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RE: Social Etiquette Advice Needed... - 9/4/2006 9:23:11 PM

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Wow... there's some pretty solid advice on both sides of the coin here, with about half for calling and half against. Benji's comments seem to resonate most comfortably with me at the moment, but I'm still undecided.

Thanks to all who have written so far.

You're thinking with the wrong head. What does your dick say? If you can fuck her, then call her.

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RE: Social Etiquette Advice Needed... - 9/4/2006 9:29:52 PM

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What an unusually good boy you must be! Every guy I know would have gone off with the other lady regardless! (but maybe I only know bad boys.....)

Assuming that you are speaking of the lady I felt attracted to, what makes you think I wouldn't have gone off with her had she shown enough interest in me?...

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RE: Social Etiquette Advice Needed... - 9/4/2006 10:30:36 PM

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I agree, you should have just said, "Thank you." and left it at that. Now that you've said you would call, maybe that's what you should do. If you have friends that play volley ball or softball and some that will be there that are single, you might invite her to join you and say something to the effect of, I'm sure you'd enjoy it, there are gonna be alot of single men there and that could be fun, if you're looking for one.
I dunno, sounded good when I first started typing this.
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RE: Social Etiquette Advice Needed... - 9/4/2006 10:53:59 PM

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Ask your friend if she will do you and the eager beaver, THEN call her.

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RE: Social Etiquette Advice Needed... - 9/5/2006 6:46:15 AM

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... for this vanilla situation.

Last night I bumped into a past female friend I hadn't seen for years at a local festival. She had two girlfriends with her, and within a minute or two, whispered to me that she could set me up with one of the girls.

I was attracted to one of them, but it turned out that the one she wanted to set me up with was the other girl. I stuck around them for 15 minutes or so, talking, flirting and dancing a little with all three, hoping I could strike up some interest with the girl I had my eye on. The girl my friend wanted to fix me up made it obvious that she was interested in me, but it also became evident that the girl I wanted had no interest in me whatsoever.

So I excused myself to return to my group of friends. Before I left, the interested girl wrote down her number and told me to give her a call. Not knowing what else to say under the circumstances (can I blame this on being buzzed from a few beers?) I told her I would. I then returned to my group.

I have no interest in this girl, and don't want to lead her on. Should I just throw her number away and forget about it? Or should I stand true to my word, call her, and deal with the uncomfortable process of rejecting her?

I'd call as per your word. Thank her for her interest but that you just don't share it.

You may wish to add that you are due for major surgery and don't know if or when you will be functional. if she presses you for info on what type of surgery.. tell her it is sexual reassignment :) This will not work if she is bisexual.

All kidding aside. I would call and thank her for her interest but you are not interested. (Do not add "at this time")

A quick kill is the most merciful.

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RE: Social Etiquette Advice Needed... - 9/5/2006 6:55:03 AM

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You didn't ask her for her number...she gave it to you.
No need to call if you're not interested.

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RE: Social Etiquette Advice Needed... - 9/5/2006 7:53:54 AM

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Ask your friend if she will do you and the eager beaver, THEN call her.

And yet another "crappy" answer :) Use this only if you wish to become celebate.

(What I think of when I hear this is.. The guy can only get it up once )

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RE: Social Etiquette Advice Needed... - 9/5/2006 10:12:09 AM

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You're thinking with the wrong head. What does your dick say? If you can fuck her, then call her.

LOL... in the end, that's really what it all boils down to, isn't it?

My big head says "Be true to your word, regardless of the comfort level that follows."

My little head says "Get the fuck outta Dodge!"

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RE: Social Etiquette Advice Needed... - 9/5/2006 10:24:18 AM

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I agree, you should have just said, "Thank you." and left it at that. Now that you've said you would call, maybe that's what you should do. If you have friends that play volley ball or softball and some that will be there that are single, you might invite her to join you and say something to the effect of, I'm sure you'd enjoy it, there are gonna be alot of single men there and that could be fun, if you're looking for one.
I dunno, sounded good when I first started typing this.
~Big

Just saying "Thank you" instead of agreeing to call wasn't my only mistake. I also flirted with them all, possibly leading on eager-beaver.

To make matters worse, I even joined her in a dirty-dance routine for a few seconds until I stopped dead in my tracks, thinking to myself "What the fuck are you doing???" (BTW... I only get those kind of balls when I have a major buzz going.)

So you see why I can't claim total innocence here...

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RE: Social Etiquette Advice Needed... - 9/5/2006 10:31:37 AM

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You may wish to add that you are due for major surgery and don't know if or when you will be functional. if she presses you for info on what type of surgery.. tell her it is sexual reassignment :) This will not work if she is bisexual.

Too risky. If she's bisexual, she may be even more eager than before! I'd better play it safe, and just tell her that according to my doc, my STDs will all be cleared up within a matter of weeks...

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RE: Social Etiquette Advice Needed... - 9/5/2006 8:54:07 PM

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Out of curiosity, how well does your old friend know you? After all, she did offer to set you up with girl b. It's either that she knows there's something about this chick that you would like or that she's trying to get rid of her by pawning on you. Maybe she just didn't feel like loosing girl A.

How hard would it be to call up your old friend and ask her a few questions? Does she already know about your submissive side? If so, ask how much of a dominant side girl B has? If she's such a good friend, surely she wouldn't want to see you end up with just anybody. Being that she has two friends that are single, how do you consider her judgement by introducing the two of you to each other? Ask her what she's seeing between you and girl B that you aren't realizing yet.

As for the phone call. Well, she told you to call. Is there a problem for you not being submissive enough to call her as she requested? Giving her and yourself a chance will not hurt anyones feelings.

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