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Eir -> Are doms threatnend to talk to someone that speaks their mind? (8/28/2006 1:58:55 PM)

On my profile on here I let everyone know that I am not looking for a dom and not a sub, I am not looking for anything but a chat, educational chat is also fun.

I have found it interesting that after I changed my profile saying that I have gotten very few posts, it is as nobody even wants to concider a chat... that's probably the reason I have been using IC more the last months.

Still, on KinkFest there were alot of people that knew me from here and said hello, it was fun and interesting, I just wish that people were more daring! Why are you not? Are you afraid of me being to forward? Am I perhaps too open minded for even you?

Just poundering here on this Icelandic café :)

Care. Eir



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Are doms threatnend to talk to someone that speaks their mind? (8/28/2006 2:01:15 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Eir
Still, on KinkFest there were alot of people that knew me from here and said hello, it was fun and interesting, I just wish that people were more daring! Why are you not? Are you afraid of me being to forward? Am I perhaps too open minded for even you?

Just poundering here on this Icelandic café :)

Care. Eir

The great majority of doms seeking online are dorks- they want easy, stupid, lazy, easy-to-manipulate prey.

And they usually find it pretty easy also.

But there are plenty who are not.  Just be glad that they are self-selecting themselves into your "not interested" pile.



Homestead -> RE: Are doms threatnend to talk to someone that speaks their mind? (8/28/2006 2:01:24 PM)

I prefer honest and open discourse. We can't be what everyone want us to be.



Eir -> RE: Are doms threatnend to talk to someone that speaks their mind? (8/28/2006 2:04:23 PM)

True, but I find it irratating that nobody even bothers to talk, I am useto the REALLY open conversations here on Iceland and almost everyday I meet someone that's in the scene here. Even when in London I am always talking to someone and meeting up. Perhaps I am overly optimistic about finding some likeminded kinkster to have a good chat with?



Homestead -> RE: Are doms threatnend to talk to someone that speaks their mind? (8/28/2006 2:08:51 PM)

Take heart, there are still those of us out there who care about more than easy kinky sex.



Eir -> RE: Are doms threatnend to talk to someone that speaks their mind? (8/28/2006 2:11:36 PM)

I know so :) I have one that I care about who I can't wait to meet thought it's seven months until that happens... exept if he comes over to Iceland :P



DiurnalVampire -> RE: Are doms threatnend to talk to someone that speaks their mind? (8/28/2006 2:20:05 PM)

I have made plenty of chat partners here. Since I put my boy under consideration I have met a few really sweet subs and some Doms who are fantastic to chat with. And ONLY chat. 
There are always the ones who dont think if your just looking for chat thats your true motives, but I havent had too many issues.  And Ive made some good friends.

Good luck

DV



Eir -> RE: Are doms threatnend to talk to someone that speaks their mind? (8/28/2006 2:21:20 PM)

I sure hope :P But thanks for reassuring me :D



darkinshadows -> RE: Are doms threatnend to talk to someone that speaks their mind? (8/28/2006 2:45:26 PM)

Hello Eir
 
It is difficult - but there are a few good people who I have met/chat with via here.
I regret not meeting you at KF... thats sucky!
Maybe next year?
 
Peace and Rapture



slavejlb -> RE: Are doms threatnend to talk to someone that speaks their mind? (8/28/2006 2:53:44 PM)

not going on anyone else comments: I dont think so most of the doms i speak with like a slave yes that is submissive but can speak her mind on many topics. Escpeically if she was taking in public where the vanilla sector will be around.  He is please to know that a slave can answer questions on jepordy to know she is smart, and can hold her own.
take care and be safe
Master Mawgan slave java



raiken -> RE: Are doms threatnend to talk to someone that speaks their mind? (8/28/2006 2:58:17 PM)

Ah i know what you mean, but it happens, there are those whom i have befriended who enjoy engaging in long talks when time permits, and occassionally getting together real time, and it is refreshing.  It will happen for you also with time and patience.  Seems from my experience that the more common are those who are waiting in line at the meat counter! *grin



Eir -> RE: Are doms threatnend to talk to someone that speaks their mind? (8/28/2006 3:00:42 PM)

I would love to :) Or at CCK when I get my ass back to London :P



Eir -> RE: Are doms threatnend to talk to someone that speaks their mind? (8/28/2006 3:02:05 PM)

Hehe, well I just love to communicate with people :D



Sinergy -> RE: Are doms threatnend to talk to someone that speaks their mind? (8/28/2006 3:15:06 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Eir

Are you afraid of me being to forward?



