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Why do you want a slave? - 9/4/2006 9:10:21 PM

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What is the attraction for you in this?

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RE: Why do you want a slave? - 9/4/2006 9:21:01 PM

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I don't own a slave, never have never will, I just don't believe in slavery. Yes that makes me the wierd one on the forum I'm sure. But I do have a sub and I wouldn't trade him for anything. He was a Master prior to discovering his sub side and I asked him once what made him want to be a Master in the first place. He said for him it was the knowing that he would have someone who would always do what he wanted, never question his authority, give him sex when and how he wanted it, someone who would be truthful and devoted and who would never leave him. Unfortnately the relationship didn't go as planned as it turned out she was a habitual liar, when he put his foot down she threw tantrums, she didn't like being poor since she wasnt permitted to work and finally she did left him. For 2 months she refused to come back because she'd had it with being a slave, he told her not to bother coming back so they got divorced.

I guess it proves that M/s relationship aren't set in concrete just like other relationships. I don't know if that helps your question but thats from an ExMaster who is now a very happy sub.

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RE: Why do you want a slave? - 9/4/2006 9:23:25 PM

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I don't own a slave, never have never will, I just don't believe in slavery. Yes that makes me the wierd one on the forum I'm sure. But I do have a sub and I wouldn't trade him for anything. He was a Master prior to discovering his sub side and I asked him once what made him want to be a Master in the first place. He said for him it was the knowing that he would have someone who would always do what he wanted, never question his authority, give him sex when and how he wanted it, someone who would be truthful and devoted and who would never leave him. Unfortnately the relationship didn't go as planned as it turned out she was a habitual liar, when he put his foot down she threw tantrums, she didn't like being poor since she wasnt permitted to work and finally she did left him. For 2 months she refused to come back because she'd had it with being a slave, he told her not to bother coming back so they got divorced.

I guess it proves that M/s relationship aren't set in concrete just like other relationships. I don't know if that helps your question but thats from an ExMaster who is now a very happy sub.

~Lashra

Still very useful. We must be careful in our choices,no matter the dynamic involved.

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RE: Why do you want a slave? - 9/4/2006 9:24:30 PM

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Well, I mean, what a perfect life, to come home to love and adoration.

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RE: Why do you want a slave? - 9/5/2006 4:47:46 AM

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For the sake of my own delusions, I'm going to replace 'slave' with 'partner with severely kinky leanings'.

I'm an interesting sort. My necessity for interaction with other people seems to be decidedly less than others. I'm an only child, was apparently content as a child to be left home while my parents went to the store, didn't have many friends and didn't really seem to notice that fact.

Fast forward, and many of the same things hold true. Add to this that by hook or by crook I became very independant, smothering mother and all. I can go through longish periods without a partner in my life. And I still don't do the 'friends' thing. I have plenty to occupy myself. (I mean, given enough sand, you can make an infinite number of sandcastles, right?)

What I know about relationships, and yes, I do enjoy them, is that I want to make my partner happy with me. I don't really require much 'outside' that. So I find various ways to make myself desireable to that person.

What I have learned in the Lifestyle, a great many years now, is that I have a knack (and the rush associated) for dominating. No, it doesn't drift back to the 'smothering mother' thing. It is simply an entity of its own. I have the intelligence, creativity, and 'dark stuff within me', to make that happen. But it still is utilized in such a way to make myself endearing to the person I'm with. It isn't 'about' sex, or at least not directly 'mine', but it's very sensual and a thrill ride much of the time.

Yet, being the independant sort that I am, without a suitable partner I can still do without. For the most part happily so.

So why do I come back? To wit from the OP, why do I want a partner with severely kinky leanings? Honestly, from how I understand the way I carry out my business while doing so (compared to much of the rest of the rabble), I'm an enormous rarity. I am a prize. To deny me from 'someone' would be criminal.

So I return. Here I am. Jeff unbared.

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RE: Why do you want a slave? - 9/5/2006 5:14:42 AM

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I don't want a slave - I have too many associations with that word that I would not enjoy at all. I imagine a slave as totally passive, controlled, not their own person.

I want a sub who has his own personality, possibly even a strong one, but also a strong desire to submit and be controlled. I want him because it is just flat out fun to tell a man to go put on those pink panties we bought, or to kneel on the bed with your butt in the air so I can whip it, or whatever whim happens to strike me at the moment. It's fun to see him jump when I say jump.

