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FemDom Party - 9/7/2006 9:41:05 PM

GirlyDevil

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Ok, I know I have many questions but this one is puzzeling to me. Next week there is a femdom fetish party and I have chosen my sub to go with me. I guess you can say that this post also refers to gifts but in a different way. Should I have my sub buy the head of the house a small token? Or should we just show up and have fun?

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RE: FemDom Party - 9/7/2006 10:16:07 PM

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Wouldn't say gifts are mandatory but as someone who has run a number of bdsm parties, private and public, it is always a nice surprise to receive a gift of genuine appreciation from a guest ....but if you do desire to take something for the host and if either of you are creative fashion a birch whip or something ... or something she/he may find useful ... like a foot massage oil...or leathercare soap ... etc ... hope you have a wonderful time :)

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RE: FemDom Party - 9/8/2006 8:29:58 AM

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If this is a private party that is not accepting donations or a fee but is more like a gathering of friends, I would treat it like a gathering of friends and bring a bottle of wine or flowers like you would if going to dinner somewhere. I know of no situation where being a good guest, having good manners and surprising a host with a token of appreciation is inappropriate. Have fun :)

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RE: FemDom Party - 9/8/2006 8:36:01 AM

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Thank you to both for the suggestions

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RE: FemDom Party - 9/15/2006 11:41:32 AM

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a "hostess gift" is certainly a great idea and oldfashion common courtesy! When accompaning my Mistress to a gathering that is private i always take the iniative and do. It reflects well on you and of course on your Mistress

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RE: Fem Dom Party - 9/15/2006 11:48:17 AM

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Just don't bring a toaster!~ EVERYBODY wants to bring a TOASTER.. (I suggest a blender)

I've had gathering where a single rose was presented by the Dom's submissive on their behalf. Nice and simple.

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RE: FemDom Party - 9/15/2006 2:09:43 PM

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Dear GirlyDevil, Ladies and Gentlemen;

Old fashioned courtesy is lovely to maintain but, if you start the trend, other dominants will expect to have you apply it to them as well, when they host a femdom party.

That said, most scene participants don't 'drink and whip,' so wine or other spirits, liquors and such are waved off. Sometimes, giving a private note prior to the party, as to find out what they can use might be helpful. Most times flowers, box of chocolates or something small that can be shared with the guests as well as the host/hostess works nicely.

The gift should be something that isn't expensive. If one gives an expensive gift, it really hurts other gift giver's feelings. So, perhaps using a $5.00-$10.00 limit for a gift will be something that may keep it enjoyable to do.

After the party, a thank you note is also much appreciated.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
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RE: FemDom Party - 9/15/2006 4:29:00 PM

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ORIGINAL: GirlyDevil

Ok, I know I have many questions but this one is puzzeling to me. Next week there is a femdom fetish party and I have chosen my sub to go with me. I guess you can say that this post also refers to gifts but in a different way. Should I have my sub buy the head of the house a small token? Or should we just show up and have fun?

You know what I would really value and did value when I threw a play party?

Help.

Contact this person and offer you and your partner as help to clean up or set up. Maybe even ask if you can bring some snacks.

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