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Gifts - 9/4/2006 11:13:56 AM

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I am getting ready to meet a new Misstress for the first time. We have been chatting for a few months now and I feel that she may be the dominate woman that I've always dreamed about. I wanted to know what would be a good gift to present her upon our first meeting?

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RE: Gifts - 9/4/2006 11:23:45 AM

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If she has expressed interest in a certain writer, perhaps a book from them; if she has any special non BDSM interests she has talked about, something pertaining to that interest, any little thoughtful thing like that is sure to make an impression, a food item if she has professed a love of it. Just be thoughtful, it will make a lasting impression.

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RE: Gifts - 9/4/2006 12:30:19 PM

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I've received everything from roses to candy ... I got an X-box game once. The most unusual gift and one I still have is the seat covers in my truck ... Duchess the Mistress of my Dreams. With her name in gold lettering.

I liked that, it showed thought and time. It was very sweetly done. Something like that, from YOU, your thoughts, feelings, things like that. Be creative.

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RE: Gifts - 9/4/2006 1:18:59 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DivaDuchess

I've received everything from roses to candy ... I got an X-box game once. The most unusual gift and one I still have is the seat covers in my truck ... Duchess the Mistress of my Dreams. With her name in gold lettering.

I liked that, it showed thought and time. It was very sweetly done. Something like that, from YOU, your thoughts, feelings, things like that. Be creative.

Just a cautionary note. Some people are allergic to certain types of flowers (NOT ME!) so keep that in mind. I had one sub tell me of his ill fortune to run into a Domme that was. It's better to ask in an inconspicuous way then to present them and then find her in a sneezing frenzy. Hopefully this already has come out in your many conversations. I also agree that anything that is thoughtful and sincerely given out of your discovering things that she likes will be much appreciated.

Wishing you the best in your quest!

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RE: Gifts - 9/4/2006 1:34:39 PM

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Or play a game of 20 questions ... begin with favorite flower, tree, car, candy, ice scream, movie ... stuff like that and move from there. The slave that got me the seat covers knew that I love my truck, but hated the thought of my seats getting all stained from all the kids. She learned that through a game of 20 questions.

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RE: Gifts - 9/4/2006 8:16:25 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: surferboy

I am getting ready to meet a new Misstress for the first time. We have been chatting for a few months now and I feel that she may be the dominate woman that I've always dreamed about. I wanted to know what would be a good gift to present her upon our first meeting?

I'm ok with him taking it upon himself to select a gift for me when he KNOWS me well and knows my tastes, but right off the starting line, no way.

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RE: Gifts - 9/4/2006 8:40:26 PM

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If you know her well enough to get her something she would enjoy, do that. Do not make it very expensive. Listen to her and think about what she would like. If you don't know, I would go with some traditional dating things like flowers, candy, etc. and then wait until you get to know her better to get her something she is sure to enjoy

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RE: Gifts - 9/4/2006 8:50:31 PM

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Thank you all for the good advice. I do appreciate your responses.

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RE: Gifts - 9/4/2006 9:08:19 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: surferboy

I am getting ready to meet a new Misstress for the first time. We have been chatting for a few months now and I feel that she may be the dominate woman that I've always dreamed about. I wanted to know what would be a good gift to present her upon our first meeting?

I would defer to something simple that is representative of who you are and serves as a small token of appreciation for her presence. A nice journal or other item along these lines are always nice to receive. Items of this nature are usually safe bets and don't require you to possess intimate knowledge about her preferences. If she has shared a few of her favorite indulgences or past times with you thus far, these may serve as possible suggestions for potential presents. Good luck to you and happy shopping.

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RE: Gifts - 9/4/2006 10:42:35 PM

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To the OP:

Maybe something symbolic. It may be tough to come up with something, but Im sure you have a good idea of her interests. Try to think of some small token of symbolism that might represent an interest or a belief of hers. But like the others said, dont make it big or extravagant. imo, it shouldnt be about impressing her with 'materialism' ya know? I would just say that subtle is the way to go at this early stage. If all else fails.....Flowers are always a nice gesture. It may not be original, but I think most women are somehow deeply touched when you hand them flowers. I know I am. But dont make it some huge arrangement. Something delicate would be nice. Just my opinion. Best of luck. I hope it works out for you. :)

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RE: Gifts - 9/5/2006 12:48:23 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: surferboy

I am getting ready to meet a new Misstress for the first time. We have been chatting for a few months now and I feel that she may be the dominate woman that I've always dreamed about. I wanted to know what would be a good gift to present her upon our first meeting?

I would think a small token would be nice.. I prefer something personal, you should know her well enough by now to know her favorite color, flower, perfume, chocolate, coffee, tea etc.. all those things are basic information when dealing with women. Along with shoe size and ring size..lol.

Gifts that transport well also are important.. a small vial and I do mean SMALL of perfume, three perfect truffles, gerber dasies ( men think of roses and women think well you didnt really think), cashmere gloves if she lives in a cold place, an antique fountain pen if she journals...something women wouldnt typically treat themselves to are good ideas and shows thought process its not the cost of the gift but how much thought went into that impresses most women..unless of course your giving her a four carat pink dimaond *winks*

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RE: Gifts - 9/5/2006 12:55:21 PM

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Two of the sweetest gifts I have ever been given are sitting here on a ledge by my desk at work. An inexpensive 6" antique art pottery vase and a rough chunk of pink rock. Both were considerate of who I am as a person and from the heart.

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RE: Gifts - 9/5/2006 3:21:09 PM

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If you don't know her well, you can still give a gift. You've given generic gifts (housewarming presents, coworkers' departures, distant cousins' birthdays) right? Follow the rules for that--make the gift somewhat unusual, so it says something about you, but broad enough that it could be conceivably appealing to the recipient. Don't get a dozen roses--get a few stems of a more unusual flower, maybe one local to you or one from your home state. If you can't think of a good unusual flower that might be associated with your background, pick something odd-looking at the flower shop and get the florist to tell you about it. Get a book that's selling well and was published in the last few months--check out the New York Times Books section for lists and reviews so you can pick one that might suit her. Candy works, but don't buy the box of Whitman's at the drugstore--go to a chocolatier or a gourmet shop and get a few interesting pieces, or at least a bar of excellent chocolate. Stationery, like Porcelaine suggested, isn't a bad idea. Sylverdawn's advice to make the gift a treat, or something unusual, is wise.

Just an FYI--don't get a gift card, because it's not conventional any longer to give a woman a gift when you begin courting. You're likely to play the gift-giving as "I saw this small thing and thought you might like it," not "This is an occasion when I'm to give you a gift."

Now, the above are nice generic gifts. However, if you think carefully, you probably will find that you know something about this woman already that will let you choose a more thoughtful gift. If not, the next time you're talking and she gives you a lead, like "I'll be back in a minute, I want to fix a cup of tea," you say "Oh, what kind of tea?" and she'll answer, and you'll learn about her preferences.

Finally, you know, you don't have to give her a gift. She's not likely to turn it down, but unless she's hinted heavily, you won't lose anything by not giving her a present. You know, I don't think I've ever gotten a gift from a prospective submissive.

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RE: Gifts - 9/6/2006 10:09:19 AM

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Thank you everyone for the great feedback! I atleast have some ideas now. I actually expected more specific ideas but all of you are right by saying that it is more to her tastes.

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