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Toxicdreamgirl -> Need Dominance Training!!! (9/7/2006 1:21:42 PM)
Hello all. My girlfriend and I have been into this lifestyle for 3 years now, and I'd say we do a pretty good job. we're both switches. However we arent very good at domming eachother. We've tried and it just doesn't work. If there is a Master out there who would be willing to train us we'd be very happy. We live in The Rapid City, South Dakota area. If you want to ask questions just message me. thank you. TDG

mstrjx -> RE: Need Dominance Training!!! (9/7/2006 2:14:50 PM)
I believe there is a fitness trainer who doubles as a bondage trainer. A little south of you. Would that help?

CrappyDom -> RE: Need Dominance Training!!! (9/7/2006 2:23:01 PM)
If you are really 19 and pierced, I am sure there are about 1,500 men in SD who would love to work with you. Just pop into any BDSM group with application forms and I would suggest charging a fee too as you could make decent money at the same time. Seriously, if you were 40 you might have trouble finding someone but if you are 19, the only question will be finding a decent one.

LotusSong -> RE: Need Dominance Training!!! (9/7/2006 3:19:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Toxicdreamgirl Hello all. My girlfriend and I have been into this lifestyle for 3 years now, and I'd say we do a pretty good job. we're both switches. However we arent very good at domming eachother. We've tried and it just doesn't work. TDG Are you in need of ideas/techniques or did it just "not feel right"

Toxicdreamgirl -> RE: Need Dominance Training!!! (9/11/2006 3:22:39 PM)
I need ideas/techiniques, and yeah, it just doesn't feel right.

Totalmaster4you -> RE: Need Dominance Training!!! (9/12/2006 1:01:34 AM)
I presume both of you will be reading this so I'll try to direct this to both of you. I would suspect that it doesn't feel right because you are playing at it. It's my opinion that your one or the other at your core, your true self. You might have more success if you set it up as role play and each of you get into character. It may surprise you that you will expend a lot of energy in maintaining your character. Whoever plays the Dominant role should have it scripted but be ready to go off script for the subs reactions and then back on. If you'd like I'll be happy to try and coach you online or on the phone somewhere down the line. One last thing tho, change your expectations because it will never feel exactly right because you can't duplicate the aura exuded by a true Dominant and if you've ever been with one you know what I mean. So if you expect less you'll enjoy what you do get and appreciate each others efforts. If one of you has more Dom tendencies then let her be the Top. *Take care and have fun* *Master Alan[image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m21.gif[/image]*

Wolfie648 -> RE: Need Dominance Training!!! (9/12/2006 2:42:33 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Toxicdreamgirl Hello all. My girlfriend and I have been into this lifestyle for 3 years now, and I'd say we do a pretty good job. we're both switches. However we arent very good at domming eachother. We've tried and it just doesn't work. If there is a Master out there who would be willing to train us we'd be very happy. We live in The Rapid City, South Dakota area. If you want to ask questions just message me. thank you. TDG Then what are you switching at? D (owner of j)

Sirandlittle1 -> RE: Need Dominance Training!!! (9/14/2006 3:49:03 AM)
"*It's my opinion that your one or the other at your core, your true self. "* This sorta info grips my shit!!! Switches are switches, at their very core. They are both. Try posting to the 'ask a switch' forum. Much more insightful info to be had there and less dogma. From how to decide who's top/bottom, how you switch mid scene if you wish, lots of info there. This sorta crap is usually spouted by 'pure' Dominants who seem to be less 'rigid' when it comes accepting dual sexuality like say, bi-sexuality in their female submissive??? It could be that you are not bdsm compatable in some areas your trying to play in. Try to discuss activities where you are compatable, eg, enjoys being flogged with enjoys flogging. Learn to top and sub in these area's of compatability first, before you explore service topping or bottoming to feed the need of the other, without getting your fix yourself. *Is monogamy a limit for you both? If not, perhaps you could consider which activities you could enlist help with from a service top or bottom.* Being a switch is not the easiest of paths at times. There are ways to address all of your needs, you just have to find a way that suits you both and is agreeable. Communicate with each other why you didnt submit on a session, despite agreeing to do so? What was it that prevented you from holding up your end of the bargain. Same as a M/s D/s or whatever relationship, you both have to tango to the same tune for it to work. *Good luck, with whatever you decide to do. Its not easy, but sure is a shit load of fun when it goes right.* Totallymaster4u, i realise that you maybe a 'total' top/master/dom etc. But please be willing to accept, that not everyone is either one or the other. Some of us are all/both/neither. The title of Dom, or sub, is thrust upon us switches, by others. when for me and many others like me, why the heck would you deny yourself fun, from any bloody consenting angle you can get, and to hell with what others wish to label you? Language, both verbal and non, is the only way we have to communicate what we are to others, that does not make it accurate. *littleone*

