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RE: Where to find a DOMME - 8/23/2006 5:38:22 PM

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that was a fantastic piece. I hope it's ok to refer boys here to read it - all the boys.

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RE: Where to find a DOMME - 8/23/2006 5:52:02 PM

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No problem. :)

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RE: Where to find a DOMME - 8/23/2006 6:18:46 PM

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dear ladder 04,greetings,
i know ;thank god for pro.'s,
anyway .... ;even tops, with dungeons have, at home slaves ,or slave-husbands; if you find a domme else where; it's, by word of mouth ;recommendation ,application;or by being choosey yourself;

raps are info. places ,and, S and M clubs are places to collect numbers and decide later ;but, keep ,following your heart ;don't look, in 'vanilla-land' ,for the mistress of a lifetime ,unless SHE knew you were there ,and ,or was hiding out;

mistresses who are ridgid tops ;pro or not ;are so private,and,in need of total control ; i'd have to be vendictive to say i know a desperate ;alone; top; where you could climb the ladder to her heart and bedroom window;or make a perfect application on her backyard balcony;but, slow pursuit is more long lasting,than reliable sessions;

, at least you can remember how you got to the rite-place , in time ,
so...........,unless you are absolutely sure ;WHO ; where and, when ;this mistress is available to you and is considering you as a personal attendant, or private slave ,for her personal service; you can't go, at top speed ;
even ,if you're at the top of your class...., slavo ,

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I am a sub wanting to know the best way to find and meet a domme that does not work in a dungeon. But a mistress who in her personal life wants a sub to serve her to be her pet and play toy. I have visited the pro dommes I enjoy it very much but looking to find somewhere else to meet dominant women in the bdsm lifestyle.

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RE: Where to find a DOMME - 8/23/2006 6:51:35 PM

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OMG! This is TOO funny. I had JUST finished reading LotusSong's post when I opened up this email on another site:

snipped "I like giving pleasure, I am very oral and very good at it." That's word for word.

Unbelievable.

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RE: Where to find a DOMME - 8/23/2006 6:52:53 PM

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ORIGINAL: TNstepsout

OMG! This is TOO funny. I had JUST finished reading LotusSong's post when I opened up this email on another site:

snipped "I like giving pleasure, I am very oral and very good at it." That's word for word.

Unbelievable.

Cut and past my post to him :)

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RE: Where to find a DOMME - 8/23/2006 7:29:02 PM

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Though a Domme could find herself in any pants of mine that she wants.
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RE: Where to find a DOMME - 8/23/2006 9:00:18 PM

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I tried to do a search for a munch but I did not find any from the search. I tried to find groups also but was not able to get a group that I could get good info on. Only 3 groups came up. If you know of a better place to check or to find where the munches are I would appreciate it

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RE: Where to find a DOMME - 8/23/2006 9:03:56 PM

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How do you find the lifestyle out in the community. If it is kept quiet who is and isn't in the lifestyle how do you find them. Do not know of any clubs or who to ask about gatherings or parties

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RE: Where to find a DOMME - 8/23/2006 9:20:19 PM

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I think DommesRus has a sale on this week

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RE: Where to find a DOMME - 8/23/2006 9:52:58 PM

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The Society of Janus is a great source for finding local munches, their website is soj dot org.

For me...I find a Domme everytime I put my heels on!

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RE: Where to find a DOMME - 8/24/2006 5:31:37 AM

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How do you find the lifestyle out in the community. If it is kept quiet who is and isn't in the lifestyle how do you find them. Do not know of any clubs or who to ask about gatherings or parties

Google the words "munch" + "your area" (and areas that are local enough for you to drive to) + "BDSM". I just googled BDSM munch Ohio and got 1,240,000 hits.   Of those, there ought to be at least half a dozen mailing lists you can get on for munch announcements.

When you go to local events, behave yourself. Make friends with everyone. Show that you're a decent person.   Dont just fixate on females that look like a stereotypical fiction Dominatrix and mope around after them.

When you're online (which you are) there is NO excuse not to have a profile with a couple paragraphs up about yourself as a person (which means you're not rambling on about how you are the most oral and subliest sub - more like hey, I work in the computer industry, I'm single, no kids, enjoy biking and hiking - whatever). Include a little about what you're looking for in a relationship (beatings once a month, something that develops into a life partnership, something in between).   Put a g-rated picture up. I'll agree that meeting people in person is best, but I've had a lot of people come up to me at local events saying I've seen your CM/alt profile and/or read your posts. Since you're here - make your presence obvious and leave a good impression.

