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Bearlee -> RE: Profile Pics and baiting the hook. (8/28/2006 5:21:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RavenMuse quote: ORIGINAL: Bearlee Raven, Sir... FFS? I can't imagine what that one is... Ah commonly used over here. FFS... for fucks sake! Maybe a turn of phrase not used over the pond there. Ahhhhhhh... Thank you. I've heard it in it's entirety; just not as an acronym! LOL By and large, I agree with most the folks here...to say that the content of the profile outweighs all. Gee, we're here to make friends are we not? Tell us something of yourself...even if ya just wanna chat here... MOO, bear

abqdev34 -> RE: Profile Pics and baiting the hook. (8/28/2006 11:08:40 AM)
I personally like to see that someone took a little bit of time and thought with the image(s) they want others to see. Showing that one has creativity, rather than simply saying so in a profile goes a long way with me. I guess I just appreciate an artistic touch. The way I see it, your photo is a choice you make on how you present yourself - there is no rush involved, so I am always perplexed when someone doesn't take the time to use the provided spotlight wisely. At a deeper level I suppose it can give subtle clues to matters of self-esteem, or just laziness. Not a confirmation, mind you, but clues nonetheless. And then, sometimes, a photo is just a photo. ;-) That being said, I am always curious as to who is out there - so almost any photo is better than none - unless the photo doesn't add up with the profile (ie. messy backgrounds along with a desire to clean) those leave me scratching my head. In the end though, good or bad, neat or messy, I simply love the diversity out there.

NastyDaddy -> RE: Profile Pics and baiting the hook. (8/28/2006 11:25:15 AM)
Where does one's judgement end? If a person has a pic of themselves sick in bed (because they like their face in it), do you "infer" this person is "always sick"? Talk about having your cake and eating it too... some people just LOVE their little crystal balls and chicken bones in the goat testicle skin sacks! Excuse me... but LOL to all the "ordained profile/photo critics"... expecially those one's with pics of somebody else (because the coloring looks a lot like their's)... as they critique other's pics!!!

zumala -> RE: Profile Pics and baiting the hook. (8/28/2006 9:34:09 PM)
I like to look at the pic as a whole. First at the person in the photo, and then at the background. My own pic is rather silly, as I did it on a lark to see if I could manage to snap a passable picture without having a clue how the timer worked on my camara. I just jumped on the bed and hoped for the best, LOL. But I'm silly and have a sense of humor, so it fits. zuma

Najakcharmer -> RE: Profile Pics and baiting the hook. (8/28/2006 9:42:05 PM)
My profile pic is amusing for two reasons. One, it's from forty plus pounds ago, before I got serious about fitness, weight lifting and low carbing and kicked my own ass into shape. That's on purpose, since I am on this site primarily seeking friends, and a non-glamorous picture helps weed out the horny lookie loos. Anybody who would have an interest in talking to me only at my current weight is nobody I want to talk to anyways. Two, there is a very nifty animal in the bottom half of the picture that isn't posted on the site. Folks I'm willing to share more details of my life with can be directed to a site where they get to view the complete image complete with critter. It's a very cool critter.

marieToo -> RE: Profile Pics and baiting the hook. (8/28/2006 9:50:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressMelissa The bottom line is; Do other's also notice these things or am I just being detail oriented again? I doubt I am the only one that notes these details when looking through profiles. Also, why don't people take the time too put any information in their profiles. You would not go fishing without baiting the hook. Why would you post a profile and leave it blank unless you are only here for the forums. Why do little one's with empty profiles complain that they can't find the owner of their dreams? well, not everyone is here 'fishing'. So I would imagine thats why they dont put info in their profiles. Or maybe they just prefer to email people and speak of themselves through conversation. I have heard people (men especially) say that they have a hard time sitting down to write a profile. They dont know where to start or what to say. Some are simply more comfortable going straight into a dialogue and letting the information flow in a more natural way. I mean ....really....lets say we meet someone at our local tennis club that we are drawn to. Do they have a sign on their back stating their orientation, sexual desires, age, weight, or any other specs? Ok, I know this isnt a bar, or a club, its an internet site, but that doesnt mean that everyone has the same methods. I personally wouldnt jump to any type of assumptions about a person (good or bad) based on their lack of profile. And if I was interested in them, or interested enough to ask them about it, Id just drop them an email and ask. (If my email featured on this site actually worked, that is)