And it's all the more fun if I know that he's quite capable of taking care of himself and doesn't need me to run his life for him.

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RE: Why do you want a slave? - 9/5/2006 6:19:59 AM

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That may be your opinion of a slave and thats ok, but I am definatley not any of those things. I have an active role in our relationship and believe it or not I have a self esteem and a brain and use both.

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RE: Why do you want a slave? - 9/5/2006 7:12:41 AM

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Interesting question homestead, and not one that is easily defined. I guess in a way it falls under that category of "If I have to explain, you wouldn't understand". Part of it is summed up in that look you get that tells you that you are "their everything". For those who have not experienced it..is is likely hard to imagine, but for those of us that have..it is a totally different experience. It's knowing that you have the control to do anything you want, yet the mutual respect is there that tells you that the reason you have that control, is because of the magnatude of trust that you have earned. Not downplaying submission at all, but it really does seem to be a level above that, where limits are rarely, if ever, discussed and needs are not verbalized..they are just known. I will be interested in seeing some of the responses to your thread, because I am curious what answers you will get from someone who has not been a part of a M/s dynamic, but is fairly sure this is what they are seeking.

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RE: Why do you want a slave? - 9/5/2006 7:14:46 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lashra
He was a Master prior to discovering his sub side and I asked him once what made him want to be a Master in the first place. He said for him it was the knowing that he would have someone who would always do what he wanted, never question his authority, give him sex when and how he wanted it, someone who would be truthful and devoted and who would never leave him. Unfortnately the relationship didn't go as planned as it turned out she was a habitual liar, when he put his foot down she threw tantrums, she didn't like being poor since she wasnt permitted to work and finally she did left him. For 2 months she refused to come back because she'd had it with being a slave, he told her not to bother coming back so they got divorced.

with all due respect.. it doesnt sound like he had a really good grip on what being a Master really meant.. Perhaps this is why it didnt work out?

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RE: Why do you want a slave? - 9/5/2006 7:20:53 AM

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Why do I want one or why do I have one?

For me it is just another type of relationship, one where I'm the center of attention, something that doesn't exist in any other type of relationship I've had. Also it is one where so much trust is placed in me to make the decisions that I feel both humbled and empowered by it.

To put it at a core level: When I love someone, sometimes it is the love that echoes "MINE" inside of me. That corresponds fairly well to consensual slavery.

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RE: Why do you want a slave? - 9/5/2006 7:23:09 AM

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Part of it is summed up in that look you get that tells you that you are "their everything".

Most Beautiful Wicked Perfect Awesome Lord of my Universe, Master of my world, Keeper of my soul, Owner of my heart, you just made me cry.

Is it any wonder i love you so........

< Message edited by twicehappy -- 9/5/2006 7:24:08 AM >

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RE: Why do you want a slave? - 9/5/2006 7:26:59 AM

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I want to give and get unqualified total commitment.

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RE: Why do you want a slave? - 9/5/2006 7:28:31 AM

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I like having a pet :) And I hear they taste like chicken.

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RE: Why do you want a slave? - 9/5/2006 8:06:13 AM

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There are many, many reasons, some much better than others. And the emphasis placed on them can vary over time.

Right this minute, for me, the most important reason is that I have two days worth of dishes piled in the sink, and I'd really like someone to wash them for me. When the dishes are clean, other reasons take precedence.

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RE: Why do you want a slave? - 9/5/2006 8:18:17 AM

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What is the attraction for you in this?

Advancement, pleasure and worldly gain are but a few motives for wanting a slave. I likewise enjoy the selfless and unbridled love that flows from them, regardless of whether or not I return it. There is something to having a captured soul that always looks up to you—a being who you can pet and confide in, who worships and adores you and is fulfilled simply curling at your feet. A slave serves me and pleases me in any way I deem. What is there not to find attractive in that?

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RE: Why do you want a slave? - 9/5/2006 8:23:48 AM

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What is the attraction for you in this?

Advancement, pleasure and worldly gain are but a few motives for wanting a slave. I likewise enjoy the selfless and unbridled love that flows from them, regardless of whether or not I return it. There is something to having a captured soul that always looks up to you—a being who you can pet and confide in, who worships and adores you and is fulfilled simply curling at your feet. A slave serves me and pleases me in any way I deem. What is there not to find attractive in that?