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RE: Apologetic Thoughts - 9/8/2006 2:44:34 AM

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All I have to say is, "Huh?"

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RE: Apologetic Thoughts - 9/8/2006 11:57:32 AM

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To twicehappy... she fucked up, did ya miss that part?

No i did not, the question however is relevant. Did she not ask his permission for changing her hair color, which in the case of some one just learning what a D/s relationship is would be a training issue, or did she go out and get laid which even an extremely new person should have understood was a big no no.

This is not about hair coloring, it's about fucking up... So why are many so keen on finding out the exact nature of her fuck up? That's just being fucking nosey... or an attempt to set the stage for repeating her fuck up... tell us what you did so we can tell you whether your dominant is right or wrong, LOL!

Re-read the chat she kindly quoted in the OP, and you will see the issues of her going behind his back, not respecting his judgement.... She fucked up by scond guessing her dominant!!!

Now all she really needs is for the "Uh Oh Squad"

to properly judge her dominant's judgements and then to kindly tell her that she was right for fucking up to begin with.... woohoo... that's really fucked up!

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RE: Apologetic Thoughts - 9/8/2006 12:06:54 PM

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LMAO!!! NastyDaddy right on the mark...but too funny....

Seriously though, sometimes when folks are learning from their fuck ups, this is how some, like the OP, express it while they are going through it. It comes out all unsorted and disorganized. Knowing the nature of the fuck up is basically to give others a measure of the intensity she may be experiencing. However, a fuck up is a fuck up and this behavior or reasoning will spill over into most other areas where a sub needs practice in being mindful of her dominants leadership and rule over her life.

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RE: Apologetic Thoughts - 9/8/2006 12:16:27 PM

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ORIGINAL: NastyDaddy

..... That's just being fucking nosey...

We can't be nosey here? Why can't we be nosey

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RE: Apologetic Thoughts - 9/8/2006 12:26:43 PM

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ORIGINAL: NastyDaddy

Re-read the chat she kindly quoted in the OP, and you will see the issues of her going behind his back, not respecting his judgement.... She fucked up by scond guessing her dominant!!!

Hmmm...some how i still see the need to know how , if she second guessed how much jelly he wanted on his toast or went behind his back and bought generic instead of Welchs, well then one of them is over reacting; if she second guessed on whether or not he really wanted a video of her doing the 5th Battalion for his birthday that is a much bigger issue.

Nosey, well if she was not looking for commentary or advice a public forum board was a poor choice to post the issue now wasn't it?

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RE: Apologetic Thoughts - 9/8/2006 12:36:09 PM

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fucking nosey...

Damn kids, fucking all day. And the names they have! Who names their kid "Nosey?"

With a name like that, I'd fuck up, too!

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RE: Apologetic Thoughts - 9/8/2006 12:42:07 PM

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ORIGINAL: twicehappy

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ORIGINAL: NastyDaddy

Re-read the chat she kindly quoted in the OP, and you will see the issues of her going behind his back, not respecting his judgement.... She fucked up by scond guessing her dominant!!!

Hmmm...some how i still see the need to know how , if she second guessed how much jelly he wanted on his toast or went behind his back and bought generic instead of Welchs, well then one of them is over reacting; if she second guessed on whether or not he really wanted a video of her doing the 5th Battalion for his birthday that is a much bigger issue.

Nosey, well if she was not looking for commentary or advice a public forum board was a poor choice to post the issue now wasn't it?

Funny how one found the single word "nosey" in my post... yet totally and consistently missed the nature of her fuck up which she spelled out for you..... that sends a vivid message of being "nosey". Perhaps conjuring up best-case/worst-case hypothetical scenarios based on something overlooked is not being "nosey", but rather a genuine heartfelt concern from identifying so deeply with only the few words one elects to give meaning to within the OP?

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RE: Apologetic Thoughts - 9/8/2006 12:46:32 PM

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RE: Apologetic Thoughts - 9/8/2006 5:18:17 PM

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ORIGINAL: twicehappy

Hmmm...some how i still see the need to know how , if she second guessed how much jelly he wanted on his toast or went behind his back and bought generic instead of Welchs, well then one of them is over reacting; if she second guessed on whether or not he really wanted a video of her doing the 5th Battalion for his birthday that is a much bigger issue.

Maybe W/we really don't need to know what it was..
you know, in my realm.. to fuck up is to fuck up, and Everything, and i do mean Everything is a hanging offense. By that i mean, i release is the "natural consequence". It wouldn't be dependant on the perceived severity of infraction.. Obedience is black and white, binary, on or off.. not greyscale.

