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MistressCamille -> RE: Nude at home all the time - a reasonable demand? (8/25/2006 6:25:19 AM)

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ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie




This was a requirement for awhile.  And then I had a grease splatter while cooking, which left little red dots across the breasts.  So I had to learn to cook more carefully.  In the winter I was allowed to wear pants and a (cardigan-type) sweater.  After awhile I asked if he would allow a bra, lest I be sagging and dragging by the time I'm 50.  The request was granted.


Problem is, it's the bra that causes sagging. It doesn't allow you to use the ligaments that hold them up so they atrophy, just like what happens when you don't exercise your muscules.

(sorry to be so off topic)



mistoferin -> RE: Nude at home all the time - a reasonable demand? (8/25/2006 6:36:20 AM)

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ORIGINAL: MistressCamille
Problem is, it's the bra that causes sagging. It doesn't allow you to use the ligaments that hold them up so they atrophy, just like what happens when you don't exercise your muscules.


Wow....I bet all those National Geographic ladies are going to want to know that.



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Nude at home all the time - a reasonable demand? (8/25/2006 7:02:58 AM)

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1.  Be nude at home all the time.
2.  Unless the doorbell rings, then put on some clothes before you answer it.

Simple, no?


Ditto.  And that's why I have lots of robes.  I can just toss one on quickly and then take it off just as easily. 

I'm not ordered to be naked at home, I just prefer it unless I'm frying something in the kitchen. 

As far as the heat, that's what comforters and warm fuzzy blankets are for!  Although sometimes begging for socks might be nice.



Padriag -> RE: Nude at home all the time - a reasonable demand? (8/25/2006 7:09:50 AM)

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ORIGINAL: SusanofO

Is this a reasonable request? I've read that some Dominants and Masters want their submissives or slaves to be nude at home all the time. They are simply not allowed to wear clothes in the home. I am wondering how this actually works for them in a practical sense.

I am not ashamed of nudity, but - what if a pizza delivery man or a mail person, or a friend or relative comes to the door who either 1) Is not aware of their bdsm life-style or 2) Doesn't necessarily want to see them nude? What then?

I see this listed as a "requirement" for potential submissives and slaves in some Dominant profiles, and am wondering if they actually do live this way, or are mostly just fantasizing and hoping someone will agree to it someday.

What say you?

You already know my feelings on this.  It can be both reasonable and practical for some, for others not so much.  It takes using some common sense and keeping in mind the environment you must deal with.

For example, if the dom lives in a college dorm with a room mate... not so practical.  If the dom lives in a private home in the country with no close neighbors... much, much more practical.  If you live in the artic circle, not so practical.  If you live in a warm climate, much more practical.  If grandma lives in the spare bedroom, not so practical.  If family doesn't visit often and that is usually planned, much more practical.  If you have kids running around the house, not so practical.  If you have no children, much more practical.

Pretty much common sense stuff.  There is nothing inherently unhealthy about a slave being nude frequently so the concerns are largely ones of practicality for your particular environment.  Every individual will have to consider their circumstances and work within that.

As LAM said... pretty simple.



littlesubjess -> RE: Nude at home all the time - a reasonable demand? (8/25/2006 7:35:59 AM)

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ORIGINAL: SusanofO

I see this "requirement" mentioned often enough for me to believe that some people actually do this. I am wondering how it works on a daily basis for them.

Anyone out there actually living this way, please write in. The rest of you also please write in, your opinion counts too, of course.

Thanks to anyone who has replied so far.

- Susan 


The majority of the time spent at my Master and Mistress' home, i do spend naked, but thats only because Mistress gets cold really easily (yes even in summer) and so has the heating on pretty much all year round. Therefore, nudity is forced (lol), for fear of passing out from too much heat haha. ... Master just seems to cope with it, somehow - he's more accustomed i suppose, after 15 years of marriage. He does grumble and complain a lot when he is too hot but never undresses ... hmm ... not very Dom to be wandering around naked i suppose lol.

Jess xxx



MistressCamille -> RE: Nude at home all the time - a reasonable demand? (8/25/2006 7:38:00 AM)

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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

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ORIGINAL: MistressCamille
Problem is, it's the bra that causes sagging. It doesn't allow you to use the ligaments that hold them up so they atrophy, just like what happens when you don't exercise your muscules.


Wow....I bet all those National Geographic ladies are going to want to know that.


Thanks for bringing that up. The breasts in those NG mags are what real breasts look like. For decades now we've been made to feel as if the way our breasts really look is a bad thing and that we *have* to stick them in unnatural positions to be socially acceptable. It's time we have our bodies accepted for how they really look and stop forcing us to buy waterfilled push up bras to be socially acceptable.

This all ties in with this nude at home theme. I'm nude at home all the time. I'm a nudist. Any subs/slaves under me would be nude as well. It's just not that big a sexual turn on when it's commonplace. Like a few said, lingerie is much more sexy than nude. If I wanted to create sexual tension in the house I'd dress up the submissives in sexy things, not have them nude.