Spend some time reading and educating yourself about lifestyle BDSM. Use that information to see how that applies to YOUR life, what YOU are ultimately looking for, what YOU ultimately want. Do everythign you can to break that stereotypical vision you have of a Domme as someone in a dungeon waiting for you with whips and bondage racks to play whenever you want to.   It's not what lifestyle Dommes are about.

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RE: Where to find a DOMME - 8/24/2006 5:33:58 AM

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They're over there--------------------------------------------------->

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RE: Where to find a DOMME - 8/24/2006 12:04:10 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsSonnetMarwood

quote:

ORIGINAL: LADDER04

How do you find the lifestyle out in the community. If it is kept quiet who is and isn't in the lifestyle how do you find them. Do not know of any clubs or who to ask about gatherings or parties

Google the words "munch" + "your area" (and areas that are local enough for you to drive to) + "BDSM". I just googled BDSM munch Ohio and got 1,240,000 hits.   Of those, there ought to be at least half a dozen mailing lists you can get on for munch announcements.

When you go to local events, behave yourself. Make friends with everyone. Show that you're a decent person.   Dont just fixate on females that look like a stereotypical fiction Dominatrix and mope around after them.

When you're online (which you are) there is NO excuse not to have a profile with a couple paragraphs up about yourself as a person (which means you're not rambling on about how you are the most oral and subliest sub - more like hey, I work in the computer industry, I'm single, no kids, enjoy biking and hiking - whatever). Include a little about what you're looking for in a relationship (beatings once a month, something that develops into a life partnership, something in between).   Put a g-rated picture up. I'll agree that meeting people in person is best, but I've had a lot of people come up to me at local events saying I've seen your CM/alt profile and/or read your posts. Since you're here - make your presence obvious and leave a good impression.

Spend some time reading and educating yourself about lifestyle BDSM. Use that information to see how that applies to YOUR life, what YOU are ultimately looking for, what YOU ultimately want. Do everythign you can to break that stereotypical vision you have of a Domme as someone in a dungeon waiting for you with whips and bondage racks to play whenever you want to.   It's not what lifestyle Dommes are about.

I can only strongly DITTO what MsSonnetMarwood has been kind enough to share.
And here is a link that might be helpful:
A beginners guide to Munches
http://www.soj.org/articles/A%20Beginners%20Guide%20to%20BDSM%20Munches.htm

Let Me know if the link doesn't work, but it should be fine, and is a user friendly introduction of what to expect and how to behave at a munch.

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Real Time Lifestyle Dominants - 8/24/2006 8:22:14 PM

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You will find more lifestyle Dominants in the local communities. Get out and attend a much or two and make it know you are seeking a lifestyle Dominant.

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RE: Where to find a DOMME - 8/24/2006 8:28:39 PM

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Post a profile. Answer a profile. Intelligently. Go to local parties. Join groups. Get out there. It isn't easy, but it is not impossible. I am currently serving one of the most dominant and beautiful women you will ever see. Met her at a scene party. This is not my first female dominant relationship. You have to put in the work. I honestly think that guys who are never in service to a woman just are not trying hard enough. Especially in the internet age. No excuses.

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RE: Where to find a DOMME - 8/25/2006 6:46:04 PM

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There is a group called the Purple Rose Socitey up in Akron Ohio, if you ever make it up this way and would like to go, e-mail me on the other side I can give you the info you'd need

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RE: Where to find a DOMME - 8/26/2006 3:45:47 AM

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Hello,
I suggest you find out where the lifestylers hang out and what events are on in your local area. Its a great way to meet like minded people on a social level.
Good Luck with your search ...

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RE: Where to find a DOMME - 8/26/2006 6:28:15 PM

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I have had good sucsees as well with online meetings..although it does take allot of work and Most meeetings, that get even to the face to face stage will not work out for a wide varioty of resions......Perstistance is key when seeking to meet online....munches and public dungeons work also..However, somtimes I have found theses places can be very "clickish" ....especially when entering as a single sub male.....In my experiance the "comunity" events and meetings seem more open and freindly when I have had a Mistress with me

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RE: Where to find a DOMME - 8/27/2006 3:23:47 PM

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to loose the respect for each other in the role we are taking , most of all at risk is that adrenalin flow that we all need disappears.

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RE: Where to find a DOMME - 8/27/2006 6:28:36 PM

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I actually have read all your (Domme) replies (all you non Domme types, Sssshhhhhhhhhh).

Ya know....you are all a LOT more forgiving than I am.

WAYYYYY the hell more.

(Ain't gonna go there...)

I'm impressed with your answers.

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