, it never fails. On one occasion of this punishment use, one of my friends asked if HE could touch her (she was lesbian). I said 'yes' ... the slave just about fainted when I order her to 'presentation' position and let him touch her. He just wanted to pet her hair, that's all. she didn't know that though ... I did. The offense was NEVER repeated by her. I've used that punishment 3 times, very effectively.

TWO:
The slave (this one was female) wore only her skirt, no underwear and a tank top, no bra. I took her to the local mall and found the busiest bathroom I could fine. I told her to strip and kneel with her elbows on the floor. I took my favorite toy *giggles* and had some interesting ass play for about 10 minutes. I gave her permission to speak and she kept whimpering that she was sorry and how she would never do it again and all sorts of wonderful thing. Silly girlie kept panting on and on about visitors coming in. She never found out I had indeed locked the door *snickers* and she never did the offense again.

Hope those help *lol*

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RE: possible punishments ?? - 8/27/2006 1:21:35 PM

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Well one or two come to mind, but for true really intense all consuming painplay I would suggest your Mistress have you totally naked collar and cuffs only (of course!!!!) then lead you to the garage by your c***, striding in a totally Dommely fashion in her 6 inch spike heeled thigh high boots. She should lead you over to the car, all the while whispering naughty things to you...calling you pet names...feeding your every fantasy. At this point she should try to bend over in her skin tight black leather mini skirt and corset, (allowing you to see that she has no knickers on) and open the car door. She can then forcefully bend you over and place her spike heeled boot on your neck whilst balancing on the other foot...and repeatedly and firmly slam the door on your head. Very very painful.

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RE: possible punishments ?? - 8/31/2006 7:41:59 PM

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A Domme I correspond with suggested making a sub hold a quarter to the wall with his nose, while squatting.

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RE: possible punishments ?? - 8/31/2006 7:58:25 PM

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i would appreciate some help on possible punishments and please be explicite... i have meet a lovely lady and we have decided that we would like to explore the bdsm scene.. i am a sub and like pain and she would be my mistress. I have very little experience except for spanking and she is new too but we have decided to explore... my quuestion is for some suggestions for punishments ( dealing with pain ) that my mistress could to do me when i have been a bad boy.. thanks

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RE: possible punishments ?? - 8/31/2006 8:04:18 PM

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Hi hightide01

i would suggest checking out the local BDSM groups. If i remember correctly there is a group called the Black Rose ( http://www.br.org/ ) , an active group in your area. Check out the training seminars. There are also many online BDSM groups on Yahoo. Also fun is consulting with a local Mistress for fun and training...

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DUH! - 8/31/2006 9:56:51 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: hightideo1

i would appreciate some help on possible punishments and please be explicite...

Yanno, if you're going to troll for this stuff, at least friggin spell EXPLICIT right, wouldja?

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