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slave topping - 9/5/2006 12:20:49 PM

wanta247

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your slave grabs you in a senssitive area, you howl in pain, but you like/love her enough to let it pass, and it happens again, where do you draw the line that she is just playing, as apossed to taking control

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RE: slave topping - 9/5/2006 12:35:04 PM

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Whenever it's something you don't want to happen.

You don't have to backslap the cunt everytime she crosses the line, but a clear "don't do that again" statement should be more than enough to make sure it doesn't happen again.

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RE: slave topping - 9/5/2006 12:51:13 PM

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but backslapping the cunt is just sooooo much more fun...LOL

Besides... grabbing the jewels is only control while being held... she has to let go at some point. No real control has happened.

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RE: slave topping - 9/5/2006 1:22:00 PM

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she grabs you...you howl...you stop everything...look directly in her eyes...ask very calmly "Is this the way you want to continue and are you prepared to face the consequences of it?"...

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RE: slave topping - 9/5/2006 1:51:05 PM

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Let me just first say I thought this was going to be about what toppings we like on our slaves... kinda partical to blackberry syrup myself... but I digress.

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your slave grabs you in a senssitive area, you howl in pain, but you like/love her enough to let it pass, and it happens again, where do you draw the line that she is just playing, as apossed to taking control

You draw it anywhere you damn well please. Here's a concept, you are in charge, act like it. If she is doing things you don't like, you make that clear and you make it clear you expect the behavior to change immediately. If she persists, you provide consequences and discipline (like standing in a corner, etc.). If she refuses, you don't have a slave, you have a brat who likes to play at being submissive.

If it were me I'd show her to the door and find someone who is serious. Quite frankly, any girl who grabbed me in a sensitive area to the point I was in real pain would be sat down for a long talk about what she did, why she did it, why it was entirely inappropriate and a clear warning that is she ever did so again she'd be shown the door in record time! Then again, I've never had a girl who would dare do so.

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RE: slave topping - 9/5/2006 2:17:27 PM

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This is going to sound very three stooges, but you reach out and twist her nose like a door knob.

Behavior modification is FUN.

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RE: slave topping - 9/5/2006 2:23:16 PM

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I thought this was going to be a thread where we debated hot fudge vs whipped cream.

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RE: slave topping - 9/5/2006 2:36:05 PM

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Isn't dominating lobsters a consent issue? Lobsters can't consent. Could someone please call the SPCA?

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RE: slave topping - 9/5/2006 2:42:14 PM

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I think this is a bit of a paradox - if a Dom would tolerate this behaviour, he will attract a sub who will do this, and it will happen. The Dom will have no idea how to deal with it, and will come to the forums to ask. However, the Dom will not take the given advice.

However, a Dom who knows exactly how to deal with it will never be with a sub who would do such a thing. So they never get the chance to prove themselves, and they come to the forum hoping to give out advice on the matter. When they give the advice, the recipient proceeds to ignore it.

Aren't Doms pathetic? This really does support Female Superiourity. Now where is that Jessica kid when you need him?

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RE: slave topping - 9/5/2006 3:21:59 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: justheather

I thought this was going to be a thread where we debated hot fudge vs whipped cream.

Me too, I was gonna vote for hot fudge.

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RE: slave topping - 9/5/2006 3:28:11 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: gooddogbenji

I think this is a bit of a paradox - if a Dom would tolerate this behaviour, he will attract a sub who will do this, and it will happen. The Dom will have no idea how to deal with it, and will come to the forums to ask. However, the Dom will not take the given advice.

However, a Dom who knows exactly how to deal with it will never be with a sub who would do such a thing. So they never get the chance to prove themselves, and they come to the forum hoping to give out advice on the matter. When they give the advice, the recipient proceeds to ignore it.

Aren't Doms pathetic? This really does support Female Superiourity. Now where is that Jessica kid when you need him?

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RE: slave topping - 9/5/2006 4:24:36 PM

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ORIGINAL: justheather

I thought this was going to be a thread where we debated hot fudge vs whipped cream.

Warm Chocolate Ganache

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RE: slave topping - 9/5/2006 6:11:20 PM

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erm... not to be a spoiled sport here.. but it's possible He likes this type of playfulness... and is asking "...where do you draw the line..." trying to succumb to social pressures?

Wanta247, You draw it anwhere You wish to. If You think she's adorable when she playfully challenges You, who the hell can tell You what to want in YOUR girl? A/anyone looks at You funny for "Tolerating what I would never accept" just say "Yes, isn't she just great, exactly as I like her." Just remember, the point of being the Master is YOU get what you want, not You get what the other boys think is cool.

That said, if it's not something You personaly find adorable, make her knock it off the same way You would if she squirt-gunned Your mother at a family dinner. (ie, whatever it takes!)

If you do like it, maybe set up some parameters.. is it ok in Wal-Mart? at a lifestyle gathering? in front of Your friends or family? Only alone? Only if she's been good? You know, like anything else that transpires between Y/you.

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RE: slave topping - 9/7/2006 6:16:47 AM

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my only thoughts on the matter are: (simply like th song) . . . "you gotta be cruel to be kind . . ."

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RE: slave topping - 9/8/2006 4:23:28 AM

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Too easy - it's entirely automatic!

I like a playful sub, esp one with a streak of mischief about her. It comes from a sub-conscious level - if it feels like harmless play, I'll smile when she does it but if it feels like disrespect, I'll feel the heat of anger rapidly build inside me!

I use the same auomatic cues for deciding between discipline or punishment. If I need to rein her in but I'm not angry at her actions, I'll discipline her, even if it's just a look - and we both enjoy that. But if her actions make me angry, she gets marched to the corner until after I cool down - and neither of us enjoys that!

So I don't consciously draw any line in those situations; the mood her actions generate within me decides my response.

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RE: slave topping - 9/11/2006 4:40:42 PM

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Hot fudge and whipped cream please!

If I accidentally grabbed him in a way that was painful, I certainly wouldn't deliberately do it again unless we were wrestling/take down play. Now we don't do that but I know others do with no holds barred. But deliberately trying to hurt him? That would indicate a lot of resentment if this was the only way I could think of to show him how much he had hurt me.

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RE: slave topping - 9/16/2006 12:28:31 AM

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personally, i would prefer chocolate and icecream with double servings of cream please!

maybe she is seeing how far she can push you and find the boundaries ... but ouch, thinks her dominant's sensitive area is not a good place to try.

i think you need to take some responsibility ... because if you have let it happen more than once, and now your saying it's unacceptable, then you need to find the time to talk.

$0.02 cents worth in times of inflation doesn't get you much does it :O

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RE: slave topping - 9/16/2006 12:43:01 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

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ORIGINAL: justheather
I thought this was going to be a thread where we debated hot fudge vs whipped cream.

Me too, I was gonna vote for hot fudge.

Not me! I loooove whipped cream, so that is definitely how my slave should always be topped.

To the OP, I like Padriag and Focus50's replies. Mine would be tell her "I may knock you out next time you hurt me that way, so DON'T EVER DO IT AGAIN." M

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RE: slave topping - 9/16/2006 3:04:39 AM

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Hmmm... seems I somewhat derailed the thread...

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RE: slave topping - 9/16/2006 3:38:01 AM

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quote:

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your slave grabs you in a senssitive area, you howl in pain, but you like/love her enough to let it pass, and it happens again, where do you draw the line that she is just playing, as apossed to taking control

Wherever you decide it is. By the way she's done with you.

Unless you pull it together real quick.

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