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Dnomyar -> RE: Being owned (9/7/2006 11:55:27 AM)
One reply tells you to wait then turns around and tells you if a person has been single 3 or 4 years on here something is wrong?????? No matter how much time you take when you meet the right person things will move fast. As long as your opening line isnt Hi, I love you, will you marry me. you will be ok. It is a good way to scare off the players.

onestandingstill -> RE: Being owned (9/7/2006 12:00:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: gemy i have noticed, generally, how quickly subs and slaves seem to get collared, on line and real time, and "give their hearts" and "this is the One of my dreams" and all that kind of stuff. now, i am not saying sometimes it isn't real. But then there are also subs i know personally ~~ it seems so important to them to be collared, to be owned and have a Master,,,,,, they get depressed when it hasn't happened, wonder what is wrong, etc., and settle for Whomever will accept them,,,,,,,, i would like to owned, collared and loved, sure ~~ but, i am not in a hurry. i guess i hope that One that i can truly give myself to in alllllllllllllll fullness will come, and i do not wish to offer myself to a Master Whom does not, um, consume me for lack of a better term ~~ is there something wrong with me? am i missing some essential part that makes a girl, or a guy for that matter, a submissive? or am i something else and i don't know what,,,,? Hi gemy, The only thing wrong with you is you're not willing to sacrifice your principals. That's not a bad thing in my book. I made the mistake of a Velcro collar in my first relationship. Wow did I pay in spades for that one.for sure. Keep to your path and like you say when it reaches a destination you'll be better off for it. Suzanne

MasterRobert1 -> RE: Being owned (9/7/2006 12:01:09 PM)
You have the right atttitude. This is nothing to hurry. Real relationships, the kind that thrive, grow, and prosper, take lots of time and knowledge. And those don't happen overnight. Focus on being who you are, a sub, et cetera. Concentrate on being the best you can be, the rest will come.

amayos -> RE: Being owned (9/7/2006 12:19:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: marieToo quote: amayos It is interesting, however, to consider a slave so deeply internalized with her own servility that simply being given to or claimed by another is enough. While this quality makes selling her off quite easy, it shows a highly achieved state of self-objectification, which in my mind can only come through the willingness of the true believer and the deep-level conditioning she has received from previous keepers. On the other hand, I wouldn't be surprised to find that there are a rare few already there without any 'training'. Interesting state of mind, indeed, almost scary. Indeed, some are naturals in this sense. The process which makes them—external influence, coincidence of choice or something innate—is a constant and meaningful study for me.

SusanofO -> RE: Being owned (9/7/2006 12:36:21 PM)
This is a good thread. I keep screwing up setting these quote box thingys. Oops. Sorry, anyone. Just skip over this. - Susan

SusanofO -> RE: Being owned (9/7/2006 12:42:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: amayos quote: ORIGINAL: gemy i have noticed, generally, how quickly subs and slaves seem to get collared, on line and real time, and "give their hearts" and "this is the One of my dreams" and all that kind of stuff. now, i am not saying sometimes it isn't real. But then there are also subs i know personally ~~ it seems so important to them to be collared, to be owned and have a Master,,,,,, they get depressed when it hasn't happened, wonder what is wrong, etc., and settle for Whomever will accept them,,,,,,,, i would like to owned, collared and loved, sure ~~ but, i am not in a hurry. i guess i hope that One that i can truly give myself to in alllllllllllllll fullness will come, and i do not wish to offer myself to a Master Whom does not, um, consume me for lack of a better term ~~ Is something wrong with you for wanting to be owned and loved? Certainly not. You're merely admitting a need to be captured before your loyalty and devotion can flourish, and this state needn't be passive; it can seek out capture as much as it may lie in wait for it. marie: What I heard amayos say, in general, overall, that communication is a two-way street, for slaves and Masters, before any capture takes place (and probably afterward, too would be my guess). - Susan

marieToo -> RE: Being owned (9/7/2006 7:23:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SusanofO This is a good thread. I keep screwing up setting these quote box thingys. Oops. Sorry, anyone. Just skip over this. - Susan Susan: I kept screwing up the boxes too. A few people tried to explain, then LA told me how to do it. Im going to see if I can find that post and cut and paste. It was well written and easy enough for even me to understand! Now that I know how to do it, Im arguing like a pro! lmaoooo. Sometimes a little bit of knowledge can be dangerous in the wrong hands. Look for it on this thread in a little while. marie.

marieToo -> RE: Being owned (9/7/2006 7:30:25 PM)
Susan...This was LA's post. When you are reading it, understand the the asterisks will be removed from the code when you actually type it. I think she mentions that at the bottom. When you want to go line by line on a long post, hit "quote" which will then pop up a response box with all of that persons post quoted for your reply. Delete the [/quote] at the end of the quoted text. Insert a [/quote] at the end of THEIR text where you want to begin your first response chunk. In this recent case, directly after Noah's "right?" Type your response. Insert a [quote] at the beginning of the next chunk of text you want to respond to. Repeat steps above. Obviously, remove the *'s when actually doing this. As long as you have a pair of quote brackets at the beginning and end of each quote section, it reads well. You just have to delete that first end quote when the response box first comes up.

MistressSassy66 -> RE: Being owned (9/7/2006 7:48:30 PM)
I dont think your missing anything. Would you marry someone without getting to know them? A collar is a commitment just like a marriage to Myself anyway. I made the mistake of putting a collar on too soon.Now I wait at least a year. For some they may never get a collar,even though they are committed,the need for a collar just isnt present.For others its important to not only be collared but branded aswell.To date the only one with a brand is My girl,bishop who is also My partner of 7 years. Welcome to CM [sm=hello.gif]

Casie -> RE: Being owned (9/7/2006 8:12:32 PM)
I agree usually waiting is best but whatever floats their boats I suppose

SusanofO -> RE: Being owned (9/8/2006 5:40:58 AM)
marietoo: Thanks! I really appreciate the help via your description. Thanks for taking the time. So nice of you. [:)] - Susan

Sunshine119 -> RE: Being owned (9/8/2006 5:58:31 AM)
Gemy, There is nothing wrong with you. I was in one other relationship in my life prior to the D/s relationship I am in right now. That lasted 22 years, of which I was married 20. My Dominant was married for 23 years. We have been together about 2 years now and still I am not "collared". Will I ever be? Who knows. Right now the 24/7, living together, D/s relationship that we have works. He is the King. I am the wench. No "collars of consideration" or any such stuff. We view collaring as forever. If and when it does happen, it will be for the rest of our lives. Soooooo......We are just taking all the time we need. Sunshine

gemy -> RE: Being owned (9/12/2006 10:37:11 AM)
DivaDutchess, smiles thank You for Your kind words,,,,, and,,, um,,, i am looking for a couple gem

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