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Ideas for slaves - 1/8/2005 5:18:14 AM

bdsandm

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I have been a dom for sometime now. I have only had experiences with submissives. Currently, a slave girl has been trying for my attention but, I dont have complete experience owning a slave. I would like slave out there or doms to help me with ideas on how to treat my slave and things I can have her do.

Also more punishment ideas would be nice.

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RE: Ideas for slaves - 1/8/2005 5:40:47 AM

nella

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i just wanted to write the obious here, to own a slave is a heck of alot more responsibility than haveing a relationship whit a sub, it is not just aboute having a girl whit no limits.

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RE: Ideas for slaves - 1/8/2005 7:53:48 AM

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In my opinion you do the same as you are now. Considering the definition of slave and submissive nobody can agree upon. The definition is whatever you desire it to be.
Why don't you ask the female you are speaking to what her definition of slavery is and how it differs from a submissive.
Perhaps in your mind it will be the same as a submissive.

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RE: Ideas for slaves - 1/8/2005 7:54:50 AM

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bdsandm,
First - what nella is absolutely right, and you should consider it.

Do you know the old saying about going into an exclusive store and seeing something that looks great, that you'd love to have but doesn't have the price displayed? The adage is if you have to ask - you can't afford it. I'd suggest if you have to ask how to own a slave, or how to take care of a slave; you shouldn't have one.

Glean some more experience, make sure a slave is what you want. More basic, make sure you know what a slave is. Don't be afraid to discuss this with the person who, you say, is trying to get your attention. Imagine the respect you'll achieve if you actually admit - not knowing. Confidence is one of the key traits of a Master. Admitting 'I don't know' to yourself and people who are important to you is an expression of confidence.

The physical part - floggers, paddles, single tails, Japanese robe bondage tricks, is all fluff compared to the mental conditioning. Know yourself intimately, definitely know what you want, then you won't need someone else's "Ideas for slaves".

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RE: Ideas for slaves - 1/9/2005 11:35:49 AM

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*nods big to Merc & beth* One would not purchase and begin taking a boat out without understanding the waterways and the necessities of being a boat owner... same with owning a slave.... this one would certainly suggest spending much more time ensuring You have the knowledge and basic understanding of slave psychology before taking on such a responsibility... this is not the same kind of responsibility One may surmise as having to deal with the attention-loving brat or even the masochistic pain-slut... there is just a huge difference in the mindsets of the submissives and the slaves....

and while You may ask for punishment ideas, the simple understanding is that the most severe punishment for slaves is just knowing that their Masters are disappointed in them is so much more than just a mind-phuck... even a stern look can cause a slave feel simply abhorant about a deed done or undone....

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RE: Ideas for slaves - 1/10/2005 5:08:14 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: darlyn

*nods big to Merc & beth* One would not purchase and begin taking a boat out without understanding the waterways and the necessities of being a boat owner... same with owning a slave.... this one would certainly suggest spending much more time ensuring You have the knowledge and basic understanding of slave psychology before taking on such a responsibility... this is not the same kind of responsibility One may surmise as having to deal with the attention-loving brat or even the masochistic pain-slut... there is just a huge difference in the mindsets of the submissives and the slaves....

and while You may ask for punishment ideas, the simple understanding is that the most severe punishment for slaves is just knowing that their Masters are disappointed in them is so much more than just a mind-phuck... even a stern look can cause a slave feel simply abhorant about a deed done or undone....

*NODS to all

The worst punishment this girl ever endured was silence.

i wish to also add ~ i believe the deeper a girl goes into the levels of submission, the more responsiblity and accountabilty is involved.
With this said, not all involved could or might be or would be ready for this.
O/one must know themselves well.

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RE: Ideas for slaves - 1/10/2005 6:51:31 AM

nella

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When you deside to have a child, it is a enormous responsibilty, becouse for the next two decades, that person is going to be more or less dependant on you. It is the same whit a slave, if it is truly a slave, so one that wish to give up all controll of thir life to you, you will be responsibel for them, even if they can feed and clothe themself, somthing a smal child can not, they are no less of a responsibility. It is sudderly your reposibility that they are happy, that they have all they need, i can imagine it can be fun, but it is also one heck of a responibility to carry.

my humble opinion is to get more comfortabel in the role as Dom before you take on the role as Master. But ofcourse it is not realy my buisniss.

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RE: Ideas for slaves - 1/10/2005 8:51:01 AM

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I would have to agree with Gloria. Each of you should define what the words mean to you. And see where the differences are. And what would be different from what you have done in the past to what her expectations are. Some subs are managed where food, clothes, work al lof their life is under the Dom/es say so, to some that is a slave. Figure out what they mean and then see whats different then you can proceed in a more informed manner.

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RE: Ideas for slaves - 1/10/2005 6:58:47 PM

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quote:

I would like slave out there or doms to help me with ideas on how to treat my slave and things I can have her do.

I agree with what others have said about the responsibilities of owning a slave. Being a Master is a serious committment. And it can require a great deal of time and energy.

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RE: Ideas for slaves - 1/13/2005 10:30:34 PM

servantnj

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if you need help with ideas on how to treat your slave, maybe you should ask yourself first, are you ready to own one?

make it simple, if i dont know how to drive a car, why should i own one. i know it is more complicated, but this is simple version of it. sorry,

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