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RE: Apologetic Thoughts - 9/8/2006 5:46:36 PM

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<~~~~~~~has nothing to add to this question as she is the perfect slave and has never fucked up

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RE: Apologetic Thoughts - 9/8/2006 6:10:01 PM

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ORIGINAL: Mavis

in my realm.. to fuck up is to fuck up, and Everything, and i do mean Everything is a hanging offense. By that i mean, i release is the "natural consequence". It wouldn't be dependant on the perceived severity of infraction.. Obedience is black and white, binary, on or off.. not greyscale.

Not in mine and i've been at this a long time. While it is not on or off there are always shades of grey. There is a difference in my second guessing whether or not to buy generic if there out of the name brand and my forgetting to buy anything at all.

I am guessing that it was fairly serious and also that this is an online relationship, other than the fact that she did something wrong there is no info to work with so it is hard to say.

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RE: Apologetic Thoughts - 9/8/2006 6:11:02 PM

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i'm not sure if the OP was just writing a journal or what or if this was a r/l or online relationship but she DID state what the f*** up was, she didn't trust His judgement. Period. Whether that was regarding hair color or seeing someone else or whatever the act isn't what matters, the motive and mindset behind the act does matter. i remember the first time i felt the cane was not because i'd forgotten His little instruction, heck i'd just worked 8 hours and drove 3.5 hours to see Him. The punishment was because i had been focused on me, not on Him. Had my focus been where it should have been, i would not have forgotten. It was a lesson i will never forget.

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RE: Apologetic Thoughts - 9/8/2006 6:53:47 PM

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What type of judgement? If I told a slave to buy root beer but didn't tell her what KIND ... I would expect her to use her best judgement. If He was not clear, then he over reacted ... if He was clear about what He had instructed her to do, then she screwed up. Suggestion ... move along and take care of the property (you). Learn from this mistake. If He decides not to release you, consider yourself lucky and trust his judgement from now on. If you are unclear on His instructions, open your mouth and ask. If He decides to release you, move on and learn. BTW ... did you get His permission to use his handle here?

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RE: Apologetic Thoughts - 9/8/2006 7:33:41 PM

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It was not your fault. It was the subtleties of speech that got you. Fuck it and all that.

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RE: Apologetic Thoughts - 9/8/2006 9:01:15 PM

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<~~~~~~~has nothing to add to this question as she is the perfect slave and has never fucked up

LMAO. Can i come sit by you til it rubs off on me?

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RE: Apologetic Thoughts - 9/8/2006 10:12:00 PM

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Awe like sand in an hour glass, these are the days of BDSM.

Tune in next week...when she annouces the fuck up she has done...(break into commercial)

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RE: Apologetic Thoughts - 9/8/2006 11:05:50 PM

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i remember quite vividly the first fuck up, and ahem the only FIRST fuck up *grin

i tried to forget it too! The second time i fucked up was when i mentioned this thought to Master...it was designed to be forever remembered he said... *sheesh! Dum brunette moments...

The third fuck up was when i questioned his judgement on the first two. Really dum brunette moment...

There have been no more, for now i wish to continue to remember...*grin Finally gets it...*grin

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RE: Apologetic Thoughts - 9/9/2006 4:11:43 AM

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What type of judgement? If I told a slave to buy root beer but didn't tell her what KIND ... I would expect her to use her best judgement. If He was not clear, then he over reacted ... if He was clear about what He had instructed her to do, then she screwed up. If you are unclear on His instructions, open your mouth and ask.

Thank you Diva, this is the point i was trying to get across.

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i remember quite vividly the first fuck up, and ahem the only FIRST fuck up
i tried to forget it too! The second time i fucked up was when i mentioned this thought to Master...it was designed to be forever remembered he said... The third fuck up was when i questioned his judgement on the first two. There have been no more, for now i wish to continue to remember...*grin Finally gets it...*grin

The point is we all screw up, especially when we are first starting out in the lifestyle or in a new relationship, that is how we learn. If he walks away from her on the first screw up he probably does not have the patience to teach her anyway.

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RE: Apologetic Thoughts - 9/9/2006 1:45:53 PM

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Take your punishment, learn from it and move on, but first please come back and tell us what your punishment was.

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RE: Apologetic Thoughts - 9/9/2006 3:03:43 PM

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Egads!!..I am thinking I need to know what the f***k up was now as well ,so that I may never do it!!!...Tempting

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