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Advice for my wife - 8/31/2006 8:26:23 PM

draba

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Dear Mistress'
My wife has been dominating me for about six months. She has a lot to learn yet. I have a few questions. She has told me that she does not really like seeing me in a subserviant role and does not always want to be my Mistress. How many of you(Pro-dommes) at the end of the day just want to go home to a husband or lover and not a sub? Do you always feel dominant or do you prefer vanilla sex most of the time? I have noticed that there are times when my wife really enjoys being dominant and she recieves multible orgasums. But I do not know when to expect what or when to be romantic or submissive. Any advice?
Another question. I also suffer from a lack of ejaculation, but often stay hard. A good thing in many ways for my wife/mistress. But I can cum after we have wild, violent sex and a good session preceding the sex. Her question is will I only be able to cum this way or will I cum with vanilla sex.? It seems to be 50/50 as far as I am concerned. Could use some advice on this also. Should I see a doctor regarding a lack of ejaculate?
thank you in advance for your input,
draba

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RE: Advice for my wife - 8/31/2006 9:10:43 PM

WhiteRadiance

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There is no reason you cannot be her sub and be somewhat aggressive in bed. Women like to know they are desired. Don't become trapped in a role. Just because she is the Dominant does not mean you cannot fuck her like a real man.
Lighten her load. Don't make her feel like she has to do something "dommeish" to keep you.

~I also think it would be a good idea to go to the doc about your ejaculatory problem.

edited to add: I love submissive men and would love a submissive husband to come home to at the end of the day..I would not consider a non-submissive.. and I do think ALL sex is good! ;)

< Message edited by WhiteRadiance -- 8/31/2006 9:17:31 PM >

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RE: Advice for my wife - 8/31/2006 9:14:37 PM

Lashra

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You can be submissive and still be a tiger in bed, thats exactly the type of man my sub is and I wouldn't have him any other way. Even Dominants need to recharge their batteries sometimes so when she does, remember your place but thrill her to no end.

And yes do have a physician check out your ejac problem.

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RE: Advice for my wife - 8/31/2006 9:49:17 PM

MisPandora

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quote:

ORIGINAL: draba
How many of you(Pro-dommes) at the end of the day just want to go home to a husband or lover and not a sub? Do you always feel dominant or do you prefer vanilla sex most of the time?

Given that not all of us are prodoms.......

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RE: Advice for my wife - 9/2/2006 10:56:29 AM

draba

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Thank you all who have responded. I will take your advice.
draba

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RE: Advice for my wife - 9/2/2006 12:07:03 PM

DivaDuchess

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First ... definitely see a doctor. As for the wife problem, there's no reason you cannot act the Switch with her. When the mood strikes, you take the Dom role. Play a game of it. One day, her, the next day ... you and so on.

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