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question for Masters/ dom - 9/10/2006 1:19:27 AM

slavejlb

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Greetings to you Sirs. girl prays you are well this night.
she has a simple question for you. You have broken up with your slave, you have pictures of her, and also she is listed not only here but on your yahoo. is it unrespoable for her to ask that you destory all pictures both dig. and hard copy, along with not only for her but for you too, block her from contacting you on all your sites as she blocks you this way all ties are broken
take care and be safe
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RE: question for Masters/ dom - 9/10/2006 2:35:35 AM

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It isn't out of order for you to ask, but just realise that he is under no obligation to do so

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RE: question for Masters/ dom - 9/10/2006 3:19:18 AM

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you could certainly ask. i don't know your dom.
I think by not asking for pictures your not provoking a situation and he's more likely to just delete them and move on.*if he thinks you don't care about pictures then he's less likely to stir up situation.* If he asked for his pictures back i'd definately ask for yours back*

blocking or removing or changing identitys online.. easy solutions. blocking phone numbers on phone costs a bit but is worth it if your being harrassed.

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RE: question for Masters/ dom - 9/10/2006 4:49:55 AM

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It's not unreasonable to ask, no!

But I probably wouldn't as no matter what ultimately transpired between us, they are still from a part of my own life. However, those who know me, esp that intimately, also know that I'm essentially a private and principled person and I'd never do anything improper, hurtful or disrespectful with any personal material or confidences. Nor have I ever blocked (or been blocked) a former sub, either! I don't work in "absolutes"; if it's over then so be it but I'm still able to be civil and friendly with all my past partners - BDSM or nilla. Just don't need symbolic barriers....

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RE: question for Masters/ dom - 9/10/2006 6:02:26 AM

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I tidy up things from the past, recent as well as long ago. That would go for pictures as well as ID's on messenger lists.

I don't block; I just don't expect to communicate again.

It's very simple, you're either in, or you're out. There isn't much in-between.

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RE: question for Masters/ dom - 9/10/2006 10:12:25 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Focus50

It's not unreasonable to ask, no!

But I probably wouldn't as no matter what ultimately transpired between us, they are still from a part of my own life. However, those who know me, esp that intimately, also know that I'm essentially a private and principled person and I'd never do anything improper, hurtful or disrespectful with any personal material or confidences. Nor have I ever blocked (or been blocked) a former sub, either! I don't work in "absolutes"; if it's over then so be it but I'm still able to be civil and friendly with all my past partners - BDSM or nilla. Just don't need symbolic barriers....

Focus.

What he said.

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RE: question for Masters/ dom - 9/12/2006 7:08:10 PM

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why must it be all or nothing? I have had a few submissives in my time on this earth, and although a few of them do not talk to me much at all anymore, I try to remain friends with all of them. Just because the chemistry for romance is gone, doesn't mean there's no chemistry at all.

If you ask, or request, then its understandable, but as others have said before me, it's up the other person to make the choice.

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RE: question for Masters/ dom - 9/12/2006 7:14:14 PM

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I dont think its wrong to ask. I stil have pictures from former subs, and former lovers. They are al stored away somewhere, backed up on CDs or hard copies stashed in photoboxes in the back of storage sheds. Had they wanted them back, I would have easily oblidged.
Asking them to block your IM is a little silly, though. Just remove the name from your list, and you wont see it and wont talk to them. If neitehr of you initiates contact, there is no real reason to block them.

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RE: question for Masters/ dom - 9/12/2006 8:59:15 PM

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IMO..and from another thread from this OP..I am thinking in her own way she is striving fro her own closure since one was probably not provided to her..so hence she is requesting for pics to be gone of their lives and blocks to be set ...her closure her way...a way I am supposing of reclaiming back her power...do what you feel is right for you..Tempting

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RE: question for Masters/ dom - 9/13/2006 11:43:35 AM

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if you asked me I would agree and send you back yourt pictures<wink> ... but like others have said . that was a part of my life I am entitled to remeber if I choose to. if someone wants me blocked they may do so . I don't go out of my way to do the blocking as most subs and slaves have remained friends with me and often still come back to ask my opinion of a situation.

but thats just me

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RE: question for Masters/ dom - 9/13/2006 1:09:40 PM

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The moment you give out photos or video of yourself you have no control over what is done with them. Can you ask for them back? Sure, though there is no gaurantee you will get them ALL back.

Along time ago I learned this lesson with my ex-husband, if I didn't want someone's grubby lil hands on them after the fact, or when our relationship was over, then I simply didn't give them during our relationship.

As far as blocking him, that is your right. Just as it is your right to tell them " Don't contact me again. " Personally I think it's a tad extreme other than rare circumstances but you must life your life as you see fit and healthiest for you but remember others are not obligated to your standards or expectations.

edited to add: How many would truly beleive if their ex told I destroyed all the pictures, porno movies we made, ect as you asked?

< Message edited by Phoenixandnika -- 9/13/2006 1:11:10 PM >

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RE: question for Masters/ dom - 9/13/2006 1:15:59 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Focus50

It's not unreasonable to ask, no!

But I probably wouldn't as no matter what ultimately transpired between us, they are still from a part of my own life. However, those who know me, esp that intimately, also know that I'm essentially a private and principled person and I'd never do anything improper, hurtful or disrespectful with any personal material or confidences. Nor have I ever blocked (or been blocked) a former sub, either! I don't work in "absolutes"; if it's over then so be it but I'm still able to be civil and friendly with all my past partners - BDSM or nilla. Just don't need symbolic barriers....

Focus.

I have to agree with this. Reminds me of getting the family albums out and cutting the faces of the ex out. Not something I have ever felt the need to do. I remain on friendly terms with my ex's. We don't really hang out or anything but we can have some long phone conversations catching up with each others lives on occasion.

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RE: question for Masters/ dom - 9/13/2006 4:43:02 PM

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Once it's over, it's over. Hit delete and expect your signifigant other to do so as well. The dynamics that led to this situation or place in your life are secondary now only to your own personal sense of well being, which involves deleting this material. For you I know its a matter of wanting - for him, a matter of personal integrity.

Just my two cents, I am not here to argue back and forth with anyone. I did what I would ( and have ) done in that kind of circumstance. I can't speak for others though, As I am at an entirely different place in my journey.

Good luck

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