Toxicdreamgirl -> RE: Need Dominance Training!!! (9/15/2006 3:20:14 PM)
Wow lots of responses. We'll sit down tonight and talk about it. I think my main problem is that I like to dominate women, and be dominated by men. this is the case most of the time. I'd be glad to accept the offer of online training. TDG

Tamerofwild1s -> RE: Need Dominance Training!!! (9/15/2006 3:38:09 PM)
quote: This sorta info grips my shit!!! *now this shit is funny as fuck . I spewed my coffee when I saw that line.*

losttreasure -> RE: Need Dominance Training!!! (9/16/2006 12:10:21 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CrappyDom Seriously, if you were 40 you might have trouble finding someone but if you are 19, the only question will be finding a decent one. blinks Seriously?

FirmhandKY -> RE: Need Dominance Training!!! (9/16/2006 12:24:16 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: losttreasure quote: ORIGINAL: CrappyDom Seriously, if you were 40 you might have trouble finding someone but if you are 19, the only question will be finding a decent one. blinks Seriously? I think he got the numbers reversed. FHky

DivaDuchess -> RE: Need Dominance Training!!! (9/16/2006 9:22:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CrappyDom Seriously, if you were 40 you might have trouble finding someone but if you are 19, the only question will be finding a decent one. -------------------------------------------------------------- Tell me you didn't just say that? .... lol ... I'm hoping you got the keys screwed up and mean to put 40 where 19 is and visa versa. Right? giggles

primeslave -> RE: Need Dominance Training!!! (9/16/2006 9:28:32 PM)
if you like them young then you should just say so in your profile. just because a woman is over 40 does not mean she is ugly. i have seen some absolutely beautiful older women that i would love to look like when i get to be their age. Cher being one of them. and i have 12 years yet to be her age...... quote: ORIGINAL: CrappyDom If you are really 19 and pierced, I am sure there are about 1,500 men in SD who would love to work with you. Just pop into any BDSM group with application forms and I would suggest charging a fee too as you could make decent money at the same time. Seriously, if you were 40 you might have trouble finding someone but if you are 19, the only question will be finding a decent one.

Toxicdreamgirl -> RE: Need Dominance Training!!! (9/17/2006 1:47:51 PM)
yeah, i think the only real reason anyone goes for a 19year old is because it's fresh meat....especially in my case, i am still a virgin. and actually older women have more experience, people should go for them. i think if you want someone that young you just want them to be a concubine, or to mold them to your liking. TDG

owneddesire -> RE: Need Dominance Training!!! (9/17/2006 11:01:14 PM)
I definatly need ideas. They only other person that I've had anal with was my last boyfriend. The person that I'm with now is lets say, very well hung, and my ex was, ehh, could make some people laugh. Anal hurts with the guy I'm with now, how do I go about having anal and having it feel awesome?

MagiksSlave -> RE: Need Dominance Training!!! (9/19/2006 8:53:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Totalmaster4you I presume both of you will be reading this so I'll try to direct this to both of you. I would suspect that it doesn't feel right because you are playing at it. It's my opinion that your one or the other at your core, your true self. You might have more success if you set it up as role play and each of you get into character. It may surprise you that you will expend a lot of energy in maintaining your character. Whoever plays the Dominant role should have it scripted but be ready to go off script for the subs reactions and then back on. If you'd like I'll be happy to try and coach you online or on the phone somewhere down the line. One last thing tho, change your expectations because it will never feel exactly right because you can't duplicate the aura exuded by a true Dominant and if you've ever been with one you know what I mean. So if you expect less you'll enjoy what you do get and appreciate each others efforts. If one of you has more Dom tendencies then let her be the Top. *Take care and have fun* *Master Alan[image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m21.gif[/image]* Ok Master is going to toast my tush for this but I cant just pass this by and not say anything. Im sorry Sir but you are so full of shit!!!! spouting garbage about true Doms and such!!! They are what they are all the way to the core!! Magik's slave

joyinslavery -> RE: Need Dominance Training!!! (9/19/2006 9:31:41 PM)
The trolling on these boards is absolutely out of control. Then again it probably always has been. Where's a Mod when you need one?

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