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Slave profiles - 9/1/2006 8:39:27 PM   
Slavechris25


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Status: offline 		I was just wondering if any mistresses could tell me how to write a good profile. I have tried to find a mistress for a while now but most seem to think Im one of many time wasters & I dont think my age helps. I know there are 1000's of male slaves looking to find a mistress, so can anybody give me some tips on what a mistress looks for when they read a slaves profile.
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RE: Slave profiles - 9/2/2006 12:51:50 AM   
porcelaine


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Slavechris25

I was just wondering if any mistresses could tell me how to write a good profile. I have tried to find a mistress for a while now but most seem to think Im one of many time wasters & I dont think my age helps. I know there are 1000's of male slaves looking to find a mistress, so can anybody give me some tips on what a mistress looks for when they read a slaves profile.


This topic was recently covered in this area. You may find the following threads helpful:

Profiles for those subs seeking a Domme or Mistress: http://www.collarchat.com/m_556178/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#557287

No Mistress does NOT want:
http://www.collarchat.com/m_541014/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#541211

Best of luck to you.

porcelaine

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RE: Slave profiles - 9/2/2006 9:01:53 AM   
thetammyjo


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Status: offline 		I was a couple of subs and doms that you respect on here (read the thread for a while or view lots of profiles) and ask them to sort of become an editor for you while you work on one. They might say no or yes but at least you asked.


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RE: Slave profiles - 9/2/2006 9:07:28 AM   
gooddogbenji


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Status: offline 		I, personally, would start by thinking of something on my own.  Dommes tend to like go-getters, who do their own work, even if it's not perfect, as opposed to people who just ask others to do the work for them.

Once I have written my own profile, I would ask people whom I know and respect (Even if only online) to give suggestions to parts I don't like, and maybe to proofread it for me.

But that's just me.

Yours,


benji

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RE: Slave profiles - 9/2/2006 11:55:39 AM   
MstrssPassion


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From: West Palm Beach, FL
Status: offline 		I assume it really wouldn't do much good for most of the ladies on this board to reply to your question since you already state that you abhor the vast majority of us who will encounter your profile.

Though we do not all call or consider ourself to be a "dominant woman" most of the ladies on the board are not supremacists either.

For what its worth, based on your current profile I would suggest that you should definitely check your spelling & remove the mention of a previous woman in your life. Supremacists or not... most women in general will agree that they could care less about "previous experience" or "previously owned" because no two women are alike & the fact that you are single already speaks for itself. Obviously if you were owned you wouldn't be looking.

I will say one good thing in your favor, at least you already know what you prefer in a partner. Hopefully your image of what female supremacy means mirrors their own image of this lifestyle choice.

Good luck in your search


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RE: Slave profiles - 9/2/2006 12:04:48 PM   
DivaDuchess


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Status: offline 		Hmmm ... I would agree with the above stated removals from your profile and perhaps typing in MS Word and using the spelling and grammar check (ALOT) *lol*.  Aside from that, the profile was okay.  Mentioning collaring or ownership prior to the Mistress you seek is not something She would be interested in.  Simply tell O/others what you are seeking and wait for Someone to note you.  Or ... browse and find Someone that interests you.  you will never know if you don't try.




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RE: Slave profiles - 9/2/2006 12:05:31 PM   
MsKatHouston


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 assume it really wouldn't do much good for most of the ladies on this board to reply to your question since you already state that you abhor the vast majority of us who will encounter your profile.


I think he meant to say "adore".  So, the spell check suggestion is right on track there.  I wholeheartedly agree.  I also second the mention of the previous relationship in the profile.  That is something you can get into when talking and getting to know one another better if it comes to that.


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RE: Slave profiles - 9/2/2006 12:11:19 PM   
MstrssPassion


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsKatHouston

quote:

 assume it really wouldn't do much good for most of the ladies on this board to reply to your question since you already state that you abhor the vast majority of us who will encounter your profile.


I think he meant to say "adore".  So, the spell check suggestion is right on track there.  I wholeheartedly agree.  I also second the mention of the previous relationship in the profile.  That is something you can get into when talking and getting to know one another better if it comes to that.



That was my point ... spelling is important because that one misspelled word changes the entire feel of the profile.

If he did mean adore then he must also understand that being a dominant woman does not mean they adhere to a supremacist ideology. So, as stated earlier... knowing exactly what you seek is a good step in finding someone... just make sure you & those you seek out are all on the same page to save confusion.



