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TreSwank -> This Is Weird........Really Weird (9/3/2006 12:41:05 PM)
When I first saw this website, I believe that I experienced a certain degree of psychological trauma which led to a week's worth of bad dreams. Don't click on this link, unless you have a mighty strong constitution. FO' REAL. http://www.missingangel.org/beautifulbabies.htm I can understand why something like this might be useful to a woman who has gone through that degree of emotional pain..........but it still weirds me out. Let me restate, for the record, that this link is NOT FOR OVERLY-SENSITIVE WOMEN. THAT MEANS "DON'T GO ONTO THIS SITE IF YOU ARE EASILY DISTURBED." This site is the reason why I now HATE dead baby jokes, with a passion. I cannot imagine how it feels to carry something precious inside of you for nine months, only to have it come out lifeless, limp, and discolored. Some of these pictures are enough to make a man of the cloth lose faith in the Almighty. Do you guys think that this sort of site is healthy for people who been unlucky enough to experience a stillborn child?

SusanofO -> RE: This Is Weird........Really Weird (9/3/2006 12:45:31 PM)
These are people holding stillborn babies. I have a friend who had a stllborn child, and it's like having any other child, I imagine, because they are born, and yours. It's sad. - Susan

CuriouslyKat -> RE: This Is Weird........Really Weird (9/3/2006 1:00:23 PM)
The website brought tears to my eyes....and memories back. My first born was stillborn. I was 19 years old and I lost him when I was 6, almost 7 months pregnant. I delivered him and got to hold him, and sing to him one last time, something I am very thankful for. No pictures but I do have his death certificate in a special music box. It plays "You Are My Sunshine". I think the website is great it gives those mothers and outlet to share grief and honor their child. I understand the weirds...lol...it is a bit even to me. Sorry, if I am a downer, just wanted to share my feelings.

Level -> RE: This Is Weird........Really Weird (9/3/2006 1:08:31 PM)
Kat, you're not being a downer; thank you for sharing what you did [:)].

TreSwank -> RE: This Is Weird........Really Weird (9/3/2006 1:13:12 PM)
Girl, I'm sure that everyone who reads this post will appreciate your 100% sincerity. I, as a man, will never understand what it's like to deliver a stillborn child, and any input from individuals who have experienced such a tragic circumstance is appreciated.

WhiplashGirlChld -> RE: This Is Weird........Really Weird (9/3/2006 1:18:42 PM)
quote: I can understand why something like this might be useful to a woman who has gone through that degree of emotional pain..........but it still weirds me out. Actually, I think it is OK to be weirded out too. As humans, we have a natural distaste for the intense suffering of other people - it's biological. To acknowledge that is not to show disrespect, but to say "your extreme pain is so intense it makes me have an unpleasant reaction."

cuddleheart50 -> RE: This Is Weird........Really Weird (9/3/2006 1:24:30 PM)
I've had 3 stillborns.

TreSwank -> RE: This Is Weird........Really Weird (9/3/2006 1:26:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: cuddleheart50 I've had 3 stillborns. Oh my God, cuddleheart. I don't think that I could survive that kind of emotional torment. I can't imagine the pain. The is a topic that has fascinated me ever since I ran across this website, but I've never actually had a forum to communicate with those who have been through the hell of still-births.

cuddleheart50 -> RE: This Is Weird........Really Weird (9/3/2006 1:30:39 PM)
You can survive alot more than you think you can...It was very emotional, but my children are in God's hands, and they are alot safer with Him than with me....I have to look at it that way.

TreSwank -> RE: This Is Weird........Really Weird (9/3/2006 1:32:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: cuddleheart50 You can survive alot more than you think you can...It was very emotional, but my children are in God's hands, and they are alot safer with Him than with me....I have to look at it that way. And I think that's the best way to look at it.

GentleDominantx2 -> RE: This Is Weird........Really Weird (9/3/2006 1:34:16 PM)
My heart goes out to the women, and the partners of those who've suffered these losses. I too have. I have suffered 3 in the last number of years. Finally depite the fact I wished for another child, I said no more. My body or spirit could not handle it. Not to mention that I felt to try for another child was in my own mind dooming a child to death...Anyhow.. I can not help but think there are reasons behind these things we may not understand. I also think it is not talked about enough, nor given nearly enough support, certainly not by the medical population in general. So the support we need we must find amoungst ourselves. Brightest of blessings, warmest of hugs. Silver

CuriouslyKat -> RE: This Is Weird........Really Weird (9/3/2006 1:41:31 PM)
Wow, cuddleheart50! .....I was messed up for 3 years after I lost my one...I can not imagine. Even though I don't know you...a thousand e-hugs to you!!! You must be a very strong woman. Edit: Hugs to you too, GentleDominantx2! They told that the only clue to my stillbirth was the cord was twisted...I will never really know and am ok with that..I have two others running around right now and that helps. I am sorry you don't have that comfort. And I agree with the medical community. My doctor never showed up though it all. I had kick ass Nurses that got me though. BTW, TreSwank, Level. It is my pleasure to share. The whole story is a little more painful...I lost my child the day before I was supposed to get married....We had to call everyone....well you can just imagine. So many women and men go though the loss of a child and that needs to spoken about. Once it was know that I had lost my baby I had so many people tell me their stories. When I go to the cemetary to visit my child I see the gravesites and tombstones for the babies...I remember when I was younger wondering about them, what happened, how did it feel to lose a child. I no longer wonder. It is a mystery I am sad to know.

TreSwank -> RE: This Is Weird........Really Weird (9/3/2006 1:43:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: GentleDominantx2 I also think it is not talked about enough, nor given nearly enough support, certainly not by the medical population in general. So the support we need we must find amoungst ourselves. Brightest of blessings, warmest of hugs. Silver Exactly. I think that it's a damn shame that this site, however disturbing it may be, is the only exposure that I'd had to would-be parents in this kind of distress.

pinkee -> RE: This Is Weird........Really Weird (9/3/2006 2:11:41 PM)
i lost a son in stillbirth, full term, when i was about 28. If i had not already had my first child, i think i would have died of a broken heart. i don't begrudge anyone whatever solice a website or other source may bring you.....but i remember visiting Ripleys Believe It or Not in Niagra Falls in the '70's, with babies in jars, and still think that was just horrid. He'd be 24 this Sept. 21st. pinkee

ChinaKat -> RE: This Is Weird........Really Weird (9/3/2006 3:05:36 PM)
i think the most important thing to remember in this is, that, spending time with a stillborn child is viewed as very important with the healing process. As humans (or Americans especially) we've learned and grown in a culture that encourages us to sort of skip over the unpleasent parts of life. i couldn't imagine having a child that was born stillborn, i would imagine that i would want to remember every inch of them, their face, before i had to say goodbye. Though, i've never had a child that's stillborn, and i count myself fortunate, it is the driving force behind why i am who i am. i am pregnant with child (for the third time) for a woman who has had more stillborn, and miscarriages than i'd care to even think of. When i met her, i knew in my heart, it was her time to be a mother. So, though i almost feel that my opinion shouldn't count in a way since i've never been directly affected with such an event, i wanted to extend my thoughts to you who have. ~j

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