PhoenixLM -> RE: Profile Pics and baiting the hook. (8/31/2006 6:39:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: marieToo well, not everyone is here 'fishing'. So I would imagine thats why they dont put info in their profiles. Or maybe they just prefer to email people and speak of themselves through conversation. I have heard people (men especially) say that they have a hard time sitting down to write a profile. They dont know where to start or what to say. Some are simply more comfortable going straight into a dialogue and letting the information flow in a more natural way. I mean ....really....lets say we meet someone at our local tennis club that we are drawn to. Do they have a sign on their back stating their orientation, sexual desires, age, weight, or any other specs? Ok, I know this isnt a bar, or a club, its an internet site, but that doesn't mean that everyone has the same methods. I personally wouldn't jump to any type of assumptions about a person (good or bad) based on their lack of profile. And if I was interested in them, or interested enough to ask them about it, Id just drop them an email and ask. (If my email featured on this site actually worked, that is) Granted not everyone here is "fishing" this was not actually addressing those who are not. As for your comparison there is many things you could get when you meet in real time that you will not have online, you can guestimate age, weight, you can get info on some things you have in common. Whereas online a blank profile says nothing about the person behind the screen name. Some will only fill in the age, state and what they are looking for as in male, fem, couple, dom, sub, and nothing more. This in all honesty does nothing to recommend you to another person. In all honesty I'm aware some people are not comfortable talking about themselves, but lets face it if you only want a dom that is physically fit or only want a dom that is a BHM, then you will be talking to allot of people that do not match what you want. Where if you take time to post a little about yourself your desires and skills then suddenly the people that make contact might actually be more inline with what you are looking for. Also, some people will not even talk to someone, that has no picture, because there is a multitude of things you can pick up out of a picture, such as; piercing, are they Goth, tattoos, personal style, and yes even cleanliness

Mercnbeth -> RE: Profile Pics and baiting the hook. (8/31/2006 7:50:37 AM)
We recently changed our profile picture. We try to keep it current. We aren't trying to "bait" anyone, although we get a lot of email. We hope the picture represents our relationship. I am beth's Master/owner and she is my slave. Our profile narrative and the list of activities doesn't represent what we feel is the most important aspect of our relationship. We're both smiling, we have fun and enjoy each other. I also want to represent that I am very protective of beth. We are proud of our relationship. We made sure we looked directly into the camera, and took the picture outside in an effort to convey our openness. Like anything else it's up to the viewers to determine if we were successful.

DrawntotheFlame -> RE: Profile Pics and baiting the hook. (8/31/2006 2:59:45 PM)
I find juliaoceania absolutly adorable.

CrappyDom -> RE: Profile Pics and baiting the hook. (8/31/2006 3:25:05 PM)
I had a picture up for a while at one place and always wondered why nobody responded till someone pointed out that the woman I had tied up in the background had turned blue and you could see she had passed out. So I just said I was into extreme play and was "old guard" and the hotties started flowing in. Marketing is the key and so many forget that!

subfever -> RE: Profile Pics and baiting the hook. (9/1/2006 10:14:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CrappyDom I had a picture up for a while at one place and always wondered why nobody responded till someone pointed out that the woman I had tied up in the background had turned blue and you could see she had passed out. Did she survive? ... [:o]

