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Another tip for subs seeking a Domme - 9/6/2006 4:02:37 PM

sissy

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I have developed tips that I post in one of the chatrooms and here is another one. I'm looking for comments from the Dommes or Mistresses here for improvements to these tips. This one goes as follows:

A Tip for subs who are looking for a Domme: Be yourself! Chat in the room and show you are a real person with intelligence. Being nice to the others in the room shows you have character. Communicate fully when asked and expand on it when necessary so She gets to know the real you.
Be respectful but don't treat Her with anything other than normal courtesy. If you push the courtesy it sounds phoney. Showing a willingness to please will give Her an idea of how well you would serve Her. Do Keep fantasy to a minimum as She is a real person looking for another real person. Think about this - if all you have in common with a Domme is the lifestyle, it isnt going to last.
Here's a question: Do you really expect within 20 mins of being in a chat room you are going to meet the One and ride off to Her dungeon?

Do you have any inputs Ladies?

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RE: Another tip for subs seeking a Domme - 9/6/2006 4:40:31 PM

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Sissy

I do believed you covered most of my peeves. Cant think of anything to add at this time.

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RE: Another tip for subs seeking a Domme - 9/6/2006 4:56:32 PM

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This is amazingly down to earth. Someone who adhered to the suggestions you've given would certainly get my attention.

I do enjoy someone being overly courteous, and think it can be genuine.

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RE: Another tip for subs seeking a Domme - 9/6/2006 5:22:45 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sissy
Do you have any inputs Ladies?
sissy

Make an effort to spell correctly and use proper grammar. Most of us want a sub who is intelligent. If you have bad spelling/grammar or dyslexia, tell us...we will understand and loosen our requirements.

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RE: Another tip for subs seeking a Domme - 9/6/2006 5:41:39 PM

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Dear sissy, Ladies and Gentlemen;

I think you did well in putting things down in your post and others have added wonderful suggestions as well.

In addition, being overly polite in a text chat room, can come off as sarcastic--unless, it stays consistant with everybody and not selective.
I would have a higher degree of respect in reserve, to give an additional 'punch' to catch 'the one' you're courting.

Being respectful of other's kinks. Bashing other's kinks doesn't help anybody but, back fires. I've seen people who are suppose to be community leaders, mostly dominants behave horrible in chat rooms and or think because they are title holders, that their word is above reproach. Respect and reputation are earned--title or not.

Don't forget to have fun. Fun doesn't mean to hurt other people's feelings but, share in common laughter and good times and, share sadness, giving support and most of all, take advantage of 'networking.'

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs

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RE: Another tip for subs seeking a Domme - 9/6/2006 6:07:19 PM

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Showing respect and consideration, is always a plus in my book.

It is a wonderful thing to see, that someone is addressing the issue of tact and character, when communicating in chat rooms.

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RE: Another tip for subs seeking a Domme - 9/7/2006 10:58:44 AM

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I was given the understanding that being polite and respectful was not just a requirement for the subs, but for A/all. I try to treat everyone with respect because it's just good manners and it does make a difference.

Of course, when boundaries and requirements are set between the Domme and her sub, then those are the rules to follow between them.

Basically, we are all human and I don't want to be treated like dirt or trash by anyone until we come to some kind of agreement where that will be our relationship.

There are times to assume the Lifestyle persona and times to be vanilla.

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RE: Another tip for subs seeking a Domme - 9/8/2006 5:54:55 AM

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I think you do a great job sissy

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