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Masochistic Doms - 9/1/2006 8:39:36 AM   
TNstepsout


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Status: offline 		OK, I'm trying REALLY hard not to be snarky, but some of these guys that email me are just asking for it. I try, I really do, to be polite and answer with a nice "thanks but no thanks" if I'm not interested, or if the email is REALLY stupid, just remember the old adage "if you can't say something nice don't say anything at all".

Oh sometimes my smart-assness gets the better of me and I give them a bit of ribbing, but I've never really just let em' have it. I always figure there's no actual harm done, you know, if he's an idiot he has his own burdens to bear in life. Leave the poor shmuck alone.

But sometimes I wonder if these guys aren't masochists in poor disguises, just looking to get cremated? They certainly seem to be begging to be put in their places.

So, what would be more sadistic? Ignoring their dumb asses or giving them hell?

hmmmm.....
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RE: Masochistic Doms - 9/1/2006 8:43:30 AM   
Homestead


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ORIGINAL: TNstepsout

OK, I'm trying REALLY hard not to be snarky, but some of these guys that email me are just asking for it. I try, I really do, to be polite and answer with a nice "thanks but no thanks" if I'm not interested, or if the email is REALLY stupid, just remember the old adage "if you can't say something nice don't say anything at all".

Oh sometimes my smart-assness gets the better of me and I give them a bit of ribbing, but I've never really just let em' have it. I always figure there's no actual harm done, you know, if he's an idiot he has his own burdens to bear in life. Leave the poor shmuck alone.

But sometimes I wonder if these guys aren't masochists in poor disguises, just looking to get cremated? They certainly seem to be begging to be put in their places.

So, what would be more sadistic? Ignoring their dumb asses or giving them hell?

hmmmm.....


I have to admit to being masochistic in choices I made in entering into past relationships. Which is why kink no longer holds the same priority it once did.

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RE: Masochistic Doms - 9/1/2006 8:46:25 AM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		Is this a complaint about rude Doms or a complaint about Doms who happen to also masochists? The former, just ignore. The latter, if that's not your thing, also ignore, but try to be tolerant about those who actually have sadistic AND masochistic streaks.

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RE: Masochistic Doms - 9/1/2006 8:51:26 AM   
SusanofO


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Status: offline 		TNstepsout: I've read a lot of your posts, TN. And I think you're bright. This is, sad to say, perhaps a problem sometimes, when it makes you realize someone has written something to you that you yourself would never say to a complete stranger, and you're still feeling an obligation to save them from embarrassing themselves. I've made a fool of my own self once or twice via what I've written to someone, I am sure. But - just know that, I don't think it's an odd circumstance (the one you describe). I'd just say "thanks for writing" - or whatever you can say that's innocuous, and if they keep writing, stop answering. I probably should not be commenting here, since I am bad at answering my own e-mail in general.

P.S. There is no law, I finally discovered, that says you have to answer all of your mail, every day. Take a break, if it's driving you nuts (I knowI have). I promise the world won't crash. And sometimes, seeing the same stuff written all the time is an indication a break is due. It's okay to take it, if you need it.

- Susan   

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RE: Masochistic Doms - 9/1/2006 9:10:35 AM   
onestandingstill


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Status: offline 		I'd say neither.
Be polite, speak your piece, and move on. Just because someone comes at you out of line is no reason to pull yourself out of line too. It's like if you sat next to someone who stunk bad. You would not adorn yourself with their scent, you'd politely excuse yourself and find fresh air elsewhere.
There are many polite ways to discuss what someone has said that's inappropriate. No need to be as rude as they were to get your point across. One of you can be mature if you choose to be.
Suzanne

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RE: Masochistic Doms - 9/1/2006 9:35:51 AM   
TNstepsout


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Status: offline 		Yes, yes I know you are all right. I've just been getting a lot of that arrogance lately that is soooooooo hard to ignore. (see below)

and MasterFireMaam I was being tongue in cheek regarding stupid arrogant Doms who expect me to fly half way around the world to grovel before their fat hairy ass just because they picked me over all the other subs to worship their magnificence.

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RE: Masochistic Doms - 9/1/2006 9:48:43 AM   
LotusSong


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ORIGINAL: TNstepsout

regarding stupid arrogant Doms who expect me to fly half way around the world to grovel before their fat hairy ass just because they picked me over all the other subs to worship their magnificence.


Firstly, I love your post.. I'm the same way.  There are times I just bite my tounge because there are times I have some reeeeeeeeeeeeeally good  combacks but what the hell.... I let someone else do it :)  I love the part of your post I cut out here.. what a mental picture!

(Edited for one lousey little spacing that I didn't catch on the first proof!)

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RE: Masochistic Doms - 9/1/2006 9:54:16 AM   
LadyTantalize


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Status: offline 		Well this is a horse of another color turns out!   

At first I thought you post to be regarding Dominants with masochistic streaks such as myself --- physical masochism!!   I practice self-flagellation, I singletail myself, flog, occassionally even cut, burn or self-mutilate.   Originally I started on the bottom in the lifestyle, sheeesh, over twenty years ago... and I've always had the need for some type of pain periodicially.   But as I never find anyone that I want to bottom too, plus I am a control freak; hence I bottom to myself.  