marieToo -> RE: Profile Pics and baiting the hook. (9/1/2006 10:51:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PhoenixLM quote: ORIGINAL: marieToo well, not everyone is here 'fishing'. So I would imagine thats why they dont put info in their profiles. Or maybe they just prefer to email people and speak of themselves through conversation. I have heard people (men especially) say that they have a hard time sitting down to write a profile. They dont know where to start or what to say. Some are simply more comfortable going straight into a dialogue and letting the information flow in a more natural way. I mean ....really....lets say we meet someone at our local tennis club that we are drawn to. Do they have a sign on their back stating their orientation, sexual desires, age, weight, or any other specs? Ok, I know this isnt a bar, or a club, its an internet site, but that doesn't mean that everyone has the same methods. I personally wouldn't jump to any type of assumptions about a person (good or bad) based on their lack of profile. And if I was interested in them, or interested enough to ask them about it, Id just drop them an email and ask. (If my email featured on this site actually worked, that is) Granted not everyone here is "fishing" this was not actually addressing those who are not. As for your comparison there is many things you could get when you meet in real time that you will not have online, you can guestimate age, weight, you can get info on some things you have in common. Whereas online a blank profile says nothing about the person behind the screen name. Some will only fill in the age, state and what they are looking for as in male, fem, couple, dom, sub, and nothing more. This in all honesty does nothing to recommend you to another person. In all honesty I'm aware some people are not comfortable talking about themselves, but lets face it if you only want a dom that is physically fit or only want a dom that is a BHM, then you will be talking to allot of people that do not match what you want. Where if you take time to post a little about yourself your desires and skills then suddenly the people that make contact might actually be more inline with what you are looking for. Also, some people will not even talk to someone, that has no picture, because there is a multitude of things you can pick up out of a picture, such as; piercing, are they Goth, tattoos, personal style, and yes even cleanliness I think your points are valid if someone is here looking for a partner and that someone wants to increase his/her chances of making contacts. But other than that, I cant see the lack of profile as anything other than exactly what it is. If someone is indeed in search of a partner, and they are going about it without a profile, I would agree that they will not have much luck and will eventually figure out why. The only other thing I can think of for these people who dont have profiles is that maybe some just want to chat on a message board. Certainly we dont need to know each others orientation eye color, or even gender necessarily for that. I personally dont have one at present but plan to put one up again in the future. People can see quite easily that Im an opinionated bitchy loud mouth italian chick from Jersey. If someone wanted to know more than that, Id likely give them the info if they asked and they were someone that I had interest in as friend or something more. Otherwise, Im not here on a man-hunt so I dont bother. I will admit its nice to put a face to the fonts I am speaking to. I did try to put a pic up myself up on my avatar not long ago but for some reason it came out really really big when I uploaded it to this site...You could see pixels in my face. Im not sure why CM enlarges like that, But whatever, its not that important to me and I would imagine its not that important to some others either. If it turns you off, just pass those types up and focus on the ones that are more willing to give info.

marieToo -> RE: Profile Pics and baiting the hook. (9/1/2006 10:58:38 PM)
The breast hold shot is very cool. The contrast of your skin colors really makes it.

SirDiscipliner69 -> RE: Profile Pics and baiting the hook. (9/1/2006 11:08:23 PM)
I like My profile, journal and pics so do many others. To Me it does not convey milktoast Dom but offers hopefuly intelligent artistic creative insight into My current ever evolving perception of how I wish to be within not only BDSM but life.

Kirei -> RE: Profile Pics and baiting the hook. (9/1/2006 11:20:45 PM)
If you go by only what you see in pictures then you may be missing a lot. You may even miss on a good sub or dominant. How do you even know if the pictures are really of them? There is an old saying judge not lest you be judged. Koneko

MisPandora -> RE: Profile Pics and baiting the hook. (9/2/2006 2:14:35 AM)
Exactly -- who wants someone in service to them who is in the middle of a pigsty, or worse, who can't take care of themselves!

MistressMaamNH -> RE: Profile Pics and baiting the hook. (9/2/2006 3:27:54 AM)
quote: I can't imagine a person trying to attract another person while wallowing in filth. If you are a Dominant, it tells me you aren't even in control of your own environment. If you are a submissive, I immediately assume you aren't interested in a R/L, 24/7, D/s relationship where you need to serve in ways other than in the dungeon. So only people who are neat and who are orderly in their housekeeping are qualified and/or serious about being in the Lifestyle. Hmm...Silly Me, and I thought people from all walks of life, interests, habits, and characteristics can be in the Lifestyle. For some people, housework and tidiness just isn't a priority. I know one individual who is a fantastic and very talented Dominant that's been in the Lifestyle for over 20 years, who just doesn't see housework as a huge priority in their life. And I quote: "On My deathbed, will I be regretting not having spent more time washing the dishes and dustin, or will I regret not having spent more time doing the things that I love and enjoy?" Clutter, squallor, disorganization..if it's a real turn off for you, that's fine..for others, it's not a deal-breaker at all. I've just never been one that judges people on first appearances...perhaps that puts Me in the minority..but oh well..it takes all kinds, right? [:)] MMNH

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