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inquiring - 9/8/2006 6:01:29 AM   
njoyingdajourney


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Status: offline 		when You first meet a submissive..........what is the #1 thing that gives You an indication that there could be potential for a relationship? thank-You......
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RE: inquiring - 9/8/2006 6:19:55 AM   
mstrjx


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Status: offline 		It seems ludicrous, maybe not.

Since you describe a 'meeting', I'm assuming you mean in person.

At that point, one gets a sense of physical attraction, or not.  Is that potential for a relationship?  Perhaps not.  But it might be enough to disqualify a relationship.

Jeff

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RE: inquiring - 9/8/2006 6:59:10 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		They are on time or early.

I don't have a list of "Yes" and "Nos" unless it's something extreme.  I just keep a running clipboard of notes about the person and see if that, combined with timing and chemistry and intuitions fit together to go wherever it is we feel like going. 

I also don't go into meeting EXPECTING or LOOKING for a particular connection.

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RE: inquiring - 9/8/2006 7:47:29 AM   
njoyingdajourney


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Status: offline 		thank-you Jeff and LA......

< Message edited by njoyingdajourney -- 9/8/2006 7:48:06 AM >

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RE: inquiring - 9/8/2006 8:01:44 AM   
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Status: offline 		I dont honestly think there is one thing, it is a series of things that may happen simultaneously.  They vary from appearance to demenor (sp?) to similar/dissimilar likes wants needs desires.

I think some of that adds to the cant put my finger on the chemistry spark.

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RE: inquiring - 9/8/2006 8:28:01 AM   
LadyHugs


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Status: offline 		Dear njoyingdajourney, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
I also must assume you mean, as to have a first face to face meeting, what gives me indications of what a possible relationship may blossom.
 
Over all behavior and attitude.  The questions they ask.  What experiences they want from it and, if it is driven by sex or fantasy or spirit of a relationship--as Master/Mistress-slave.
 
What hangs things up for me, is that I am not looking for a husband right off the bat, I am not a bedroom dominant but, a lady who is dominant all the time but, may appear passive.  I also don't look for 'do me' types or social butterflies. 
 
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs

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RE: inquiring - 9/8/2006 8:38:21 AM   
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Status: offline 		For me, it's a feeling...an intiution, perhaps...something I call "a hit". It doesn't always mean that it will develop, only that there is something that presents itself as potential.

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RE: inquiring - 9/8/2006 3:05:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		If it has already been established that she is submissive, I try to get to know if she has similar values and interests with me. That is more important if you are looking for a relationship. 

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RE: inquiring - 9/9/2006 5:40:36 AM   
njoyingdajourney


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Status: offline 		thank-You Estring......and a relationship is what i am looking for....definetely.

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RE: inquiring - 9/9/2006 5:53:14 AM   
Manawyddan


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Status: offline 		The same things I would look for from a vanilla partner: physical attraction, intelligence, and the ability to make me laugh. Anything else can be negotiated.

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RE: inquiring - 9/9/2006 8:40:37 AM   
TopCurious0


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Status: offline 		Can we actually hold an interesting and engaging conversation together.

If I don't find her interesting, and I don't think she finds me interesting, then I suspect there is not much interesting that would ever happon beyond casual play.


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RE: inquiring - 9/9/2006 9:29:05 AM   
LadyWhisper


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When I first meet someone and I get that tingling feeling inside, I know there is always something there.
Trust your insight on these types of things.
Then as the conversations go, you will then see more and more of what could happen. But if the conversations sour, nevermind the spark get the hell out of there.

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RE: inquiring - 9/9/2006 9:36:10 AM   
angelic


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Status: offline 		The first time i met Master (r/l), it was clear there was the physical attraction between us... but He tells me when He knew i was submissive to Him was when we walked out of the restaurant and He said He had left His sun glasses inside and started to go back for them, and i took off like a shot to run in and get them for Him so He wouldn't have to..

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RE: inquiring - 9/9/2006 5:40:04 PM   
Guest
 Musch like most answers, the ability to talk to the person and if they seem intelligent and have the ability to have a conversation.  Also its pretty easy to see early if they are just playing games or are serious, casue if they are just playing games then theres no time for that.


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RE: inquiring - 9/9/2006 6:43:00 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: njoyingdajourney

when You first meet a submissive..........what is the #1 thing that gives You an indication that there could be potential for a relationship? thank-You......
sub annie.


I enjoyed interacting with her.  Of course.. that only indicates potential for a relationship.  The next question thou is what kind of relationship is there potential for?

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RE: inquiring - 9/9/2006 9:32:53 PM   
LoganStrange


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Status: offline 		The first thing is that she doesn't act like a sub with me, I don't own her yet, so we are equals.

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RE: inquiring - 9/9/2006 9:38:37 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		Chemistry.  IT is usually unmistakeable when it is, or isnt, there. After you know if there is some sort of connection, then you decide where you might want to take it.

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RE: inquiring - 9/10/2006 5:38:01 AM   
LordODiscipline


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RE: inquiring - 9/10/2006 5:58:14 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: njoyingdajourney

when You first meet a submissive..........what is the #1 thing that gives You an indication that there could be potential for a relationship? thank-You......
sub annie.

1. Do they lose themself when they're with me?
2. Do we have anything other than SM to talk about?

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RE: inquiring - 9/10/2006 8:17:42 AM   
njoyingdajourney


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Status: offline 		thank-you.....all great responses and gives me much to ponder about.....annie

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