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MisPandora -> RE: finding the "One" (9/10/2006 5:42:28 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: njoyingdajourney you know..iv`e been on this site for a while and i have noticed that you are a very negative person.......try a little positivity once in a while............... Holy shit, it was a joke!!!! LOL

MisPandora -> RE: finding the "One" (9/10/2006 5:45:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sweetnurseBBW Maybe you need to review what your expectations are and if they are realistic. You dont have to settle but the "One" might be right in front of you. True there are lots of fakes and players about on these online sites but you have to weed through and find the real ones. After the break up with my former Master I waited a year before looking and then found my Master after a year of searching. I can say it was certainly worth the wait. I am very lucky to have found him but it took patience and perserverence. There's a thread on the general boards that addresses Expectations. It might be a good thing for the OP to take a look at and to do some self-evaluation.

njoyingdajourney -> RE: finding the "One" (9/10/2006 8:13:27 AM)
thanks i`ll look into it...and obviously my sense of humor is totally different from some folks on here..but hey we are all different aren`t we.......and thank God for that.......

cloudboy -> RE: finding the "One" (10/12/2006 7:36:45 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: jonathan Well, let's see, it took me about 15 years and many, many false starts before i found my Goddess. The time factor ought not to be such an issue, being and growing and patience ought to. you're in the right place on these boards and in Collarme for that. i have to back others about the Albatross, LA is one of the 'reality saints' here that keep all grounded. [Old Chinese proverb] I guess the question now is, what did you find? In the end it appears to me you found hope and inspiration on the upside and disappointment on the downside.

felineone -> RE: finding the "One" (10/12/2006 8:58:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: njoyingdajourney you know..iv`e been on this site for a while and i have noticed that you are a very negative person.......try a little positivity once in a while............... um..wow!

MasterNdorei -> RE: finding the "One" (10/12/2006 11:27:39 PM)
I was active in the lifestyle for more than 6 years before Master found me. If the profile you use now is attracting the kinds of responses you want, you may want to consider redoing it... adding a picture or two.... updating the pictures on a regular basis (give Doms a reason to bookmark your page)... writing and rewriting until the kind of Doms you want to attract are taking notice. Then your chances of amazing chemistry are much better... Just a few thoughts... Master's dorei

eyesopened -> RE: finding the "One" (10/13/2006 12:15:01 PM)
i am 53 years old. i have, to-date, not found "the One". Statistically i have a much better chance of being killed by terrorists or abducted by aliens, but silly me, i haven't stopped hoping i will "find the One" before either of the other two things happen laughs

MsKatHouston -> RE: finding the "One" (10/13/2006 12:56:22 PM)
quote: will "find the One" before either of the other two things happen laughs Who knows...maybe your "one" is an alien terrorist. Don't close yourself off to possibilities of the unexpected ;)

eyesopened -> RE: finding the "One" (10/13/2006 1:17:49 PM)
Hee hee!!! now which one does the anal probing??

RedSavageSlave -> RE: finding the "One" (10/13/2006 1:45:53 PM)
<Fast reply> I gave up searching for "The One" and am settling into my life with a family that has included me as one of theirs. I have responsibilities that keep me busy as well friends to make me smile on occasion. If there truly is a "One" for me.. He will have to come find me without my help.

michaelGA2 -> RE: finding the "One" (10/13/2006 1:58:17 PM)
i've been searching for over 10 years...not much luck here. good luck on your search.

TrueCalling -> RE: finding the "One" (10/13/2006 2:07:36 PM)
So many people, both male and female are so intent on finding 'the One'. I cannot help but wonder how many people have limited themselves and lost because of it. We can't dictate life, it happens in its own time.... The 'looking for' and 'searching for' to me, means that expectations are already in place and people only stand to be disappointed or 'settle' There is also a tendency in these instances for people to focus only on limited aspects of life relations and not the 'person' LOL, i've added 'the One' to my list of detested pre-coined cliches! cc

akisha -> RE: finding the "One" (10/13/2006 3:23:05 PM)
I'm with Celeste on this one. Though I've been looking for 15 years. I didn't just sit on the sidelines and wait, I jumped in the pool and played with the sea life weg Some people were a better fit then others. Some were never more then friends, others were causual playmates. Thing to realize is no one is going to come over and say "I'm the ONE for you" and lead you off into the sunset (or dungeon g) Just because a relationship doesn't last forever doesn't mean you don't learn alot while in it. The "One" i'm seeing now is probably the closest to my precieved Mr. Right that I have met so far, but again I'm not going to yell from the hill tops that He's the one and after only a couple months vow to be His for all eternity. One thing I've learned in life is everything happens in it's own time but you have to be there and active in your own life to actually make it happen cause sure the hell no one is going to do it for you. You could find the perfect "One" in a few months or in 30 years. No matter how hard you look. Being desperate to be owned by someone usually just means you are going to pick the wrong ones over and over again. just my 1.5 bits on the subject anyway G [:D]