Not only that but some studies are showing that the more you wear a bra the greater your chance at getting breast cancer. They heat up the breasts and squish them. There is a reason why breasts hang off the body similar to the way testicles do. Just like testicles on a man, a breast needs to be cooler than the rest of the body. Bras prevent them from staying at the right temperature.

As for the front door dilemma I keep a robe at the door. And no, it's not against the law to be nude in your own home unless you are intentionally plastering yourself in the front window to cause the neighbors to freak.



JeniferJuniper -> RE: Nude at home all the time - a reasonable demand? (8/25/2006 7:49:51 AM)

Whilst I am sure a lot of people want their slaves/subs naked purely because of the visual pleasure it may give them, I am inclined to think that it is sometimes part of the necessary training/bonding of a slave to their new Master.  It can be a good reminder that they are the property of someone and only have the right to wear clothes if the Master so desires.

There is also the other aspect – that the slave/sub should always “Be Prepared”. lol  In which case underwear should never be worn, and if female then trousers/jeans are a definate no-no.
On a personal note – I prefer sexy clothing to nakeness.  One a female, something long, silky and lose.  On a male, silk boxer shorts do it for me.



WhipTheHip -> RE: Nude at home all the time - a reasonable demand? (8/25/2006 7:59:34 AM)

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ORIGINAL: SusanofO
Whipthe Hip: What you say makes sense. As for why you don't get random naked women answering their doors to you anymore - all I can say is that, having  found bdsm, God may think your potential calendar for this is now already full up, whereas before, He may have thought you'd go through life deprived, if it didn't happen occasionally at complete random.
I will pray for you ( I am just teasin' ya - I am happy you wrote in, your replies are always so gentlemanly yet reasonable).
- Susan


Thank you, Susan.  I really appreciate that. 
 
I was a fanatic once in my life, and I learned a lot from that experience. 
Now I don't follow any hard and fast rules, and try to be reasonable. 
I am all about compromise.  If I had a sub, I would want her to be
happy.   I would let her know I would be very disappointed and hurt
if she didn't let me know how she felt about things.   I think feedback
from a sub is very important.  "Captain, may I have permission to
speak freely?"   It is easy for a Dom not to realize how hard certain
requests can be for a sub.   I want to know when I am making a
request that is difficult to comply with.  Rarely, I may insist on
it anyway, but mostly I am not going to ask a sub to do something
she doesn't really want to do.   
 
In addition, I want a sub to let me know how to be a better Dom.
I always want to grow as a person, and trust my partner in life
to help me do that.   I have a lot of bad habits that need
correcting, and I would get very upset with a sub, if she didn't
let me know about them. 
 
I think a master needs to insist on getting feedback, feedback
feedback.  I would hate for resentment to build because of
some misunderstanding.  I demand openess.  I always want
to know how my sub feels, and how my past conduct made
her feel.
 
I assume all good Doms and Masters do this.   I believe in
reason.
 
--Michael
 
 



genusnpimptress -> RE: Nude at home all the time - a reasonable demand? (8/25/2006 8:04:55 AM)

I am expected to be nude in the evenings after the day has finished and the kids are tucked away in bed. I also sleep nude and get him his breakfast for him in the nude and i am nude when he leaves for work. I always keep a robe near so that i can throw it on if needed.

BTW he leaves for work at 5am and the kids are not up till 7-7:30



LadyJulieAnn -> RE: Nude at home all the time - a reasonable demand? (8/25/2006 8:07:08 AM)

To quote Seinfeld:

G:  "So she coughed."
J:  "Coughing? Naked? It's a turn-off, man."
G:  "Everything goes with naked."
J:  "When you cough there are thousands of unseen muscles that suddenly spring into action. It's like watching that fat guy catch a cannonball in his stomach in slow motion."
G:  "You spoiled, spoiled man. You know how much mental energy I expend just trying to picture women naked?"
J:  "But the thing you don't realize is that there's good naked and bad naked. Naked hair brushing - good. Naked crouching - bad."
- George and Jerry, in "The Apology"



stockingluvr54 -> RE: Nude at home all the time - a reasonable demand? (8/25/2006 8:08:53 AM)

can't say one way or the other about being nude around the house? But it sure works good on getting rid of the Jehovahs.....open up the door bare assed with a sig in one hand and say "Howdy....come on in!"......



1969slave -> RE: Nude at home all the time - a reasonable demand? (8/25/2006 8:18:12 AM)

i'm kept naked at home except for collar and cuffs. a major drawback is that i'm not allowed to sit because of my naked bottom. i'm not allowed to answer the door if Master is not home unless its for delivery or repair men i've been told about. we live in chicago winters are hard esp. taking the garbage to the garage.     for vanilla visits for suppers, i am allowed a bra, vanilla dress no collar or cuffs but i'm barefoot and many times o rings on my nipples.  this was one of my first basic demands 9yrs. ago    m



ownedgirlie -> RE: Nude at home all the time - a reasonable demand? (8/25/2006 8:30:11 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyJulieAnn

To quote Seinfeld:

G:  "So she coughed."
J:  "Coughing? Naked? It's a turn-off, man."
G:  "Everything goes with naked."
J:  "When you cough there are thousands of unseen muscles that suddenly spring into action. It's like watching that fat guy catch a cannonball in his stomach in slow motion."
G:  "You spoiled, spoiled man. You know how much mental energy I expend just trying to picture women naked?"
J:  "But the thing you don't realize is that there's good naked and bad naked. Naked hair brushing - good. Naked crouching - bad."
- George and Jerry, in "The Apology"


That was an excellent episode...LOL.