I am not afraid of anybody being too forward.

For me, there are few things I find more attractive in a partner in crime than intelligence and education.  I seldom meet a woman who is both articulate and educated enough to make me want to ask her out, both online or in real life.  While this saves me from dates which I want to gnaw my arm off and run away from the interminable boringness of them before the main course arrives, it also means I have spent most of the last few years being rather lonely.

As far as open-minded is concerned, I know what my limits and interests are.  Somebody else doing their own thing doesnt bother me at all, except where it crosses the line from consensual to non-consensual.

Hope this helps.  Just me, could be wrong, etc.

Sinergy



Eir -> RE: Are doms threatnend to talk to someone that speaks their mind? (8/28/2006 3:17:49 PM)

Thanks for the answer :D



Donnalee -> RE: Are doms threatnend to talk to someone that speaks their mind? (8/28/2006 3:20:04 PM)

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The great majority of doms seeking online are dorks- they want easy, stupid, lazy, easy-to-manipulate prey.

And they usually find it pretty easy also.


LOL!  It must be pretty easy, because as soon as I make it (somehow) more clear than my profile does that I don't want a dom, they tend to write another note and then scatter off to greener pastures.  But then some fake the "I'd like to chat" thing untill I express myself...and then they run.  I've only found a couple that can stay in the discussion section of the party and enjoy a good conversation....but those are certainly worth the wait, so keep looking!



porcelaine -> RE: Are doms threatnend to talk to someone that speaks their mind? (8/28/2006 3:29:39 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

The great majority of doms seeking online are dorks- they want easy, stupid, lazy, easy-to-manipulate prey.

And they usually find it pretty easy also.

But there are plenty who are not.  Just be glad that they are self-selecting themselves into your "not interested" pile.


Touche. That's one less message I need to reply to. It would be nice if they would simply gravitate to their kind and leave the intelligent, sensible submissives that are seeking a dominant and not a label to their own devices.

porcelaine



amayos -> RE: Are doms threatnend to talk to someone that speaks their mind? (8/28/2006 5:09:30 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Eir

On my profile on here I let everyone know that I am not looking for a dom and not a sub, I am not looking for anything but a chat, educational chat is also fun.

I have found it interesting that after I changed my profile saying that I have gotten very few posts, it is as nobody even wants to concider a chat... that's probably the reason I have been using IC more the last months.

Still, on KinkFest there were alot of people that knew me from here and said hello, it was fun and interesting, I just wish that people were more daring! Why are you not? Are you afraid of me being to forward? Am I perhaps too open minded for even you?



You want intelligent conversation. That's quite sensible—but assuming that those who do not want to join in on a possibly endless mental masturbation fest are somehow "afraid" is a bit of a leap. Just like in the real world, I think many connected to networks like this one are happy to participate in open discourse—so long as it does not become the sole purpose of interacting here. If that's your thing, by all means, carry on and enjoy.

Regarding those who may have trouble with you speaking your mind, I'm not so sure what you mean. It's possible you're encountering many close-minded absolutists. We must accept that they're everywhere. It is a reality of the human condition.



Noah -> RE: Are doms threatnend to talk to someone that speaks their mind? (8/28/2006 9:48:40 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Eir

On my profile on here I let everyone know that I am not looking for a dom and not a sub, I am not looking for anything but a chat, educational chat is also fun.

I have found it interesting that after I changed my profile saying that I have gotten very few posts, it is as nobody even wants to concider a chat... that's probably the reason I have been using IC more the last months.

Still, on KinkFest there were alot of people that knew me from here and said hello, it was fun and interesting, I just wish that people were more daring! Why are you not? Are you afraid of me being to forward? Am I perhaps too open minded for even you?

Just poundering here on this Icelandic café :)

Care. Eir


I enjoy open conversation.

In terms of prospective partners I'm not particularly drawn to a 21 year old who suspects that anyone who elects not to talk to her is afraid of how daring she is.

(by the way, despite its occaisional charming flaws, your English is a fuck of a lot better than my Icelandic; that said ...)

Please resume poundering on the café. The waitress is sure to hear you soon.



Slipstreme -> RE: Are doms threatnend to talk to someone that speaks their mind? (8/28/2006 10:12:54 PM)

I don't chat online plain and simple. I don't like chat rooms. I prefer IMs and message boards.



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