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RE: Overthinking? - 8/25/2006 5:27:42 PM   
agirl


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Status: offline 		  Hello eyesopened,

My initial thoughts were that there are FAR more decent chaps out there to throw away your elderly, inexperienced ineptitude on. I think I'd hold out for one of those.

Regards, agirl

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RE: Overthinking? - 8/25/2006 5:30:06 PM   
jennylynn


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quote:

ORIGINAL: eyesopened

Just want some opinions.... i was contacted by a potential  Dom and we've progressed to chatting on the phone and plan to meet in person, possibly tomorrow.  The problem?  During our discussions, this Dom has given me His bona-fides adding comments about being somewhat "in demand" at various events.  But what is bothering me is that He told me that, "you're older than i normally play with and you certainly wouldn't win any beauty contests and you don't even have the skill level i'm looking for but i was intrigued by insights."

i don't know how to process that information.  Part of me thinks, gee, i'm old, unattractive and inept??  i should be grateful?  i should be happy He sees beyond the surface?  What exactly should i think?  OR am i just over-thinking?  It would be nice to be meeting someone who thinks i'm physically acceptable.  Right now i'm just agreeing to meet just to meet without any expectations whatsoever but part of me wants to cancel the meeting.  How would you process His comments?



Over thinking?  OVER THINKING?  No way.... Ready........on your mark.......get set.........CANCEL.

Sorry but any man willing to already bring you down and make you feel awkward is not worth your time.


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RE: Overthinking? - 8/25/2006 5:33:59 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		Me, Id cancel.  From a Domme point of view, speaking to someone that way off the bat is trying to establish yourself in a position where youa re supposed to be glad he is paying his attention to you and realize how lucky you are to be in his line of site  Usually, thats just a leadup for disaster.
Until someone is mine, I am stil polite, and I wold never EVER imagine speaking to someone and telling them they are too old, unattractive or watever else.  Not before we met.

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RE: Overthinking? - 8/25/2006 6:39:10 PM   
nefertari


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Status: offline 		Gee - if he's that charming in the beginning I wonder how much better it gets.  

Hon, you're lovely and obviously have a beautifuly heart.  You can do so much better than him.  Don't settle. 

P.S.  I would have made him buy me lunch.

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RE: Overthinking? - 8/25/2006 7:41:30 PM   
Davidwr


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Status: offline 		Get rid of this guy as fast as you can.  He isn't in control of himself, much less any else.  David

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RE: Overthinking? - 8/26/2006 3:21:20 AM   
SusanofO


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Status: offline 		kitty2MLoneWolf: Glad you liked what I wrote. I had someone (a supposed Dom) do something similar to me once, so I am "practiced up" to respond to this kind of thing now. I think it is sometimes kinda fun to deal with people who seem to think that, just because you're nice, it means you must also be stupid, like the guy who made these rude comments to the OP.

How wrong an assumption that can be! Sometimes, I think it can pay for somebody to just plain tell them there are being an idiot. I really didn't used to think that way, either.


- Susan 

< Message edited by SusanofO -- 8/26/2006 3:47:50 AM >

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RE: Overthinking? - 8/26/2006 6:38:34 AM   
eyesopened


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Status: offline 		Again, i thank You all for Your insights.  i have a healthy self-esteem and i had never been approached in such a manner before so it really confused me which is why i questioned my intial reactions.  It's good to know my insticts are intact.  The meeting was cancelled, and true to myself i was polite and felt no need to bash Him.  There are people who are physcially handicapped and we would never be cruel to them ever.   i think there are some people who are spiritually handicapped and all we can do is bless them and walk away.



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RE: Overthinking? - 8/26/2006 8:37:05 AM   
MrDiscipline44


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Status: offline 		Good for you for taking the high road on this. It just shows your a better person.

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RE: Overthinking? - 8/26/2006 8:46:20 AM   
Bearlee


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quote:

ORIGINAL: eyesopened

There are people who are physcially handicapped and we would never be cruel to them ever.   i think there are some people who are spiritually handicapped and all we can do is bless them and walk away. 


It's wonderful to know people in the world like you...and to know kindness and decency still exists.
 
beverly

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RE: Overthinking? - 8/26/2006 9:08:34 AM   
MrrPete


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Status: offline 		I looked at your profile and I haveto say the guy is blind. You're far from unattractive.
You can pack a lot of experience in a short period of time but personally I wouldn't care what your
level is.

I would want to teach you to be MY sub/slave. I might or might not incoporate activities
or protocols that you've learned.

Humiliaton is a subject for discussion PRIOR to implimentation. Some woman can handle it and love it.
But there are those who don't like it all and even make it a har limit.

I'm glad the meeting was cancelled. You deserve a better Dom than that.

Mr. Pete


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RE: Overthinking? - 8/26/2006 9:53:42 AM   
mynded


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Status: offline 		Loved Susan's reply!!! You deserve so much better than what he has to offer.. Hold out for the one who would never make you feel the way he has!

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RE: Overthinking? - 8/27/2006 11:42:33 AM   
maledave777


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Status: offline 		I look at your profile.  I think you are a very beautiful and sexy woman.  I know that I am far from perfect.  I do treat people like I would like to be treat.  I feel in a relationship both people need to encourage each other.

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RE: Overthinking? - 8/27/2006 12:00:16 PM   
Powerman40


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Bearlee


I wonder why it is that some people believe treating another like crap is 'Dominance'?  I think sometimes this lifestyle draws socially inept people who don't really know how to behave in 'polite society'. 
beverly

I agree, *S*

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RE: Overthinking? - 8/27/2006 12:38:25 PM   
Skier


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Status: offline 		eyesopened....

You look and sound okay to me. *smiles*  Yeah, go ahead and cancel.

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RE: Overthinking? - 8/27/2006 2:34:03 PM   
JeniferJuniper


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quote:

ORIGINAL: eyesopened

There are people who are physcially handicapped and we would never be cruel to them ever.   i think there are some people who are spiritually handicapped and all we can do is bless them and walk away.





Nice one - and well said!

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