cynnacent1
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What defines normal? Other people, society & their expectations of what others should be by their definitions? Should we all follow those expectations and try to cram ourselves in to fit the mold? Would we truely be happy in doing so?? If so, i am proud to say, i'm NOT normal. Why settle for 'normal'? i'm NOT normal, i'm phenominal, and i like me that way. 
nella,
i've worked as a cosmetologist (hairstylist) since 1995. my job duties include styling & cutting, perming & coloring, chemical hair straightening,hair removal procedures, pedicures & manicures, & makeup ... etc. etc. It's my job to communicate well enough with my clients in order to determine what it is i can do for them to help them to feel 'normal' and better about themselves ... and then of course, transform them into whatever fits their definition of 'beauty'.
Most of my clients are thrilled with the end results received. Of the small handful who leave unsatisfied, the reason is almost always the same. Many people are not happy internally, inside themselves, and with themselves. i have many methods at my disposal to help others feel beautiful, and happy with themselves. None work internally.
Self acceptance, self esteme, & inner happiness can NOT be found in a bottle of Clairol, the latest fashion, or by trying to live by others' definitions of 'normal'.
Define your own definition of 'normal'. Live by that definition rather than another's mold of what they believe it should be. Believe in yourself, and accept who you are before expecting anyone else to. Confidence is the one and only, yet most important and effective ingredient for beautification that i am not capable, nor trained for, nor licensed in providing for my clients. Have confidence in who you are, and others will too. We've all heard the phrase, "Beauty is only skin deep". ALLOW your beauty to shine from within.
A friend of mine once shared a poem (see below) with me at a time when my self confidence was not at a high level. It helped me the first time i read it, i thought, "Hey! That's me. That's who i am inside.". i then let myself OUT. It's all about self acceptance followed by confidence.
PHENOMENAL WOMAN
by Maya Angelou
Pretty women wonder where my secret lies
I'm not cute or built to suit a model's fashion size
But when I start to tell them
They think I'm telling lies.
I say
It's in the reach of my arms
The span of my hips
The stride of my steps
The curl of my lips.
I'm a woman
Phenomenally
Phenomenal woman
That's me.
I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please
And to a man
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees
Then they swarm around me
A hive of honey bees.
I say
It's the fire in my eyes
And the flash of my teeth
The swing of my waist
And the joy in my feet.
I'm a woman
Phenomenally
Phenomenal woman
That's me.
Men themselves have wondered
What they see in me
They try so much
But they can't touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them
They say they still can't see.
I say
It's in the arch of my back
The sun of my smile
The ride of my breasts
The grace of my style.
I'm a woman
Phenomenally
Phenomenal woman
That's me.
Now you understand
Just why my head's not bowed
I don't shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud
When you see me passing
It ought to make you proud.
I say
It's in the click of my heels
The bend of my hair
The palm of my hand
The need for my care.
'Cause I'm a woman
Phenomenally
Phenomenal woman
That's me.
¸,ø¤º°cynnacent°º¤ø,¸ (proudly owned by, and devoted to INSIDEYOURMIND)
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