MasterNdorei -> RE: finding the "One" (10/13/2006 8:48:31 PM)
After years of trying to find One who would Master me, i had given up and became willing to seek for One with whom i was merely compatiable... it was then that Master found me. i was 45, He was 56. Neither of U/us has been happier. Regardless of your ideal happiness, if your heart's desire seems out of reach at times, do not lose hope. Amazing things can happen when you least expect them! Humbly & Happily~* Master's dorei

masochistboy -> RE: finding the "One" (10/14/2006 3:09:12 AM)
i've been looking for "the One" for almost 2 years and i know it's not gonna happen till i'm older because not many People take young subs seriously. So just wait patiently and enjoy what you have or else you'll take it for granted.

afeathr -> RE: finding the "One" (10/14/2006 10:52:52 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: zero69u2 Murphy's Law.. the guy/gal your most attracted to will be furthest away from you. finding the one.. ohh this is one of them matrix questions.. first step is finding the bald black guy and taking the red pill. Don't wait for the One.. instead take a proactive approach and search for many possibilitys. another law of collar me : the one you don't email is the one that probably wanted to go out with you. That's why I emailed them all... :) Well... at least responded to all that wrote. I met Sir on Alt... and, in all truthfulness wasn't really "looking," but was... a dichotomy for sure. I've never been one to put a lot of stock in outside appearances because they will change with time. Too many people do that, and miss out on the best people that one could ever meet. I look for the "real person" no matter what they look like... with Sir, however ::sigh:: I got lucky. :) Sir has proven himself to be everything that I ever desired in a partner, and I could have screwed that up by being too "picky." I took my time. There was not the "instant click" that most people seek. I took my time to learn him, and have in the process learned to love him as well. We are a match on so many levels, and that's not something that one finds in a date or two. Patience is so important. I want to know my partner very well... and this time, I feel as though that is actually going to happen. The other thing - stop trying. The surest way to meet someone is to accept that it will happen when it happens. Easier said than done, I know... but it's the truth!!

littleone35 -> RE: finding the "One" (10/14/2006 12:51:36 PM)
I had just gotton activitky back to looking after my late Master died i was not up to looking. Finally i was ready to start looking again. A nice sub i met told me about CM so i thought why not give it a try. I met some nice Doms and some not so nice ones but i never felt that connection. I was on for about a year. I got a e mail from another Dom asking wher in NY i lived i responded back we started talking a few weeks later we met and that was it the connection i was looking for he felt it too 9 months later we are still together and happier then ever. Matt's littleone

LTRsubNW -> RE: finding the "One" (10/15/2006 5:59:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: njoyingdajourney how long have any of you waited to find the "One "you felt was right for you?.........it`s been over a year and although i have met many.......i can`t seem to find my "One"......sub annie. Like many, I've waited a lifetime (even as I didn't understand)...I found "The One"...(she and I disagreed lol on that aspect...but...ces la vie)....it's all good :) (It's always all good...because...the alternative sucks:) )

charismagirrl -> RE: finding the "One" (10/15/2006 6:38:42 PM)
i had a false start (well stop/start/stop/start/STOP) with my ex (we were trying to learn together and it just didn't work at all). i then spent a few years living a vanilla relationship with him and being a pro Domme (i wanted to see someone(s) getting what they were looking for if i wasn't) About 2 yrs ago i found CM and had a profile as a Domme. my curiosity got the better of me and i perused the profiles of Dom's in my state( because i was still just a trapped slave). i actually ran across my Daddy/Master's profile here but wasn't able to contact him due to my situation at the time (but a girl could still dream)...3 mos later i met him on a vanilla friends site and then it began. By that time the relationship i was in had run it's course and i was open to the idea of my Daddy... Now, i am his and he is the one i've always wanted and needed (even though i didn't know it for awhile)

Smythe -> RE: finding the "One" (10/15/2006 7:11:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LTRsubNW quote: ORIGINAL: njoyingdajourney how long have any of you waited to find the "One "you felt was right for you?.........it`s been over a year and although i have met many.......i can`t seem to find my "One"......sub annie. Like many, I've waited a lifetime (even as I didn't understand)...I found "The One"...(she and I disagreed lol on that aspect...but...ces la vie)....it's all good :) (It's always all good...because...the alternative sucks:) ) I actually have it on good authority that for each person on earth there are the Twenty-Three. That is the official number of people you can end up with and be perfectly happy. I have found several of mine by opening my eyes and looking for reasons to rule people in, instead of ruling them out. Smythe

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