Some other thoughts:
* In my 40 years (28 of which have been bra-wearing years), I do not sag.
* The bras that are unhealthy are those that are too snug.
* Experienced owners do not set valuable property up to be destroyed.
* I've cooked bacon in the nude.  Ouch.  It makes you dance around quickly on your feet a lot :)



behindmirrors -> RE: Nude at home all the time - a reasonable demand? (8/25/2006 8:37:53 AM)

I spend the vast majority of my time at home naked. It's not a request my Dom has made of me specifically, but it is something he does not seem to mind very much, haha. If he asks me to be naked doing something specific, then I know I need to be naked then and I don't think twice about it. I never answer the door nude, nor has that ever been an issue for us. I like being nude when he is clothed- it's humiliating in a way that is a big turn-on for me, as well as for him, but there is not explicit requirement either way thus far, though he's apparently working on giving me that big list of requirements soon, and I don't know if it will be on there or not.

We live in the city, so we have neighbors, but we keep the curtains drawn the majority of the time. We do not have roomates or children or anything, it's just us, which makes it easier. I have had someone see me nude in the window before- they called up to me- but I ignored it and went on with what I was doing. Our closet in the bedroom is right next to a window facing the street, haha, and I was looking for clothes for work at the time. It was before we had put curtains up, shortly after we moved in. Though I was not happy to be seen, I felt no shame. I was just going about my business anyway.

As far as it being realistic, for the most part in our particular situation, such a requirement would be. We don't have visitors often or unexpectedly, and I can always find something to throw on quick should there be a need. Since it's only the two of us in the house, it is easy to do it. I don't come in and out of the house frequently, either, nor do I mind dressing and undressing when I need to do something. Never had any more problems from cooking in the nude as I have clothed, and I have always been careful when using chemicals to clean, and at least put latex gloves on. The biggest thing for me is staying warm, but there are blankets everywhere I like to snuggle in. It works for me to be naked at home because it makes being there a bit different than being elsewhere, makes it special, in a way. I like that.

behindmirrors.



Homestead -> RE: Nude at home all the time - a reasonable demand? (8/25/2006 8:43:48 AM)

Nudity is prety much passe for me. I think our puritainical culture is what makes it seem more attractive to some people. Personally I'd rather have a slave dressed in some sort of fetish attire I create.



FirmhandKY -> RE: Nude at home all the time - a reasonable demand? (8/25/2006 8:47:26 AM)

Fast Reply:

For nude bacon cooking - try the microwave instead.

FHky



mistoferin -> RE: Nude at home all the time - a reasonable demand? (8/25/2006 8:48:52 AM)

Am I the only one who owns a splatter screen?



MistressCamille -> RE: Nude at home all the time - a reasonable demand? (8/25/2006 8:49:29 AM)

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ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie


* The bras that are unhealthy are those that are too snug.



In a study done in 1995 three out of four women who wore a bra 24 hours a day developed breast cancer compared to  1 out of 168 of those who rarely or never wear one. Yes, tightness contributes but even a loose one is not healthy, and it directly correlates to how many hours a day you wear one.

http://www.007b.com/bras_breast_cancer.php



darkinshadows -> RE: Nude at home all the time - a reasonable demand? (8/25/2006 8:49:44 AM)

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Yes, it seems sexy and intimate, but also seems like it could be somewhat inconvenient as a demand. I mean, if you want to go anywhere, you have to get dressed - go there - come home, get undressed. People go out of their house several times a day (many people do - some don't I guess).

Think of making love.  Do you always make love at a set time - or do you respond to how you feel at that moment?  You get naked, you fuck, you play... you have to get dressed again (sometimes) - If you respond to how you feel, or your dominants desires - then there isn't any inconvenience(edit because I cannot spell)... it is both an honour and a bloody good time!
 
I have been nude around the home - though never as a 'requirement' (as yet).  But people do knock on the door, and deliveries do arrive.  You just have to pull something on.  I guess it is about time management and understanding that such a requirement isnt a chore, but an act of submission in such cases.  And once one has found someone who one is comfortable with enough and who you would do anything for, then it feels a completely natural thing to do, because you serve - because you submit.
 
Peace and Rapture



Lordandmaster -> RE: Nude at home all the time - a reasonable demand? (8/25/2006 8:51:11 AM)

Actually, I think it's the other way around: our Puritanical culture makes FETISH ATTIRE seem more attractive than it really is.  Nakedness has always been considered arousing--long before there were any Puritans.

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ORIGINAL: Homestead

Nudity is prety much passe for me. I think our puritainical culture is what makes it seem more attractive to some people. Personally I'd rather have a slave dressed in some sort of fetish attire I create.



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