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RE: Slave profiles - 9/2/2006 4:40:34 PM   
LadyMorgynn


Posts: 800
Joined: 11/25/2005
From: N. Carolina
Status: offline 		Check out this profile: slavesissymaid

I keep this one on my Favorites list, for the sole reason that it's what I consider an excellent example of a well-written profile (despite the fact that he's not what I'm looking for) so that I can refer other slaves who need help with their profiles to his.  Without all the "Mistress Ma'am" which is a bit of overkill, but it's otherwise very well-written, tells who he is, abit of his experience, what he's looking for and how he could serve a Mistress.


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RE: Slave profiles - 9/3/2006 5:49:38 AM   
DivaDuchess


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Status: offline 		WOW ... yes that's a very well written profile. I may just add it to my 'Favorites' list as well with the same referral.  It's too bad We're not looking for a male slave at this time.  his personality and interests match what We seek though you are right the 'dearest and highly respected Mistress Ma'am' needs to be toned down .  Thank you Lady Morgynn.

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RE: Slave profiles - 9/3/2006 6:17:19 PM   
LadyAlexa


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Status: offline 		ok I took a look at your profile; which you have corrected?  At least it doesn't have abhor in it.    You did recieve some great suggestions.  Since I'm bored lol and reading here and there I'm going to add my two cents.

Hello, my name is Chris, 25, single, and currently living near Northampton, England.

Adding the England sure helps cause there are lots of Northamptons about.  Stating you are single up front is good, although as a lot of us know, unreliable.   Another form could be, Hello, my mother called me Chris but I'm adaptable to whatever my owner would want to call me.

I have been seeking to serve for just two short years.  I am very submissive, obedient, and would love to be completly controlled by my mistress......

You get the drift.  I'm sure the profile is a bit better then before?  Some Ladies enjoy a particular style, some don't care.  Shows that beauty, among other things,  is in the eye of the beholder.
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Hi my names Chris, I'm 25 and currently living near Northampton, I am quite new to the scene but have been looking to serve a mistress for a couple of years now. I am very submissive, obedient & would love to be completly controlled by my mistress either part time or maybe a 24/7 relationship. I adore dominant women & truly believe in female supremacy. As a slave I understand that I live to support my goddess, bring her pleasure and always be in my rightfull place down by her beautiful feet waiting for her commands. I would like to find a mistress willing to train me to become her loyal devoted slave. >>>>

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RE: Slave profiles - 9/3/2006 11:08:39 PM   
Slavechris25


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Status: offline 		Thanks for all the advice!

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RE: Slave profiles - 9/4/2006 6:11:21 PM   
JustaDom


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Status: offline 		Chris, I took a look at your profile and the basics are pretty good.  I would suggest the following changes:

1)  Have it be in three paragraphs.  The first paragraph to introduce yourself, the second paragraph be about what you are looking for and the third paragraph to tell more about yourself, including a bit about your vanilla side.  If that comes across as plain or dull, change it up a little.
2)  Remove every "&" and write out the word.
3)  Clean up the formatting and correct little details like spaces after commas and things like that.
4)  Add a few details that make you sound unique, something that sets you apart from the other blokes.  If you are stuck, ask a female friend to describe you.  Women often notice things about you that are flattering but don't seem as obvious to a guy.
5)  I like the picture.  I'd suggest adding another with you in a sport coat, suit or uniform, a lot of women regardless of role like how a man looks in a suit or uniform.  I think a sport coat works wonders for me -- it broadens the shoulders and flattens the stomach.  A formal picture and an informal picture can provide a nice contrast.

Good luck,

Joe

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RE: Slave profiles - 9/4/2006 7:55:52 PM   
MistressDolly


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Status: offline 		For your profile, spend a lot of time expressing what submission means to you personally.  Express why you consider yourself submissive, how long you felt that way, etc.  Take a while to think it over and write up a number of drafts before your  final one.  We look for guys who truly understand what "submission" means.   It will set you apart from the wankers who almost never write anything about it in their profiles.   Also, express concisely what it is you're looking for:  24/7 slavery, or a romantic relationship with a Mistress that is both BDSM and vanilla based, or a cuckold relationship, etc, etc, etc. 

And, if you're going to answer a Mistresses ad, first and foremost, don't ever send an email enclosing a nude pix; you need to set yourself apart from the wankers.  Really - getting a nude pix instantly lables, in my opinion at least, the person as a poser.  (Also, never post a nude pix in your profile for that matter.)   Second, send along an indepth, respectful introductory email expressing your desires, your views on submission, why you are writing to her specifically, etc.. (most wankers don't spend much time writing intelligent, detailed, credible emails.

Good luck sweetie.  Don't give up. 

(Hopefully you are on a number of websites, getting yourself out there.  Also, where applicable, be  a paid member - it  gives you more credibility as well.)

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