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ORIGINAL: MLskajira

is it just this girl and the slaves she knows, or do all slaves find themselves letting their hair down a bit more when they are left to their own devices?
this girl and her slave friends have times when we are allowed to be unobserved that we do some of the small things our Master's will not allow in Their presance.
this girl is in a 24/7 and sometimes it is hard to maintain constantly so when Master allows her to have a sleep over, or to go out with one of her slave friends she will occasionally smoke more or have a couple of alcoholic drinks. this is something her Master rarely allows.
this girl is only human and like everyone else, she needs a vacation at times, even if it is only a couple of hours or one night, where she can do pretty much as she wishes. she knows what her Master expects of her and doesnt step too far over the line, she would never, intentionally disgrace her Master.
do her slight indescretions make her a "bad" slave, even though afterwards she is more relaxed in her service and more attentive to her duties?

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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

However, I am concerned by the idea of feeling one must be "on" or different than when apart. Regardless of wether we are alone or with our significant other, I feel we should always be ourselves. If I or my significant other,  have to be "on" in each other's presence then I would question wether or not the relationship was working well. Granted I look at it from the perspective of a 24/7 relationship and not just occasional play also. That might make a difference.

Just the few thoughts to consider with regards to this.  Being "On" does not neccessarily mean that we are putting on a coat that covers the person underneath.  It doesn't need to mean that we wear this coat in the heat of the sun and then after a time to take it off so we do not over heat.

It can mean that when we are called upon.. we are there as required.

IE... When I go to work... I am "On" ... my focus is on my job... that is what I am paid to do.  yes other aspects are their and on occassion it may take priority.  But, my time is focused on the job.  In my job... many aspects of myself doesn't become exercised.  My interactions are different.. I am demonstrating different behaviors in my work environment compared to my home life.. but my personal character and personality doesn't change.

This to me could be consider similiar to a the Masters/Doms - slaves/subs of the world as well.  When we are in our intimate D/s interactions... we have certain demonstrated behaviors that are the norm of the relationship.  These same demonstrated behaviors are not often completely demonstrated in every situations.  Yes some are.. but not all.  However,  our Character and personality is not something we just take off and put on.

So.. "Being On"  may reflect about exercising the appropriate behaviors in the appropriate situation.  My girls are very much "On" when i am around in showing the right behaviors that I want.  However, some of these behaviors are specific to me and if I am not there.. then they don't do them.  IE... don't enter a room ahead of me.  guess if I am not there... they will be waiting along time to go into the room.  But, I do expect that to always "Be On" with regards to their character/personality regardless if I am around or not.