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SherriA -> RE: serving a SADIST (1/7/2005 12:30:46 AM)
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ORIGINAL: topcat
I'd sugest opening yourself to the pain- welcome it in and let it blow through you. Relax into the moment instead of grabbing onto it. Imagine that it is traveling from the impact site through your body and going to ground through your restriants, like an electrical current (another reason restriants are a kindness<g>).
It's energy, entering your body, so like Lawrence says, let it move through you and out. Sometimes it helps to "transform" the energy - into sound (yell, curse, etc) or movement (stomp your feet, bang your fists against the wall, shake, etc). YOu can do it with colour or light. It's a little more esoteric, but sometimes I can "feel" what colour the energy is, and change it into something else (purple works well for me usually).
And breathing. As has been said already, don't forget to breathe. You can actively exhale the energy, and rhythmic deep breathing helps you relax as well.
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As a top, my sadism isn't feed so much by my application, but by their recepection of it, so do react (honestly, now, no hamming it up<g>) instead of taking it stoicly.
Stoic bottoms do nothing for me. Why am I expending all this energy if they're going to ignore it? What do I get out of that? It's all about the reactions for me.
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