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Thanks and sorry - 9/7/2006 11:35:11 AM

mogigo

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You were all right, even the dismissive ones. I apoligize to everyone for inflicting myself upon you, I blamed my submissiveness for the rape when really they are two different issues, I didn't even realize that my issues in life were caused by the rape not me being submissive. I won't be coming back at least not for a long time ( what, 30 - 40 years should plobably do it, eh. LOL) Hopefully I didn't burn too many bridges. Thanks and goodluck to everyone.

Mike

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RE: Thanks and sorry - 9/7/2006 11:41:19 AM

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This is really too bad.

I think his curiosity could have be slightly satisfied by continuing to interact here, he could have read various opinions and different experiences.

I don't think that cutting off one venue of information is necessary when one is recoverying or changing from past events. I personally found that it helped me.

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RE: Thanks and sorry - 9/7/2006 11:52:27 AM

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I do not see the reason to leave cm. If you find you are submissive then this is an excellent forum to learn that. The suggestions made to you were those made to most starting out in the BDSM world. Before you can give yourself to another or own another you must know yourself completly. This is something that many do not do, and they just jump into the kink and go for the ride, which in itself is fine if that is what you are looking for.

For those that feel this is a part of thier very being then you need to take time and soul search.

Self explortation is not always easy it can be painful, however it is rewarding in the end. Isnt anything worth doing usually hard?

As I believe I suggested take sometime to read the posts, read some educational books, online links, and also work on your own personal issues. We are not therapists, even if we were we would not be effective in this forum.

Sort yourself out and explore they can be done simultaneously.

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RE: Thanks and sorry - 9/7/2006 12:11:25 PM

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If your submissiveness is really a separate issue from your rape, why are you denying your submissive needs? Self punishment perhaps? Guilt? Explore yourself and, in the mean time, go to therapy to work through the rape issue.

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RE: Thanks and sorry - 9/7/2006 1:01:58 PM

MissyRane

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great I'm lost.............................................AGAIN! Does anybody have a compass??????????????????????????????????

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RE: Thanks and sorry - 9/7/2006 2:00:29 PM

jamesthehumanrug

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WHAT?!!! PULL YOUR SELF TOGETHER MAN;PICK YOURSELF UP ;DUST OFF;CONTINUE;CARRY ON;

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ORIGINAL: mogigo

You were all right, even the dismissive ones. I apoligize to everyone for inflicting myself upon you, I blamed my submissiveness for the rape when really they are two different issues, I didn't even realize that my issues in life were caused by the rape not me being submissive. I won't be coming back at least not for a long time ( what, 30 - 40 years should plobably do it, eh. LOL) Hopefully I didn't burn too many bridges. Thanks and goodluck to everyone.

Mike

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RE: Thanks and sorry - 9/7/2006 11:24:45 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mogigo

You were all right, even the dismissive ones. I apoligize to everyone for inflicting myself upon you, I blamed my submissiveness for the rape when really they are two different issues, I didn't even realize that my issues in life were caused by the rape not me being submissive. I won't be coming back at least not for a long time ( what, 30 - 40 years should plobably do it, eh. LOL) Hopefully I didn't burn too many bridges. Thanks and goodluck to everyone.

Mike

Why do I suspect that he's sought out professional help from someone who was NOT kink-aware?

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