Ahhh, but the actual intent of your post ..... I agree!    Those sorts must have some type of emotional masochism to keep coming back for more rejection the way some of them do!







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RE: Masochistic Doms - 9/1/2006 10:00:27 AM   
Kree


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Status: offline 		TN,
While your post doesnt use the words Dom or Dominant to describe the morons that are contacting you, others have used those terms to describe them.  I think you will find that most dominant males that have the capacity to one day be someone's Master do not need to be rude or demanding in a contact situation.  I applaud you for biting your tongue, but only because saying your true feelings would just encourage these idiots to write flaming emails back.  Personally, I think everyone on a board like this gets what they deserve.  If they are rude and arrogant, they do not deserve politeness in return.  Ignoring them is likely a wiser course of action, though it isnt very satisfying.  Perhaps you should send them a little thank you note for defining themselves as idiots so you are spared the time and effort to respond.  I have always appreciated when someone identifies themself as an idiot so I dont have to waste my time finding out.

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RE: Masochistic Doms - 9/1/2006 10:12:52 AM   
NastyDaddy


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Status: offline 		Woot Woot!! ... sounds like yet another NEW incredible mission for the ever amazing "Uh Oh! Squad".... gettum! 



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RE: Masochistic Doms - 9/1/2006 11:11:57 AM   
ExSteelAgain


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ORIGINAL: NastyDaddy

Woot Woot!! ... sounds like yet another NEW incredible mission for the ever amazing "Uh Oh! Squad".... gettum! 


Now that made me laugh.

But, seriouuuuusssssssslllllyyyyyyy, as Curly would say, just ignore them. When a sub asks me to say something to a nut who is emailing her, I decline. The reason is the best action is to ignore. One email leads to more and the "relationship" is building in the person's mind.

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RE: Masochistic Doms - 9/1/2006 12:30:53 PM   
pookielittlegirl


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ORIGINAL: Kree
Perhaps you should send them a little thank you note for defining themselves as idiots so you are spared the time and effort to respond. 


*laughs* what an excellent idea, think thats something i might need to have ready on hand after some of the crazy, but apprently irresistable offers i have recieved.

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RE: Masochistic Doms - 9/1/2006 1:52:59 PM   
Voltare


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Status: offline 		Erm, two part question...

Yes, some Doms are masochists (it's not uncommon to have masochistic Dommes) though I'm no personally.  As for the people who write you... well, it isn't a uniquely BDSM experience.  Put up your photo on a vanilla dating site, and see if the quality of responses is all that different.

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RE: Masochistic Doms - 9/1/2006 1:56:02 PM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		One of the nice things about being avowedly older, is that I can lecture them in my most motherly tones. Chastizing them for being rude, crude and socially unacceptable and suggest they go ask their own mothers as to whether they would enjoy having some stranger accost them in this manner.

Oddly enough I still haven't received any thank you mail for setting them straight.

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RE: Masochistic Doms - 9/4/2006 10:15:34 PM   
porcelaine


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ORIGINAL: TNstepsout

But sometimes I wonder if these guys aren't masochists in poor disguises, just looking to get cremated? They certainly seem to be begging to be put in their places.

So, what would be more sadistic? Ignoring their dumb asses or giving them hell?



I beg to differ. I sincerely believe some people have posted a profile merely as a means for entertainment. Whatever they are lacking personally is fulfilled through random contact and arrogant messages meant to elicit the very emotions you've mentioned. I suspect their intentions don't go beyond this realm and this is merely a hobby or a way to pass the time. I have yet to feed into their behavior and always provide a polite acknowledgement for their correspondence and well wishes on their search. While it would seem amusing on some regard to trade virtual blows. I'm reminded of who I am and the fact that a not so kind stranger might provoke me to behave otherwise. The mere thought of this is not only unacceptable, but a foolish waste of keystrokes as well.

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RE: Masochistic Doms - 9/5/2006 2:13:49 AM   
bignipples2share


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Status: offline 		Okay, I admit, sometimes they just make me laugh.
Dom: How big are they baby
Me: If you are looking for random info and pictures, might I suggest the free internet porn sites, so you might find what you're looking for. Do have fun in your search
Dom: Well, you never know, some people on here are just huge, FAT huge and that's the only reason they're big
Me: Okay, well then it was the size of my hips that you were actually inquiring about?
Dom: Wrong Got a pic of them babys
Me: Seems to me you just looked at the name and didn't bother to look at my profile. Might I refer you again to one of the free porn sites on the interent, so you can find exactly what you're looking for. Do have fun in your search.
Dom: FAT BITCH

LOL, this plays out over and over with very little change <walking away laughing, shaking my head>

~Big
Edited because: my spelling sucks extra bad when I'm laughin'

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RE: Masochistic Doms - 9/6/2006 8:40:11 PM   
SirRichard1946


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Status: offline 		          I`ve been doing sites of all different types for 40 years and I`ve either seen it or heard it from all kinds of different ladies...Regardless of who and what you are ladies, yr still a lady...I have visited thousands of sites in my time and now find most of them come with a (block button)...I say, tell them to FUCK OFF and click away...Sir Richard 

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