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cillatwhite -> RE: help needed (1/8/2005 11:05:41 AM)
We tend to talk about there only being one type of relationship between sub and dom ( me ) . I would like to offer a dissenting point of view . I am a mature tgirl who is a switch tri gendership if that makes sense gender is such a limiting label do not believe in labels either I belive in positive dominance the sub determines what she needs to please her and the domme role is to carry out that pleasuring there should be negotiation in essence the sub although being submissive is in fact in control this gives the domme a huge responsibility rather than the sub wearing a collar I believe in the exchange of collars , signifying their bonds there should be a great deal of communication between all parties to a relationship to agree on what is acceptable communication communication communication hope you find this interesting huggs and kisses cilla

proudsub -> RE: help needed (1/8/2005 11:41:10 AM)
quote: If you have to bend over backwards to have a realtime relationship, do it! It's beats bending over backwards in front of your computer! True, but bending over backwards in front of your computer for the right person beats not doing it all. IMHO

Mercnbeth -> RE: help needed (1/8/2005 2:21:49 PM)
quote: I only wanted some help, and I am grateful to the people who are a bit more understanding and not so pompous as to feel that their way is the only way. Pompous? Just trying to help. 42 naked, alone, by the glow of a computer screen - was that the image of 'romance' you had at 16? 21? 30? 40? Exactly when did that idea become attractive? Real.... If not now - when?

colonicegirl17 -> RE: help needed (1/12/2005 10:14:58 PM)
Boo, with my experiences in the past (3 to 4 years) i've had to have a safty word with my Doms. with my curent Dom all i have to do is give an explination even if it's just "i don't feel comfertable doing this because...." then he decides weither or not it's a fair explination and will ask if i'm ok with something else. i believe that from my experiences Dom's should respect their sub(s) if it's just for sex then that's not a true Dom/sub relationship make sure there is more than just sex. i know there are a lot of Dom's out there who are just in the lifestyle because they can control and not be refused. i do not refuse my Dom don't misunderstand that but i am allowed to make suggestions and ask if something can be adjusted so i'm comfertable with it. maybe you need to sit down with you Dom and see what He thinks of you suggesting other things or asking for adjustments. i might become of as disobedent and such but i'm not i've just been in a lot of Dom/sub relationships where all the Dom demanded and wanted was sexual pleasure that isn't even close to fully what a Dom/sub relationship is supposed to be. i hope this helps. Good luck and do what your comfertable with.

onceburned -> RE: help needed (1/13/2005 12:01:16 AM)
hi cilla, welcome to the forums. You have interesting ideas (I am too much of a novice to comment on them) and I hope you'll find a home here so you will continue to share your thoughts with us. Chris

darkinshadows -> RE: help needed (1/13/2005 3:00:02 AM)
Everyone has different ideas about whats right and what isnt. Boos happy where he/she is right now in a place thats safe enough for her/him. In time... they may find online isnt enough and move onto the realtime. It might not be right for others, but so what as long as they are happy? It can be discussed that online is different to real time. But then, for example, Mercnbeth's relationship is totally different to Inside and cynns and my Masters and I is different to someone elses. Individuallity is what makes life so interesting!

submise -> RE: help needed (1/13/2005 6:15:03 AM)
I've had online D/s relationships. As a matter of fact, that's the only kink I've had so far. And I won't take on another online Mistress ever again. It's just too damn frustrating. Not to be able to touch, smell, taste, feel, etc... But that's not the point. It is in my opinion that your master isn't asking too much from you. It seems like a simple request to me. Peeing is a natural body function and if it turns him on and you want to make him happy, just do it. I'm sure he has much more humiliating tasks for you to do in later days. So be brave, feed on the humiliation. I'm sure it will get easier each time you do it. Once again, just my opinion.

colonicegirl17 -> RE: help needed (1/13/2005 11:15:48 AM)
i didn't mean to offend anyone on here but i've been in the type of D/sub where it was fully sexual and now i've found a Dom that sex isn't even a factor and i much prefer this relationship over any in the past. after being abused and such for so long it wears on the sub. this is all my opinion how ever and i'm just trying to help. everyone might think i'm to young to know this stuff but i understand it more than others. my advice and help is freely offered and if others don't like it then that's their choice.

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